Unaddressed Emotions
Emotions play a very important role on our psyche. It is always good to express how you feel, because when you leave them unattended, they can create a havoc inside of you. Let me share this one story with you. A girl I know she has had a very rough childhood with her mother. Her mother was as good as not available for her. Her mother was on her own trip in her youth days and never really cared for her children, except for some little bits here and there. You can say that her mother lived a very mindless life. The Girl is now a middle-aged lady and her mother stays with her only. She does take lot of care of herself. Over the years she has also done a lot of self-healing to get rid of her childhood trauma.
Last week she reached out to me saying she feels very agitated with her mother all the time when her mother is around her. When she is not there, she has no such reactions. She also wants to give love to her, forget the past and liberate herself and her mother also from the event of this life. The problem is that she has never ever spoken to her mother on her childhood abonnement emotions. Whenever her mother comes in front of her she feels those extreme emotions. I have told her many times that she should address this with her mother, but she feels by doing that she will hurt her and her mother is very old now, so she does not want to give her any pain. In the bargain she puts her own-self through this pain and also portrays a very unjustified behavior towards her mother. Not only that, in her case when her mother is around, she feels totally drained out and she believes that she is her energy vampire. I am surprised that a mother can spread out such energies to her child. Means there is a lot of deep rooted problem which has not been attended to.
Unaddressed emotions are very dangerous, it does not only disturbs your peace of mind but also works on the physical level taking that pain into different parts of your body and creating stress and tension in those areas. When you are down with such things then you will start getting all different types of health issues as well. By avoiding the matter there is no solution. If you really want to forgive someone you need to address all those hurt emotions only then can you forgive that person and liberate both the sides from this pain, otherwise these unaddressed emotions will keep haunting us like a ghost.
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Unaddressed emotions are indeed dangerous, like a seed they could grow into becoming a huge tree that wreaks havoc on the whole system. I think she needs to find the courage to visit the past through having a sit down with her mother and resolve all the issues that may have happened between them in the past. Let it all out so that the healing can truly begin.
That's what even I have been suggesting, but the problem is that her mother is at a very fragile stage and she feels scared that she would hurt her too much by bringing up the conversation
Right, that could increase her mother's fragile state. I guess she will have to wait until her mother recovers and becomes better.
Every form of lack to express emotions, can be dangerous. If the person is out of touch with her or himself, its difficult to express your own needs. That's been passed on, generation on generation till someone say "no more". That person is able to heal the ancestral trauma and the future generation.
I can understand why she won't face her mother about it, it can be very painful. Especially if her mom is still 'stuck´. But there are other ways to heal from this, if she can look inside and heal herself. She can heal others, by just showing and transforming herself. She can even have a compassionate conversion with her mother :-)
You are right, and she has been working on her self healing for a long time, but you know these generational things are very complicated. The other problem is also that her mother is very cold at times, which I have also experienced with her and that's where she find it all the more difficult to break the barrier.
They have always been apart, barely meet, so there are lot of boundaries and it's not a normal mother daughter relationship. Some times she does not even know what to talk to her mother in general also, so with all those emotional challenges she feels very suffocated at times.
Hi,
thank you for reaching back.
With my dad I have a similar situation. Didn´t speak to him and his family for a decade, till a few years ago. Which let me to heal that side of the ancestral trauma. It's a big challenge :-) And I still find it difficult to speak to my dad or his family. But I can´t change them.
The only thing I can change is how to interact with them.
From you story about her. I do understand that this is very difficult if she also takes care of your mother. It's a challenging situation.
If she's open for an energetic remote session. I might be able to help her. By opening up some energetic channels within her. So she can release what's holding her back. And who knows, when she changes her frequency, her mom has the change to follow :-)
I also believe that everyone we meet and everyone who 'hits' us. Is a mirror of something within our selves. If we change that part in ourselves the mirror changes as well :-)
Kinda experienced that with my mom ;-)
Nobody have control even nobody can control emotions, when we'll try to get over emotions we might get depressed 🫥
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
It’s normal for her to feel agitated anytime her mum is around her because the woman was never there for her but no matter what happens, that’s still her mother and she has to make sure that she treats her well
That's very true and that's what she also tries to do but then there is no compassion in the relationship
Addressing the negative emotions we feel towards a person by working it out with the person can go a long way in healing our emotions. Though I feel while doing so we should be careful and speak positively so as not to make the situation worse. Thanks for writing and have a great day.
Oh yes, it's complicated and needs lot of sensitivity.
Emotions can really be deadly at times if it is not really balanced or let me say if it is not used wisely in the way it should be used
Very true
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