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"Don't do the mistake of allowing him study Yoruba. Leverage on your influence in the society to establish a flourishing career for your son."

Ben discouraged his friend, John whose son was admitted to study an African language, Yoruba in the University. Ben believed that the status of John in the society as a well known musician should afford him the opportunity of guiding his son, Jack to study Law in order to possibly become a well known lawyer in the nearest future. He believed that studying Yoruba would make him relevant in a very small section of the society.

In his response, John explained the reason why his only role is to guide his son to do well in whatever career he chooses to pursue. He learned from his own experiences.

While growing up, Charles, father of John was so fixated on making sure that his son studied law. His love for law profession came as a result of his almost three decades service in the judiciary. He was a security personnel in the court and he was fascinated about the respect the society gives to a lawyer and perhaps most senior lawyers live a comfortable life. All these culminated into him vowing to see John study Law.

However, John fell in love with music in his childhood. He was fond of singing with societal issues freely. His school mates really loved his talents - his teachers too. His father got noticed of this and flared up one day.

Sitting down on his wooden long armed chair, listening to a weekly radio programme, "Law and society" where the legal implications of citizen's actions are discussed, he heard John singing while washing plates in the kitchen. He had told his father the previous day that he would become a musician in future but such statement didn't elicit reply from Charles. Listening to this programme now made the desire to see his son being mentioned or interviewed on such programme in near future a burning issue in his mind. He immediately called John and said;

You said you want to become a musician. Let me ask you a question. How many successful musician have you seen emerged from this part of the world? Before you answer, you are not going to be a musician. You will study Law and become an enviable legal luminary.

John was silent for few seconds before summoning courage to answer the question.
I don't know anyone yet but I believe someone is always the first in anything and everything. I'll be successful at music.
Charles shouted at him to return to the kitchen and complete his work.

Few years later, on the insistence of Charles, John acquired a degree in Law and was called to bar. He, however, dumped the law degree and invested his energy in his passion, music. At the peak of his career, he invited his father to a concert where he gave him the opportunity to address the audience.

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I am the happiest father in the world today. You've taken me to know places that I never knew for almost six decades. I am proud of you. I beg you to forgive my ignorance over the years when I forced you to study for a career that you don't like. I was passionate to guide you to success but ignorant of how to go about it. I thank God that it turned out this way. Thank you all for honouring this concert." Charles stated.

After taking his time to explained this life experiences to Ben, he concluded by saying;
I don't want to make the same mistake twice. I was lucky to still find a way to engage myself in what I am good at after pleasing my dad with the law degree, my son may not be so lucky. I went to his school last week to consult the school's counselor and she told me that Jack is good to go and study Yoruba. I want to guide him to study whatever he likes and encourage him to be the best in it. All professions or career matters."

At this juncture, Ben agreed with the decision of John. They both had a good time eating and drinking before dispersing.

Jack enrolled in the University as planned, to study Yoruba language. He graduated in record time as one of the best students in the department. He immediately solicit his father's support to go for his Masters degree which his father graciously supported. He got a lecturing job with his University after finishing his Masters degree. He started his career in the academics and his passion for research to advance the course of Yoruba language saw him made quite a number of discoveries in the language.

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He continued in this line and became the first professor in his area of specialization.


He went to the United Kingdom to continue his teaching career. He had been appointed by a University who is making a way in teaching African languages in Europe. Jack took his father to UK in one of his holidays and John was highly impressed and fulfilled. He made some remarks in a dinner organised to honour him by his son.

Every child needs proper career guidance. My dad made a mistake that fortunately I was able to correct and I made him proud before his death. I vowed not to repeat the same. Being the first professor in your field is an achievement. I toured our country in my musical career but today, you've taken me out of the shores of our continent of Africa. I am proud of you. My advice to every parent is to guide your children properly. Don't force a career on them, rather help them with proper guidance to achieve success."

Everyone were happy at the dinner. They prayed for Prof Jack and his family.


