INTRODUCTION

"What are the things you did as a child or was done to you as a child that you won't do to your child today."

I disgust dissociation & segregation as a parent.....

Disassociation and segregation are two similar which all relate to disconnecting someone from something or denying him from doing something. They are environmental factors that we practice in our Communities. Children who are the most vulnerable in the societies are the most affected groups who suffer when it comes to dissociation and segregation.

I am the kind of person who grew from a small Community with a small family. I always don't feel ashamed anywhere I stand. Even though I was deprived with so many good things in life. My basic school and even my secondary school life all were spent in village. I wasn't fortunate to grow under the custody of my biological parent since they pass out when I was kindergarten. I was left to stay with my Auntie ( My father's sister) who is very hash when it comes to treatment and weaning of children. I wouldn't say she is that kind of cruel or greedy person since some of her lifestyle also helped me.

This cruel treatment acts to me led me frightened anytime I see her or doing something. I would be shivering when I was doing something that even I can do it better without any enforcement. My Auntie used to confined me in the house without being in the midst of my colleagues even when they were playing. My Auntie's mindset was to always engage me in tedious activity.

It's kinda reflecting in my facial expressions of being introvert and even my friends call me by that Nick name - "Anti-so"...( short form of antisocial)

Insulting, the immoral behavior that I would not entertain in my house.

I hate the immoral act of insulting and too much shouting on my children. It's is one of practices that my Auntie used on me which nearly me timid. Insulting and shouting on child distract the attention of the child, which makes one not to be able take a stand whether he is right or wrong. Anyone who is always insulted or shouted afraid people especially when he is given a task in the midst of the group to perform.

"What about the ones you won't allow them do? And why?"

These practices and the kind of lifestyle have really diminished my capabilities so I've vowed not to let my children go through such kind of lifestyle of dissociation, isolating and unnecessary insulting of my children. We must be able to have freedom to do our personal activities. In that way, we can thing about many things in life. If a child is always confined, limited to a certain area it limits his or her development. Even though, when given a child too much freedom, he can be wrong at times. That's why parents should guide and direct the child at any steps through love and encouragement in order to make the right decisions. I would therefore let my kids socialize with his peers ; going to parties, swimming, forming group studies and celebrating their birthday parties. These things would expose my children to many things, fill smile 😊 in the face of kids and take bold steps in any thing they do.

I wouldn't want my children to go through stress, depress and hardship situation.