FAILING AT ENGAGEMENT AND MY PLAN MOVING FORWARD

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When I began writing on hive, I was told that there were two important things to take note of, one was consistency and the other was engagement and initially, I would say that I was doing well at both but then I gradually fell off on engagement.

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For the past few weeks, I have been constantly beating myself up for not engaging enough on hive, and as much as I want to give excuses, I think that the major reason I haven’t been engaging is due to the fact that I have been mentally exhausted.

You might ask why I am mentally exhausted and to be honest, I cannot give you a direct answer but I do know that I have been spending a lot of time thinking and calculating my future and it has been putting a strain on my productivity, my relationship with my partner and even waking up most mornings.

I however have been trying to write daily, keep check of my blockchain games, and even engage a bit due to @dreemport but I feel like I haven’t been doing enough and it has kind of sucked because as my own biggest critic, I have been criticizing myself.

The crazy part of all this is that my life has been pretty great, I am not where I was in January at all but I can’t help but overthink and plan my 2022 which just puts me in a place of mental exhaustion.

It is still no excuse to me and moving forward I want to consciously put effort into engaging more and I hope I can successfully do this.

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MY PLAN MOVING FORWARD

My plan moving forward is to at least read 20 post daily and engage meaningfully with them and I really hope that I can do this because I feel like it would help me in so many ways.

I would be holding myself accountable while trying to do this by keeping reminders and probably writing how many posts I engage with daily.

FINALLY,

I believe that Hive isn't just a place to write but to connect, create relationships with people and also build knowledge so I understand how essential engagement is and I really hope I can bounce back.


Thank you for opening this box of passion



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Hope the mental exahsion goes away soon and future anticipations become a by the way thing, in that your productivity must get back ti its best...Sounds like words to self but profound some of us have learnt from it

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Hey, i was just about to hit you up on telegram because I have been going through the exact same thing. I came up with a plan... I could share with you in the DM. I think it would work a whole lot. About to go do something now, but leave your DM open and check in by 7pm.

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No problem, my DM is always open.
Hit me anytime.

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@deraaa @khaleesii I'm I missing out on something 🥺
My DM is open too oooo 🥺🤲
iska#1195

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😆 she didn't even send a message again @deraaa

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😅😅😅 thank goodness, that means I am still early 🤣🤣

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Maybe she got busy.

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Im so sorry. I did get busy. I'll send it now.

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I can't be left out @deraaa
Hit my dm too.
I'm interested.
Find me on telegram via jessieie🙂😉

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Alright.... I think this is going to be a group thing 😂

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I'm sorry to hear that you're mentally exhausted! For me, that's the big reason why I don't read and engage as much as I did years ago. It frustrates me sometimes, but I've learned to accept what is and just do what I can. For me, writing is more important, so that's my main focus. Engaging only happens when I have the energy.

Please don't force yourself. Exhaustion and stress is a slippery slope and it will land you in a hole that's hard to crawl out of. I hope you don't have to experience that problem. Please give yourself a break if you need it and don't be too hard on yourself. You're not superwoman. No one is. 🤗

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Thank you so much, I have been trying not to fall back to depression but I also want to do more, I guess I have to realize that I need to take it easy on my self.

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I guess I have to realize that I need to take it easy on my self.

Yes!
And I know how very hard that is, because I am in the same, frustrating position 😅

A few days ago, I was able to do some gaming for many hours in one sitting. I hadn't been able to do that for very long, so I was happy! And then I tried to do it again the next day... Bad choice. We seem to be hardwired to want to do something all the time, while mostly our brains just need a lot more rest than we're giving them these days.

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It's like me with movies, I use to love watching series but these days I struggle so much, maybe my brain truly needs rest.

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Yeah, that sounds familiar. I really think you should watch out to not over-extend yourself. Engagement and writing challenges don't sound like the best idea right now. Maybe do some more exercising and enjoying nature instead. Or atleast that's what I've experienced to be the better, healthier choice there. I still need to learn to listen to my own advice sometimes 😞

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I have been trying to go out more and leave my house, so maybe that would help.

We are going to be fine eventually.

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Hey @khaleesii, I hear you. I think we all go through times like these. I have just recently found a need myself to reassess my commitments...and get more sleep! It's so important for our own health and wellbeing that we take the time to reflect regularly. As for curation, start with small steps. A few well-curated articles with meaningful comments is better than trying to spread yourself too thinly especially when you are struggling to find the time or energy. Take care you 😘🙏!PIZZA !ALIVE

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I need to understand that my mental health is very important, I guess the reason I end up like this is that I always force myself to do things regardless of how I feel and then I end up mentally tired.

