Sorry I'm Not Sorry But I've Repented
You should know that the title is what isn't being said out and yes, pride and ego is the cause of it. I don't know about others but I think I have these kind of persons around me a lot so it's kinda used to me when I see people don't say they are sorry even when they are very much aware that they were wronged.
"Sorry I'm not sorry but I've repented" is the vibe I get when I'm supposed to hear the simple "I'm sorry" word from someone whom I know wronged me in some way and somehow I just forgive the person since it's for my peace of mind and not the person's.
I think this attitude doesn't hurt me at all because of the kind of persons I have around me. People find it hard to accept their wrongs and because of this, they never say they are sorry even though they look apologetic or have repented from what they had done before. Honestly, I'm like that sometimes but those times are when I remember that I'm to say sorry even when I know I'm not wrong.
It's hard to be sorry to the one you know is supposed to be sorry but to move on, one has got to say sorry... And then, the vibe "Sorry I'm not sorry but I've repented"? Oh, I still wonder how I've gotten used to it. Maybe because the persons who do this to me a lot really repent from what they did to me so I prefer it to saying sorry and not being emotional about it or being true to yourself that you're actually sorry.
I've been forced to say sorry a lot of times in the past and I know just exactly how insincere that felt for me talk more of the person I said it to. I'd rather not say sorry but take the corrections given than say sorry and not even think a little bit of changing my ways. I just think sorry has been undervalued in my part of the world, I have a very close one who keeps proving that to me over and over.
So I respond well when one isn't saying the words "Sorry" but showing signs of taking corrections or repenting. I remember a friend of mine who I lived with sometime ago, she decided to iron with my precious bedsheet and burnt it when she forgot to turn off the iron. I got mad at her but for reasons I didn't understand, she didn't say the word "Sorry" and being the less talk type, I kept quiet and let it slide.
My friend brought another bedsheet later and said something that left me baffled for some minutes... I know if I should say sorry, your bedsheet will still look burnt and nothing much will change so take this 😂 did you laugh at that? It wasn't so funny when it happened because I began to wonder, what if she didn't have any money to replace the bed sheet?.
Well, that's an example of "Sorry I'm not sorry but I've repented". While I'd like to get genuine sorry which is hard to figure out, I'd prefer to see the person show signs of changes. So what do you think about these kind of people?
Sorry has been greatly undervalued... No doubts about that but when a genuine sorry is said, it is still very much appreciated.
While I really love the aspect of saying sorry through showing visible things such as the bedsheet she bought back, I am also very much concerned like you are as to what this set of people will do when there is no money... Does it mean they won't say sorry?
I really buy the idea of saying sorry and still going for a visible change in character and action if it could coexist
That was a very great one you came up with within a short time.... Machinery 😅
Yeah, a genuine sorry will always be appreciated if said.
Don't mind that girl, giving me the rich girl vibe 😂 she doesn't know that not everyone is rich like her lol.
Lol I just had to write something and this came up while I was writing... No machinery here 🙄
Hahaha... You sure do know that's what I cherish about you..
It just comes and your pen bleeds within minutes unlike people that their own keeps bleeding for 2hrs😅
Lol 2hrs? That's too much nau
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I'm reducing it gradually though
Better, that way you're acting like my student 🙂
What can I do when I learn from the best kwanu 😊✅
Lol oya go and sleep abeg 😂
On my way🏃🏃🏃
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A new strategy of saying sorry was learnt here 😂. This is one way of saying sorry that will crack you up later on.
Lol you're right, it's funny too actually
I did also find it difficult in uttering I am sorry especially in my young ages until I grew to know that saying those words are really worth it. Thanks for your entry and I wish you the best of luck in this contest.
Sorry was a difficult word to say but not anymore for me hehe
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I knew you were just like me😌👀😂😂. Apologising even when you are not wrong just so that you both can keep smiling and move on together. I feel the world is even too small for humans to be unforgiving because you don't know where you will meet yourselves tomorrow. What if they happen to be in a better position than you are? This we do not pray so we have to make our friendships and relationships blissful and peaceful by simply wearing away pride and ego to reconcile no matter who is at fault.
Your point is just so right, the future is so unpredictable but people act like they own it by being unforgiving... Too bad
The practicing Christian is someone who will rebuke the other person. It's important that the other person changes their behavior. It can be hard to change one's Behavior. We get all stuck in our ways and some behaviors become addictive. How do you manage to burn a sheet? Was there a problem with the dryer? Did she leave the bed sheet next to a heater? Did she smoke in bed? Your friend made restitution by buying you another sheet. that's important. However, she should learn not to smoke in bed or whatever caused the burn in the first place.
She was using it as a cloth to iron her wears on top of it and forgot to turn off the iron when she was done, it burnt my sheet before she realized it.
Yeah, aside getting a new one it was important she doesn't do such a mistake again.
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You should learn more on how to say sorry 😐 and better repent, you know what you did for me in the city 😂 you broke my heart and still not apologies.
Anyways sorry doesn't mean you are right or wrong it just simply means let there be peace and that means you value your relationship more than your ego I think you should learn more of sorry because it build a lot of things.
Thanks for sharing you have done well ❤️🩹
I agree with you, saying sorry saves a lot of troubles
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Yeah, I can really relate to the "sorry I'm not sorry but I have repented", especially with Nigerian parents. They'd rather repent from their wrongs than say I am sorry.
Well, for me, I feel people that find it hard to say I'm sorry or rather prefer repenting have an ego problem and they would rather not give the other party that feeling of having an upper hand which they claim is for protecting their image and pride, but it is still a wrong way of resolving issues.
I believe that assertive communication is key and this cannot start without a sincere apology.
One good thing I have learned with time is that sincerely saying I am sorry brings a sense of inner peace and a free mind.
I enjoyed reading. Much love😍
Yes you're right, it's common among parents and mine aren't out of it lol.
Your view about the sorry word is interesting, thanks for stopping by
Asking for forgiveness if you're not really sorry doesn't make much sense in my opinion. But I try not to focus on who does or doesn't ask me for forgiveness, but rather on being able to forgive. Forgiveness can be a great relief in many situations.
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That's right! Being able to forgive wether a sorry is being said or not, is a virtue too.
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cracking up at the way her mind figured that out.. hahaha Sorry didn't replace the bedsheet but money did
but i agree wtih you hahaah what if she hadn't had the money
or better - be sorry AND replace the bedsheet and then try not to do it again hehehehe
Being truly sorry is something that can't be forced on anyone. it's a thing of the heart and the conscience hehehe
Im here from DreemPort today, beautiful girl! hehehe you missed the Pinmapple challenge today!? hehehe come back for it next Thursday - it will be an interesting prompt :)
Yeah, would have been better if she had said sorry alongside the new bedsheet but I guess that was asking too much from her hehe.
Oh yeah, I saw challenge way too late so I had to give it up 🥲 I hope the next prompt would be the kind for me like the last one lol
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the next prompt for this week will be "tell us about a special location for you"
can be any place that is near and dear to you - tell us why! heheh if you have photos - great! but it doesn't need to have photos - just a specific location - and then pin it on pinmapple and submit it to dreemport! hehehe
will be due on Thursday :)
Oh that seem easy too, will work on something before then
Thanks ma'am 🤗