LET'S TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE

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Simply put, marriage is the union of a man and a woman to become husband and wife. Permit me to remind you that the creator of the whole universe is also interested in marriage, and that's why He instituted it. He went ahead to promise us in the scripture that whoever finds a wife will find a good thing and obtain favor from Him. So knowing that God is the originator of marriages, making Him the bedrock of your union is the sure way to go in order to easily walk past the rocky path that usually shows up in marriages at one point or another.

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Do you also remember this popular saying that a wedding is an event while marriage is a journey? Whoever originally made this statement was absolutely right. It's been 8 years of my experience with marriage, and I must tell you that marriage is a good thing that can happen to anyone, especially when you find that your better half compliments you in so many things.

I think marriage is a beautiful thing; however, it takes mature minds to work out their marriages. Maturity in handling things comes with marriage, not maturity in age. Many people fear getting married due to the terrible experiences they have observed among couples. Nowadays, the rate at which couples separate and file for divorce is alarming, and I kept questioning the happenings. What went wrong? Was it not love that brought them together in the first place? Are they not compatible in the first place? Are they not supposed to be friends coming together as husband and wife? Is it the environment that influenced any of the partners? Or infidelity took over, or perhaps financial crises? All these questions and more are what normally fly into my mind; however, I must admit that my marriage isn't perfect. In fact, it's not in any way close to perfection.

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Imagine two different adults who were raised in different family backgrounds with different family cultures coming together to live under one roof forever?. Of course there will be differences and disagreements, but all in all, I have come to understand that love is one major reason why a man and a woman should agree to stay together for the rest of their lives. It's this same love that will help one to tolerate his or her partner's weakness and stand firm with them amidst all raging storms. You can agree or disagree with me that a lot of people marry for different reasons, love excluded! And that's why little issues shake their marriages, and they will be talking about separation, which might lead to divorce.

Permit me also to remind you that love conquers all. A man or a woman who loves you for marriage is automatically a good friend as well, and a good friend wouldn't inflict pain in your life. A good friend will forgive you easily without referring to your past life each time an issue arises. A good friend wouldn't leave you when you experience terminal diseases of any kind. He or she wouldn't leave you because the money isn't there anymore or perhaps you got into big trouble, and that's why it's important to marry your friend and the one whom you know loves you unconditionally.

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Is marriage everything I thought it would be? What was different?

Not at all; sincerely, I was thinking that getting married means entering into paradise forever 😃 No one told me that it goes beyond procreation and love in the garden 🏡. I didn't realize that things can turn from good to bad at some point. I was only fantasizing about the positive aspect alone, but it was totally different. Do you know that I was thinking that my husband will always agree to whatever I Wishes because he loves me so dearly?. I forgot that as the head of the family, I have to respect his instructions most of the time. Who will ever tell me that I will become a stay-at- home mom at this time in my life, and I will believe the person? But my plans changed that faithful morning..Hubby gave me 1001 reasons why it should be so for the main time. It's been sacrifices all along!

What has being married taught me?

Marriage has taught me more about sacrifice, support, caring, hard work, and more. I have been experiencing a lot in my marriage, which keeps shaping me into a better version of myself. Working hard 24 hours a day to become supportive in my home and in other less privileged homes. Seeing other pregnant mothers in difficult situations, I quickly put their shoes in mine and supported them to the best of my ability. Indeed, all I see from this marriage about my life is a different "Nkem" for good. I no longer think about myself alone but others as well, whether my own family or an outside family.

In conclusion, despite all the odds encountered in marriage, I think it's worth all the troubles, especially being with the right partner.

Cheers to a beautiful marriage to all married and intending couples!

Much love from here❤️.

This post was inspired by the #hivelearners community on the topic titled "marriage."

Thanks for reading!!!

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The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they're right if you love to be with them all the time.” —Julia Child

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Your view on the subject of marriage makes me want to get a suit as soon as possible heheh..

Actually, God is supposed to be the bed rock of every home except if we want to have homes with faulty foundation.

You have really opened my eyes to a lot about marriage, some people believe that marriage is hell, but you have proven it to me that it is not, it's our responsibility to make our homes either happy or sad.

At one point or the other, one must have misunderstanding with their partner , we are all humans and we have our flaws, imagine two different individuals coming together from different backgrounds, different experience, different mindset to be one.. one don't just expect things to work blend over night, like you said it is a journey.

That aspect of sacrifice you spoke about is a big mystery, that when properly understood, can keep a marriage going even when love seem to have faded. I think I need to come for extra classes on that one

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Smiles 😊
Coming for extra class will attract 100 HBD 😉😂

YEA, it takes lots of patience to build home together. You need patience to understand your spouse and even help him work on his weaknesses. Troubles may come but if truly the is there , it will be easier for you to scale through together
Thanks for your nice comment

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LoL. Where I see 100HBD? 🤣🤣🤣

It's really a long journey, patience, endurance, tolerance will definitely be needed inorder to keep going..

Thanks for this part too🥰

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Marriage is a beautiful thing when you get married to your friend and lover, importantly, the bedrock of marriage should be based on it's Originator, God. It's been 8 years also, and damn! I've felt the best, good, bad and ugly and we still going stronger for the sake of genuine love at first. Let me not start another epistle, you've written all well.

