My Parents And I - Cross Culture Question #2

It's another time to answer questions from @selfhelp4trolls cross culture questions and I find this edition's question very personal and interesting to answer. So here are my answers.

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What role do/did your parents play in your life?

So many roles... I'm going to loss count if I'm to tell you about what those many roles are. They aren't together but they separately played different roles in my life. I'm the eldest child of my family, and as a Nigerian child... People feel the eldest child has so many responsibilities to take on and they make it feel scary. But my parents made the "Fear of responsibilities" go away from me until I got older.

A lot of people around us always give credit to my dad who my siblings and I lived with since mum left us. How he took care of us till we got older is still something I feel no other father would do, my dad has played more roles in my life than my mum and that is indisputable but I'm not going to hide the fact that my mum played a great role in my education.

Life isn't fair enough to give me my family together in one home but it was fair enough to give supporting parents who has their children happiness at heart.

Has your relationship with your parents changed over the years?

Not so much have changed, or can I say nothing has changed? 🤔 I mean, mum came back but not to our home and dad has been the sweetest dad even up till now and they are in talking terms just for their kids. So my relationship with them is based more upon how to get them back together.

So as for my relationship with them before... We did laugh a lot together, play a lot and sing together. And presently, we still do that whenever we're together. So what I would say changed a bit is the part that we're not always together as before and that's just so understandable as I have to go to school and they have to work to cater for their kids.

I still cry to them for money like before 😂 I still tell them about the changes in my body like before and they do know about what I'm going through or wherever I'm going to. We're so close that we talk about just anything except a few which I won't share here 🙈

Is there anything you wish your parents would do （or would have done) differently?

That they wouldn't have gone their separate ways, that is mum shouldn't have left us at that time. That they should have sort their differences out and not mind what their in-laws were saying at that time.

My parents would have thought more about my siblings and I, their kids and stick to the love they once professed to each other. That dad would have held mum tighter when she was with him and mum would have over look some things to take care of her children herself.

Well, I'm still hoping they'll do some thing differently soon and that is getting back together so we could be happy together once again. I don't see anything impossible about that and I believe things would be fine soon.... Just staying positive.

How are you similar to your parents?

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To my mum? So many similarities, like people say I'm her photocopy 😂 sometimes I still argue with them that my sister looks like my mum more. But no, they seem to win the argument all the time. I have a copy of my mum's face, body, hair and even her walking step... That's how much I look like her.

As for my dad, I took after his happy vibes and even his mode of anger... I'm also like him in the way he talks and relate with people, we're both fun to be with and lovable people.

Do you prefer a more involved relationship with your parents or more distance?

From the other questions I've answered, you'll confirm that I love a more involved relationship with my parents but life didn't make it that way much for me so we're kinda both distant and involved with each other.

I want to be able to tell my parents a lot of things about what I'm going through and what I think about some things but they can't give me the chance to say those things to them together. I haven't been able to feel comfortable to tell mum about some things, same goes with my dad.

I believe all that would change when my parents get back together and were living with each other happily.

That's all I can answer from the prompt, tried to make it short though and I want to appreciate @selfhelp4trolls for asking these questions, you can also click Here to participate

Thanks for reading!!!