Mastering The Art Of Forgiveness

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Forgiveness in the present world feels like a pricey offering to humans. I've had to read a lot on the subject matter and most times, I do feel like we just keep going in circles, contradicting the languages we used, thereby attaining different flawed conclusions. Forgiving and forgetting, yes, very big deal, certain people have openly admitted that it ain't easy to forgive, and I'm here to agree tho, but also to say a little more on the reasons why it's so. Also, forgetting is even harder as humans have testified overtime. The truth is, forgiveness is liken to kindness, it takes absolutely nothing to show or give it. But what is actually pricey is "trust" so when humans are placed in a situation to forgive, it has been that "trust" has been broken at some point, so then, forgiving feels like stabbing oneself with the knife that had once hurt them.

The human brain tends to retain bad memories more than good ones. It's always almost as though our subconsciousness was designed to torture us, yes, it functions independently, that's why most times we struggle to forget that which I want, but then to forget that which we desire to make the memories of. This human born nature creates a thin line between forgiving and living in the shadows of the past. I sure hope this doesn't sound like preaching, but that's just one other thing the mind does, you'd find yourself trying to detach from companies trying to teach, but indulge in one's doing the opposite.

Two trees create a shade, but many trees make a forest

This is one of those quotes I put down then sit trying to understand what the hell I just wrote. It originally started off as A company of roots raise a tree, but a company of trees make an habitat but hold up, I feel there's been a slight disconnect as you read through those words, trying to grasp the message, at that point, your subconsciousness is acting on the newly spotting informations, it most times, trying to interpret in negatively. I figured the mind firstly creates negative meanings to things before printing positive reasonings. It only goes the other way if trained. In many ways, the first silly quotes above can mean different negative things, but the second was almost changing the first meaning our subconsciousness gave to the first.

That is to say, the mind only changes its forms of reasoning when exposed to newer things. That's why in different stages of life, we as humans take different approaches to things. Most times humans grow negatively, in the sense that it becomes the dominance influence. The only way to subdue it is to expose the mind to positive things.

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Forgiving and Forgetting are the same thing.

Ever heard people say to forgive is to forget?

You don't forgive unless you forget, there's no way forgiveness comes after forgetting. Forgetting about something proves that you've actually detached from it. I don't know how humans view forgiveness, like just saying I forgive you does the trick, well heck no. Your mind has to have moved away from that energy first, then you know you're actually forgiven. It's more like accepting the flaws and picking up a new challenge. The best way to actually master the art of forgiveness is to get distracted. People may ask what if you suddenly remember them at some point? Well, here's the thing. When I say get distracted, I mean get distracted exposing yourself to positive things, read more, crave knowledge, build on yourself, take up challenges, make hay while the sun shines, achieve things. Moving onto a happy path is different from being distracted from your sadness, so the only way a flash back would bring back grief is if you're still relatively close to the position you were when those things happened. So it is advisable to grow, climb to new grounds, don't remain in a position surrounded with pain and negativity.

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This is a lovely post Malopie but the part where you said “Forgiving and Forgetting are the same thing” got me thinking though because I feel ‘Forgetting is forgiving but Forgiving isn’t forgetting’

You can forgive and not forget but for you to forget, you have to not think about it again, which simply means forgiving.

Don’t know if you’re still with me here or already lost like I would be if I was the one reading my comment. 😅

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You got yourself lost there. To forgive is to forget, not the other way around. Because they are numerous things we forget about in life that has nothing to do with betrayal or broken trust, just random forgetfulness, example, forgetting what you read before entering exams hall. 🙂

That said, you could liken the two words but only in this context because they are meant to work together. That's why I made mention that there's no forgiveness without forgetting, so the only way to truly forgive is to get distracted and embrace growth.

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