Extended Family Relationships

Relationship with uncles and aunts is one of those discussions that can bring up a lot of memories because personally, I maintain a strong relationship with my extended families. I also strive to see that my uncles and cousins, who are on bad terms, come together in reconciliations. Just call me an advocate of peace in this regard.

I don't mind stretching myself to see that I achieve results; this is because I consider the future, the children involved, and the importance of this relationship in the long run.

I once heard a story of how a young guy was dating his niece unknowingly to the point of them having intimacy up until when they were ready to get married, and boom, there was a need for investigation. That was when it was discovered that both the guy and the lady are related by blood and cannot marry. It happened because of bad relationships they have in their extended families; it was all about issues here and there, rivalries, and the like until the family tears apart, everyone facing their immediate families, some living in the city and others in the village.

So they kept having children, and while their children kept schooling in different universities, these two people met each other and fell in love without knowing that they were related by blood. It was hard for them to know that it's an abomination for them to get married.This kind of trouble can be prevented with good relationships with extended families, and that's why I am an advocate of it, come rain, come sun.

We live in a small world, and anything is possible. Family is everything; to me, it's even healthier to see extended families knitted in love, having close bonding, and honestly, life will be easier and sweeter. When this kind of knit family is established, it becomes easier to raise one another. Those in good business can introduce their cousins or nieces; those in office jobs can create space or ensure others have suitable skills to live a good life. This is possible, but nowadays, many people don't care, and I wonder what we are dragging.

I know it is during the Christmas season that I used to see most of my extended families, but due to the era we are in today, I ensure to reach out on video calls once in a while so my kids could get to know their relatives because of tomorrow and for the family's sake too.

Those days when I was growing, I was going on holiday from one uncle's house to one aunt's house. I think that was what made me have a good extended family relationship to date, and I love it, and I would love for my kids to have the same good relationships with them. It will not be good to see that cousins don't know each other; it's an error.

I understand that not every uncle or aunt is loving or peaceful. Some are a bunch of jealous humans, misunderstanding here and there, and conflicts and troubles that make people choose to stay on their own.

So yeah, I wouldn't say because we are related by blood; there must be a strong relationship. No, but if there are no serious issues, it's something beautiful to maintain a good relationship with our extended families and encourage our kids to do so.

These kinds of relationships are very valuable, and we may not realize it until we grow older

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