An Accused Middle Man!

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Being a middle man in other people's problem is a very noble act but lots of people do not want to interfere in the problem of others in which I'm one of those that do not like it at all because of past experience. The outcome of a mediation can be either good or bad.


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To be a middle man is to be an intermediary or a mediator to someone or persons. When people are quarreling, the best solution is to sit on fence that is, never judge or side with any of the parties because when they settle their fight and you judge with favoritism it might bounce back at you.

Therefore, to be a good middle man:

  • You must be a man of great wisdom. A man of great wisdom is a good listener. Been wise and have the ability to apply relevant experiences and knowledge in an intuitive way. This really helps to settle quarrel.

  • You must be calm and not judgemental. To be Calm means one is at peace and not under duress. When you are calm you will have the time to listen to both parties before passing your judgement.

  • You must try as much as possible to find faults in both parties so that they can both share the blame. For quarreling parties to trust you, you must find faults in them, taking of sides as a middle man is risky. So to earn their respect and trust, they must both share the blame.

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My experience
I happen to have mediated a quarrel between my friend and her partner. I was not judgemental at all, I listened to both parties calmly, then pointed out their faults, after that I beseech them to reach a compromise. I never knew my mediation did not go well with my friend at all.

All of a sudden she flamed up and started accusing me of dating her partner. She insisted that I shouldn't have pointed out her faults in her spouse's presence and that I'm not a genuine friend. Myself and her partner was dump founded, her spouse tried all possible means to calm her but to no avail. I just quietly pick my bag and leave her house without altering a word. Although she later called for my forgiveness after she realized her mistake but since then I'm always careful on how I interfere in others affairs.

I try to mind my business and not meddle in other people's problem.

This post is in response to #hivelearners featured contest of week 29 edition 1 titled MIDDLE MAN

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To be a mediator requires a lot of wisdom.

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Real one, thanks for visiting!

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You later met wahala in front 🤣🤣
For small middle woman help you wanted to offer oo, well women can be crazy at times. Don't be surprised she didn't pay attention to anything you've said all the while you are trying to settle them, but that little error of hers that you pointed out is where her mind now hit a negative reset button... But people can be funny, me I don't take accusations lightly at all. I just hope you forgave her?... Thanks for sharing your view

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The wahala no be small one o. I was embarrassed that day, it as if the ground should swallow me.
Sure I've forgiven her, but I learnt a great lesson too. Thanks for visiting sir!

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Lesson you should continue sounding in people's ears so they won't fall victims... You are welcome always 🤗🤗

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