LOH Contest #100 - Love Scam Is Real || I Got A Few Tips For You

Before I started blogging online, my favourite go-to on my phone was Facebook, I was always online posting pictures and getting likes while I like and comment on other update as well. I thought it was fun (Hive is way more fun now) and I made a lot of friends there even though we never got to meet in person.

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As a young lady both in heart and thinking, I fell for a guy who kept chatting with me and asking for my pictures and he sends his own as well. We got really close and even met in reality and became good friends until this day. That made me didn't think much on encountering any love scam as I thought it was avoidable.

Well the truth is, I have never gotten into such bad luck or maybe I'm way smarter because I tend to know what's not real and what's real so I avoid them by snubbing or blocking such accounts. But I've had a few friends who experience this love scams and tell me their story, it's so disheartening.

Like I said in response to @amiegeoffrey post, I won't be in the best position to give advices on how to avoid love scams, instead I think I need to learn more about it from all who would have a thing or two to share about it. I've read a few posts and I must say there are a lot of tips I've gotten. It's not like I'm not very much aware of how to escape being a victim, I just need to be more alert always.

I do almost everything online now, even though I don't go to dating sites, a lot of people have made just anywhere online to be dating site for them so one has to be careful who they interact with. One thing I've learnt is that good chatters are more prone to being victims because they are always happy to find who likes to chat like them. I was once like that (I think I still am hehe).

Thanks to Hive, I found better place to chat away with almost no need to be too insecure as everyone seem more real here than the other social media I've found myself in. So from my experience of dating online with someone you know nothing about... I've actually agreed to an online date but we never went as far as scamming each other or maybe I just didn't let him get the chance.

Here are a few things I always keep in mind while I enjoy the chats...

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I ask a lot of questions

Even though I won't get honest answers, I still ask and I do that so I could ask the same questions again and most times, I get different answers... That's a sign that they aren't real at all.

I never say much about myself

As a good chatter, I could come up with lots of gist going on around the world and we would be busy with that, he would have less time to ask me any personal questions which I know very much how well to avoid them.

I know whose voice or video calls I could take

Maybe I'm a natural at this, I can tell when someone is hiding away or has an ulterior motive if they approach me online. I could play a few tricks to get to find out real soon and avoid them. One of the things I do, I act like I made a mistake to call them on video call 😅 it works for me a lot, they panic and act awkward afterwards.

I never ask for money from them

That feels like I'm the one being the scammer so I never do that and it also makes it hard for them to ask especially when you complain a lot about not having much 😅 I won't ask for money but I will never agree I have enough, it is safe that way. When you're conscious about this, any random request for money from them will be easy to reject.

In general, I make sure to keep myself busy with other stuffs (most times, there's actually nothing to keep busy with). I just act like I'm busy and keep them waiting for my reply, that way you make them feel less important and find their ways out of your life if they weren't genuine.

There may be other ways to secure yourself from falling victims from these money-sucking humans online, just stay alert while you have fun. That's it. I hope to learn more from more entries. Really good question @trangbaby I have learnt a lot already and will be learning more.

I'll love to invite @otuyanancy and @deraaa to participate in the Contest as well.

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Speaking about love scam made remember something about you. But, let me swallow it. 🥺

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👀👀👀@merit.ahama who you scam? You don break person heart🤣

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Haha. I can't say if it was the other way round. But like I said, I'll keep my lip sealed. I don't want to open old wounds for her 🥺

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Before I started blogging online, my favourite go-to on my phone was Facebook, I was always online posting pictures and getting likes while I like and comment on other update as well. I thought it was fun (Hive is way more fun now) and I made a lot of friends there even though we never got to meet in person.

Same thoughts, thus thankful I never encountered scammers, maybe because though I am fond of exchanging chats, I never trust of take it seriously.

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That's a good one, people fall victim when they take chats too seriously too

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Have heard some really great romantic stories about online meeting, also most upsetting stories of people being taken for money, really has to be up to the individual to take care of oneself always.

!LUV

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That is just it, it depends on one to become the victim or overcome it.

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Hive is truly changing how we socialize :) And these are smart tips from a clever !LADY ❤ Thank you for sharing them :)

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You have already used the number of tips you had for the day. Please try again tomorrow or buy more LOH tokens to send more tips.

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I dated some before but I eventually felt lazy replying them because there was always conflict with timezone..lol.. Then I never into those apps again..better be single and happy 🤣

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Haha you're right my dear, there's just happiness being single... But in the end, one has got to get married 🥲😂

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Abeg😩 love is sweet when you are with the with the right person,and I am sure you will be happy. @jane1289 you will sure meet someone that will understand you someday and know you may likely be busy if you don’t reply him fast😂😁.

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My dear, you're right o
We only pray and hope to meet the right person and keep kissing frogs 🥲

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When you start asking money from a guy online,then some sort of questions you don’t like will start coming in😂.

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Exactly! I've experienced that first hand so I know better not to try it again 🤣🤣

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Your post has given me an insight on how to handle somethings and never to get scammed by any guy.

Thanks for the invite 🤠

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My dear. I have seen something from guys sha. One particular Indian guy. This guy and I got as close as even making calls and watching movies while on calls. Still, I am a very cautious person. Soon, he began with tales of this and that, I always dodged. Then he brought business ideas in which I would be the one to raise the money...straight blocking! No corner corner. I hate rubbish. Thanks for the invite dear. I'm right on it.😎😎

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Wahala 😂😂😂
You're smart my dear
Nothing do you, he think say he wise 🤣

Waiting to read yours

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I’ve actually never fallen victim of internet love scam but I know it is a devastating experience, letting your guards down and thinking l you’re communicating with a genuine person only to end up fighting for your life at the end. It would make one so vulnerable and ashamed because everyone will blame them for not being careful or not seeing the ‘obvious’.

We can never be too careful, but we also can’t stop opening ourselves up to thrilling experiences from the online world.

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That's right my dear, just take cautions and enjoy the experiences the online world gives.

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Thanks so much for taking time to join us, @merit.ahama, am glad to hear that you've enjoyed reading and learned from other's posts. Me either, I'm happy that people have opened to share their thoughts about this topic. There are still many people those who are still unaware of the potential scams that exist on dating websites, so I'm glad that we discuss about this. !LADY

Oh yeah please link your entry in a comment on the contest post next time to make sure we don't miss your entry :)

Have a lovely weekend

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Oh my! My bad for forgetting to submit my entry link, thanks for the reminder... Would submit it immediately

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