I would also take your advice, thank you so much.

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You are very welcome. There is no point sacrificing yourself in the process, right?😘

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I think for many of us we are our own worse critics I know that is the case for me also
Engagement is what makes Hive special and one needs to try and interact with others to grow on here both in account size but also In enjoyment and knowledge
But that’s often easier said than done and one has to set themselves realistic goals and just do the best they can without beating themselves up

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I am currently trying to set up realistic goals right now because I know the importance of engagement, I hope it's works out.

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Thats good but just do what you can, do not drive yourself crazy trying to do everything

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You definitely will be able to bounce back.
Most time we all fall into that state but it's wise to give one a break for a while and get re-energized so you don't break down mentally.
I feel that this overthinking of how 2022 would be and trying to plan it all now is one this almost everyone is facing.
We can only plan, do our best, and most important, but it is all in God's hands.
Just try making sure that your offline life and life in hive is balanced so you don't feel overly stressed. 🙂

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Can't really get a break right now but I would try to balance it all.

Thank you so much.

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It's alright.
Finding a way to balance it all would be the best thing to do.

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You're halfway there by identifying the problem. You have now set an awesome goal and it is great to hear that you want to hold yourself accountable.

You can do it! Go for it!

I got here via @dreemport.

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I hope I truly can, it is easy to talk but actions are what matter.

Thank you for reading.

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It gets easier if you do it each and every day. I found this out with making posts! Also it'll help if you limit who you read for now. Only those who truly interest you. Then you will start to look forward to it. Add a few more as they catch your eye. I've actually cleaned about 5 out of my feed in the last few days, due to simply never finding myself clicking anything from them.

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I have also been trying to find people who interest me with their posts and let go of those who don't, I hope that helps my engagement.

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It'll definitely help :) If you look forward to seeing those people around, it'll be your break. You will consider it rest. Just let yourself get addicted to it :)

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Hi @khaleesii!

I was so happy to find this post about engagement here on your blog! It really framesUP the struggles you have been feeling and how your doing your best to ballance all of your needs (Spirit, Mind, Body) while still investing into others!

What I call this, as a certified personal trainer, is Special Focus… and it’s actually a key to rapid and amazing personal growth & results! It’s a force multiplier believe it or not! 💪

Why do I say this?

Because Special Focus is when you take care of others Spirt, Mind, and Body! When you invest into others in this way you are tapping into energy greater than yourself!

It can feel exhausting at times though… especially if it feels like you are investing more into others and (perhaps) it’s not being reciprocated… but stick with it! Stretch and strengthen your Special Focus with continued action!

Why?!

Because when you invest in the people around you (save it for the energy makers not the energy takers or breakers!) you are actually tapping into a law that is just as powerful as gravity is!

It’s called the Law of Reciprocity! And it’s something that happens naturally as soon as you begin doing it! (And, by the way, it’s a way to compound EVERYTHING in your life! Good, Bad, or even Ugly! Hopefully Good, Better, Best though! 😉)

If your curious you can learn more about it in the link bellow!
https://www.rebootauthentic.com/blog/law-of-reciprocity?format=amp

Now… before I leave off!

I just want to encourage you to also take time (even if it’s a regular 15 min. a day!) and also invest back into yourself… Doing an activity (of self-care/self-love) and doing it daily is what is going to fill youUP so that you can continue to invest in others!

I call it, “Digging my well before I get thirsty.” 🙂

This is just a little about what I have recently been speaking with you about. This is yet another aspect of the Social Capital 1st Mindset… and I tell you! It has really done wonders for me… and so I do hope that it helps you in the same way my dear! 😊

As well, I sincerely hope that what everyone here in the comments has shared with you gives you the deep internal well-spring of whatever your soul needs to achieve your deepest desires!

Much love and full sincerity!

@wil.metcalfe

P.S. Incoming!!! !!

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Thank you so much for this insightful comment, also reading through the link has brought a lot of insight to me.

I guess my problem right now is that I don't know how to balance my investing in others and also investing in myself but I am actively working on it.

I would also be taking your advice to do a self are activity starting this week though, I hope I can keep up.

Thank you for the comets, it was appreciated.

I hope you have a great day.

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