[WE106] Weekend-Engagement Concept: Dealing With Conflicts
As humans, conflicts are pretty much unavoidable and even though we try to avoid it, it most likely will happen at least once or twice in our lifetime due to varying reasons.
When I was younger, I use to try my best to avoid conflicts, I would go against my will to make people happy, and even take any behavior from people just so there were no arguments but, things changed as I grew older.
As I grew older, I began realizing that I was a footmat for so many people, and I always had things bottled up because I wasn't expressive so, I decided to begin facing things head on which made a lot of difference.
These days, whenever there is a conflict, I make sure to say what I feel, resolve it and move past it immediately, but, this doesn't exactly work for everything and everyone.
There are times when some people are more challenging and they make it difficult, like when I had a misunderstanding with my best friend, while I was trying to talk things through and get over it, she was being unresponsive and this dragged our issues for months.
Even though we finally dealt with it, it took time which affected our friendship a lot more than it should have which proved that certain conflicts need to be dealt with head on.
Personally, while I love the way I deal with conflict, I believe it doesn't work for everyone because some people do need time to figure things out, and right now, I am learning to have a balance.
This is my entry to the weekend-engagement concept and I answered the third question concerning “conflict management”, If you are interested in this concept, you can check here.
Hi @khaleesii
You know I was similar when I was younger because of the environment I grew up in. I later had to become more assertive like you have. It can become very damaging if you feel unheard and when people aren't willing to have an open conversation. I think that being able to speak your truth is so important and empowering. If friends are not willing to have the conversation then they aren't open to building on the foundation of your friendship.
It totally damaged my head when I was younger truly because I was such a people pleaser, I’m learning now though, and letting people go who don't understand that.
There's a lot of very interesting psychology behind people pleasing, when I started reading up on it, it started to all make a lot more sense, it's key to healing and finding how to be able to show yourself to the world and say "no, I also get to have a say in this". It doesn't always go down well and like you say, those are the people that need to be let go - if you aren't allowed to even voice your opinion or feelings, then they don't value you as a person all that much to begin with.
I think I need to read about it, mine usually came from wanting to always be liked by people for some reason, I don't even get it.
It's really quite mind blowing once you understand the dynamics and then even more so when you start to break out of them. It's a journey and I wish you all the best with staying true to yourself, that's important.
Have a good one! Cheers 🥂
Thank you so much
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Sometimes people just need space (time) to think things through 😁
I understand that but I also feel it gives them time to complicate things.