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Awwwwww 🥰
Now this is coming from an experienced babe in marriage
Thanks for contributing

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Marriage is indeed beautiful when it’s with the right person. Some people marry for their own selfish reason and later regret it so they opt to leave the marriage. It so sad how so children have to bear the consequences of broken homes and single parents.

You really made some good points and I learnt a lot from you. Thanks you.

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Thanks for this point...yea, children always bear the consequences of broken home..if people can consider their future kids along the line,they will rethink before thinking some decisions

Thanks so much for your compliment

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Marriage is a beautiful thing when you find the right person, it takes two parties to make it work, with love, understanding and tolerance to make it work.

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Apt

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Hello godack, good morning friend 👍
I noticed you are new here
Thanks for always engaging but I will encourage you to always drop a more detailed comments. This kind of comment wouldn't make you grow on this platform. People want to know your opinion in their blog and may follow you back or start engaging in yours as well ✅😇
I trust you to do better going forward
Thanks for your understanding sir 😇

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Thanks for sharing your honest perspective. From what I read, I would say you're enjoying your marriage and you're one of the lucky people who do, or rather; one of the few people who make sure everything is in order before getting married to that special someone, i believe that's part of what make marriages prosper

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Atimes what makes your marriage work is in your hands..we just need to be patience in playing our part making it work

The story becomes different Wen you marry someone you are totally incompatible with
Thanks for your nice comment 👍🥰

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I completely agree with your points. The top of it all is being with the right person. It takes endurance when one goes into marriage with the wrong person.

There are lots of troubles that come and not everyone can be so patient till the end when the marriage is with the wrong partner. My aunt was a victim of an abusive marriage but I'm glad God saw her through.

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Going into marriage with the wrong person means wearing endurance like cloth and you have a lot to complain and worry each day

Oh..so sorry to hear about your aunt
The truth is that some our men hide their true identity so badly that it becomes difficult to detect sometimes prio to marriage

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This is a good read. Marriage is patient, commitment and also hardwork. The people we see celebratiing 25 years of marriage gave it all their best. It's never a walk in the park. The two people must be committed to make it work and not one sided.

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You are right. Commitment must be there among the two people involved for it to work out
Thanks amiable for your great contribution

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Just like you did many single ladies still think marriage is a bed of roses... Kia I pity them

Although I'm not married yet, I have come to realize that In marriage both of you decide where to sleep; it could be a bed of roses, a bed without roses or no bed at all... Some don't even end up sleeping.

I'm still in hope of what marriage has for me

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Awwwwww 🥰
I love your point of
Yes, both partners really decides where to sleep, either in bed or roses or without..what a word
That boils down to commitment
Thanks so much ❤️
All the best

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I think there is no problem if the husband and wife trust each other and respect each other. Many people don't respect each other which create trouble and trust issue with time.

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This is another point while marriages are shaky most times. Respect and trust shouldn't be lacking.
Thanks for your time

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Your view of marriage is in good shape. If all couples and potential couples should understand marriage this way, then, there will be less divorce and separation.

Just that many goes into marriage with a different view and aim. Maybe, love of money

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I am glad you agree to my view
Thanks a bunch for Ur nice contribution

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You said it all, sis, marriage is a beautiful thing. And it's worth all the troubles.

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The only key to a successful marriage is love.
Once love is in place, they will always overcome any obstacle in their way.

Nice write-up friend.

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No marriage is perfect and it takes two to tango. Both parties need to come up with whatever they have. I've come to understand that communication solves more than 50% of the problems in marriage. The second is understanding.

Like you, the rate of divorce beats me. It gets crazy that once lovers can become sworn enemies and you ask yourself how it went from a-z.

However, marriages work and it can only be as sweet as the ingredients you add.

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You are right Kei... communication and understanding are two sensitive factors that strengthens marriage. If these ingredients are missing, I am sorry, there could be issues along the line

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Marriage is so beautiful, but love is not enough to sustain marriage, just like you said, it takes effort, sacrifice, and compromise. It takes communication and respect too.

I have learned from this post too, well done.

#Dreemport

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Wow...I love the additional nice points to this post. Thanks for coming through 👍

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Wonderfully written. You've really said it all. And yeah one of the core values to me concerning marriage is the willingness to sacrifice. To compromise and to let go for your partner's happiness. Marriage is truly a wonderful thing. Thanks for sharing.

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Yea, some people hardly let go...they try to make issues out of every single misunderstanding and that's why issues will always surface

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Anyways, it's glad to constantly refresh yourself with tips from people who are living happy in theirs. It was a pleasure reading.🤗

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Marriage is a blessing that should be cherished and it should be enjoyed not endured

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Marriage is one thing that teaches people a whole lot of lessons. I believe that the couples who are from entirely different backgrounds come together to grow and nurture this love. Irrespective of how we want to look at it, marriage is a two way thing and one person can't do the job alone.

Soon and very soon, you'd be celebrating eight years of marriage. Congratulations in advance 🎉🥳

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Indeed wongi dear...the two people involved needs to commit to the marriage inorder to make it work
Thanks for your additional words here.
Good morning

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You're most welcome ✨

A beautiful morning to you too

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