Is Everyone Deserving of Forgiveness?

As human as we are we are bound to step on each others toes once in a while. Humans were created to live together in society. No man they say island we all know that no one can actually live alone forever. We need one another to live and no matter how we deny that, we need others in our lives.

And as part of living, we will share our good and bad moments together. We will fight and make up and even laugh about it later on. That’s the beauty of the life that we are living. To err they say is human and to forgive us divine. To be able to live in the world, you need to have a heart that can forgive. Anyone that doesn’t have a heart of forgiveness is bound to always be bothered and be carrying pain in their heart around.

There will always be someone you will meet in your life who will hurt you so much that you don’t know what to do about the whole situation. We’ve all been there before and if you haven’t, you most definitely will experience this soon. I recently had a fall out with a very close friend of mine. This person is someone I loved genuinely with all my heart as a friend and a sister. But I soon enough found out that it wasn’t reciprocal.

She was very calculative about everything and it was giving a vibe like I was the one having to put in all the effort in the friendship. If I didn’t call , she won’t. If I didn’t make plans, she won’t. Even when i am sick, she won’t even visit. When I think of it now, I don’t really know why I didn’t see all these signs. I think it was probably because I was doing everything I did with love in my heart and not two-timing my every move.

And the worst part of it was that, this person I called my friend had the audacity to say some pretty fucked up things about me in public without even batting an eyelid. It was going on for a while until I confronted her. And won’t believe that she told me those comments were just passive comments. In my mind I’m like why will you even think it’s okay to say something like this about a friend and classify it as a passive comment. She didn’t even feel remorseful or even think to apologize but was rather trying to gaslight me.

It was then and there I knew I wasn’t going to go on with this kind of friendship anymore. And to tell you the truth, I was hurt by the fact that she didn’t even try to save the friendship but what hurt me most was the things she said about me and how she didn’t even feel it was a wrong thing she did. But guess what? I choose not to hold this thing in my heart.

I choose to forgive because I believe that no matter how much someone has hurt me, they shouldn’t be worth my energy because I would be doing myself a disservice by holding on to pain that has been caused by someone. That alone shows that they have won because they have been able to make their actions affect me heavily.

I’m not someone who holds things in my heart for any reason. I’ve had people hurt me so much I thought I was gonna be able to live. But here I am, alive and well. And so I tell you today, no one is worth causing you sleepless nights and heart ache. Rid your heart of pain, forgive and forget, laugh your heart out and smile genuinely. Life is fickle, make sure to enjoy it.

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