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It is pretty creepy the way everyone is ignoring what is happening to me and still going to Hivefest. Lay the dirty snatches out why dont ya. Fake it all you want creeps, its so obvious the blind eye you are turning. @fyrstikken told me what V2K and RNM was before they turned it on for me. Around that time he introduced me to @roelandp . I still have the emails between myself and @roelandp . This chain is centralized by design and @fyrstikken helped set it all up to fuck everyone, one by one, slowly into my situation. This is no joke you dumb mother fuckers, they shock you to your thoughts..... Hello????? It is in store for everyone you fools and your helping. Voices pulsed in your head and shocks to your thoughts??? Ignore me and help fuck innocent people for life? @roelandp and other top witnesses I know are involved with @fyrstikken.. Wait until people find out you conspired to enslave them with this shit. I am not crazy and you know it. they are doing this shit to me and told me what it mother fucking was BEFORE THEY TURNED IT ON! Your acting like naive children or maybe you are just part of the problem? You look like sociopaths. Everyone should unplug from HIVE until they are caught, .your. celebrating and ignoring my obvious, you look like fools. You know who is doing it....they are trying to kill me with it. The Havana Syndrome is real too you slave trading V2K, RNM enabling fuckers. Arrogantly play ignorant you Creeps, your setting the table for trafficking and total enslavement. I did not know I was circumvented until a year after I was..People here will be nice until it?s too late. There is no way to stop it once they have you. Grow the fuck up, this is not aliens, gods, celebrities or a medicate-able mental concern. It is 100% electronic and beast as fuck. You do not want this shit. https://ecency.com/fyrstikken/@fairandbalanced/i-am-the-only-motherfucker-on-the-internet-pointing-to-a-direct-source-for-voice-to-skull-electronic-terrorism ..... https://ecency.com/gangstalking/@acousticpulses/electronic-terrorism-and-gaslighting--if-you-downvote-this-post-you-are-part-of-the-problem

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A very interesting story and it is possible to have a lot of similarities with real-life cases. It is common for parents to want to realize their dreams through their children, limiting the desires that they want to achieve. A good father who guides will always support the dreams of his children, sometimes, however crazy they may be. Excellent.

Una historia muy interesante y que es posible tenga mucha similitud con casos de la vida real. Es comun que los padres deseen realizar sus sueños a traves de sus hijos, coartado los anhelos que ellos quieren lograr. Un buen padre que guia, siempre apoyara los sueños de sus hijos, en ocasiones, por muy locos que sean. Excelente.

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That's true. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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Parents should always watch the strenghts of their children which sometimes is in opposition to what parents dream for them. Your story proves that point. Nice happy ending.

Your writing called my attention because I also posted here in Theinkwell a writing about careers and I thought I was the only one, lol.

Greetings from Venezuela.

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Parents should always watch the strengths of their children which sometimes is in opposition to what parents dream for them.

If parents could really do this, then the foundation for the children greatness is put in place.
I greet you bro from Nigeria.

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Inkwell had a busy and complicated week. Thank you for calling the story to our attention. It is a worthy read. The first sentence is good, though not dramatic. It draws us in because it addresses the classic tension between generations, between parents and children.

You also handle the prompt theme, guide, well.

Thank you for sharing this with us. We appreciate your participation in the community.

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Hello @lightpen,
I thought about my own family when I read this story. As a young person I had ideas with which my mother could not relate. When my own children were growing, I worried about their career choices. This is such a classic dynamic. Parents have to acknowledge that their children will lead independent lives. Choices are risky. Life is fraught with danger. And yet we must let our children go forth, take chances and forge their own paths.

The greatest value of your story is that most people can relate to it as I have. Isn't that why we read--to understand ourselves and others more completely?

Good job.

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The story was borne out of experiences around me. When it comes to career choices, parents should be careful in taking a stand. Like you stated, children will love independent life and as such their preferences should be taken into consideration.
Thank you for reading and commenting. I so much appreciate your support too. Thank you so much.

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