Not Every Bridge Needs To Be Mended. Some Lead Back To Pain.

I'm the kind of person who loves giving second chances, even third chances. Yea, I'm very friendly and I don't like to break bonds, so I take my time to choose my friends and who to get close/intimate with.

And I've had issues with various people who I later got to know what their real intention was and who they really are, even still I keep giving chances... Maybe the benefit of doubt, or maybe to see if they will come around and you know...be a changed person.

But someone taught me otherwise. We were very very close back then, most people even think we are twins, some thought we were dating but as time goes on, they see our closeness is beyond dating. More like a brother to sister relationship..a very close one.

And I know we all are not the same, so I've had to tolerate her a number of times. I trusted her, told her things about myself, stood up for her whenever she had issues and all... In short I was always there for her.

But along the line, it felt like she was taking advantage of the good and kind guy that I am, she wouldn't come through for me when I needed help, she would share stuff I discuss with her with outsiders and still want me to be there for her. And as the good guy that I am, I would always make excuses for her.

I was trying not to make our bond break, but she keeps on untying the knot. I feel bad. What actually made me cut off totally from her was when I was going through a very tough time. One that if I chose not to tell her, she wouldn't know. But then, I felt she's family so I told her. Only for me to start hearing about it amongst others in school... Like, someone I didn't even know was asking if I was the guy he heard this and that about. I confronted her and still she didn't see what she did was bad.

Well, I couldn't take it anymore. I can't keep on being friends with such a person. It wasn't an easy decision obviously. I felt it. It hit me. Because we were very close. But it is important for my peace. I miss the memories and the good times we shared though... But at least, I have peace now.

I've come to understand that not every bridge needs to be mended or rebuilt. Some will only lead us back to the pain we thought we left behind. And walking away sometimes is the best decision we can make.

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