Divorce Is Not Something I Wish Even for My Enemies
It's been over one year since my immediate elder brother started a court case between him and his ex-wife, seeking custody of his child/divorce.
Today was another court hearing, and honestly, I must tell you that divorce is not something I wish for my enemies. The experience so far has been quite emotional regarding the only child my brother and his ex-wife had in their marriage.
This same child is the reason why my brother initiated a court case in the first place; if not, we would just dissolve the marriage traditionally, and that's all.
However, the ex-wife doesn't want peace in any way, and so going legal is the only way to get her brain reset. In the first place, she left the marriage, packed her things, and left with the child when my brother was away at work. She did a lot of terrible things that I don't want to start mentioning here, but my only concern is that she is depriving my brother of an opportunity to connect with her daughter.
A lot of times, my brother will visit and demand for her to bring the child out, but she will bluntly refuse, and thus the idea to get custody of their child in the court
In the court today, this said ex-wife came up with a terrible demand with her lawyer; she first demanded that my brother rent a well-furnished house for her for 1 million naira yearly, then pay her 300k for a monthly allowance, plus school fees for the child, plus medical and other little demands here and there. I was opening my mouth in astonishment. Why on earth do you want a rent after leaving a house by yourself, so my brother will suddenly start paying two rents in Lagos? Really? And you think you are qualified to take full custody of the child ?
There was some commotion at the court, and the judge decided to adjourn their case again; however, they instructed the ex-wife never to deny my brother access to his child, and my brother took her daughter out and enjoyed her moments with her.
It was fun and memorable. Finally , my brother got the apple time to enjoy with his daughter. Hopefully the court case will be over soon.
Yeah it is tough! But sometimes necessary :(
I totally agree with you .
in this case, my brother's life was at risk...so divorce is necessary
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Using the child like a weapon by any parent really bothers me, it is no wonder kids from broken families tend to blame themselves for the breakup of the family.
Thanks for the positive update @nkemakonam89 ⚖️
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Exactly, the lady has been using the child as a means of money extortion from all corners . She apparently opened a bank account on my brother's head. Because she knows his monthly salary,she is bent on demanding until the money finishes, causing emotional trauma and nuisance to my brother every time . Atimes, she even slaps him ,just being violence
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In most cases the wife gets custody of the child for various reason. I think in a divorce, the child suffers the most and I also don't want such a thing to happen with my enemy.
Yea the wife get custody until certain age before shared custody will be applied
the child always suffers it
Someone too was telling me about how how friends wife took the man to court, and wanted the property of the man. I think in reality it's important to know the person you're going to marry, beautiful and charm isn't the only thing to always monitor. Hope your brother gets through this
my dear very important oo because it's a mistake that always affect one's life till further notice
It's a sad situation. May Allah make things easier for him, especially for the little child.
Amen oo
I'm curious if the marriage between your brother and his ex wife was done in the magistrate court following traditional marriage.
If not so then, I wish it was settled peaceful at home, Chai this most be so stressful, time consuming and money lost here.
I hope it gets settled quickly for the sake of the child 🙏
they didn't do court marriage , only traditional and church wedding
Ok, thank you.
I'm Praying it get resolved soon🙏