RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD BE PRIVATE AND INTENTIONAL
Before the era of technology and the use of smartphones for communication, relationships had some impediments in terms of communication. People write letters and have them sent to their loved ones and it could take days before they receive a response. However, there are no longer hurdles in communication nowadays due to the emergence of technology.
Social media came into the mainstream and a lot of people embraced it to the extent of initiating a strong relationship via social media whereas married couples showcase their relationships online as well.
Talking about married couples, some have no little secrete about their relationships anymore, whatever happens between them at home is being published almost immediately to the public. The worst is that in as much as your friends are seeing whatever good times you had with your spouse after publishing, your enemies are there as well seeing it and probably plotting for your downfall. I think that we should keep some things private and not always show the whole world what is meant to be kept within the family.
Looking at it from another angle, many things we see online are fake and it surprises me how some people take it to heart, come back home and dive into comparison thereby wrecking their relationships. Some couples also are social media addicts. They pay more attention to the happenings on social media rather than each other thereby reducing the bond and intimacy they had. Children are not left out too, once some parents carry their gadgets, they get lost completely, no more adequate attention, and that proper relationship with the children gets reduced as well.
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There are two sides to this:
I have heard about success stories of people who got hitched on social media; I even know a couple of successful people. However, I personally will not encourage it, especially for people who haven't known themselves before social media.
This is because a lot of information is falsified, after all, the people in question do not see themselves. Most times with these lies come evil intentions like rape, murder, and the likes, especially when the people involved do not take caution to meet in safe places.
Studies say that relationships get stronger when there is a physical touch like holding hands, looking into each other's eyes, and hugging. All these can't be achieved online. Also, body language can't be properly read on social media, and this in itself can cause a strain on the relationship.
For these few reasons, I'd say people should go for what works for them, but I would not encourage 'social media relationships' and married couples should be deliberate about their relationship as well and keep some privacy while they can.
In conclusion, Social media if not handled properly might cause more harm than good. We should learn to balance things and keep them in check.
This is my entry to the @hivelearners community contest titled SOCIAL MEDIA ON RELATIONSHIPS.
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I totally agree on this! Most of things shared by couple celebs on their social media are most times false... "All that glitters are not gold" yet the other couples watching are stirred up by the things they see others do in their relationships. They become misled and create unrealistic expectations in their minds. This has contributed a lot to failed marriages and the lots.
And yes you're right, couples should stick to what works for them and keep to their privacy.
Thanks a lot for sharing this detailed and insightful post! 🤩
Wow, wow, wow,
How I love your thoughtful comment on this post.
Thanks a bunch for your contribution 👍
You're right. Social media jas negative and positive effects. However, we can't neglect the fact that social media has really helped us in a lot of ways. Couples get to talk to each other everyday with these of social media platforms. Before the advent of social media, letters were used to communicate; which takes long before it gets delivered. If we use social media sparingly, then we’ll enjoy what if offers.
Thanks for sharing.
The advantages are there sane as the bad side.
Only if we should be conscious of using social media, it will be better
Yes dear, I agree with you we need to keep some things private. Lovely writeup dear
Yesoooo flora
Everything should have limit to save us unnecessarry stories in our relationships
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Social media is not a media. The key is to listen, engage, and build relationships but relationships should be private according to your point of view.
Thanks for sharing
Thanks for sharing
Glad you got my point.
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Everything has a limit and it's benificial within limit but it become toxic if it cross it's limit. Same rule can be applicable for the recent technology of digital world and whenever we find some advantages there will exist some disadvantages also.
Very correct my friend
The moment we put limitations to some things, the better for us
Indeed many prefer to put out what goes on in their marriages and relationships for the public to have a say when it shouldn't be.
There are many fake relationships these days it's hard to tell.
Thank you for sharing.
You are right my dear
The moment we become wise on this , the better for us.
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You're welcome.
Oh my what a write up!
Using the current social media relationship breakup I agree with you that not what we all see in social media is true. Some are just posing for the camera but in real life their is no true love or friendship.
Thats why it's very important for us not to take to heart what we see over there and act on it.
Too much packaging there thereby deceiving people.🤩🤩
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Nice one friend
But we have problem to fit with new changes.
We will soon fit to it and will take effective measures not to use it vested interest.If we can't , younger one must do it cause we have history to fight difficulty in back days and we aren't yet vanished , we are always adapting. So will adapt it in near future.😃
Thanks for sharing your thought.
Of course we will adapt 🤣
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Great point @nkemakonam89
This is really wrong in a relationship and I believe anything that happens within your relationship should be between two people which is you and your date. Not sharing your relationship life with a group of nobody on social media because you do not know who likes you and who doesn't.
Exactly my point bro...
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Just as we have the good people online, there are the bad ones. When you think you are trying to show off your lifestyle online, some people are jealous and planning to ruin or wreck you down. So, we have to be careful and intentional of what we do online. Some things are to be kept private from social media.
Beautifully written ma 👏
You perfectly got my point here
Thanks a bunch 🥳🤩
I love this ending, if things are not properly handled in a relationship, it will definitely get out of hand because lots of people are out their looking for who to destroy.
Yesoo Nancy
We should learn to guide our minds and our eyes over what we see on the net and be mindful of how we expose our relationship status to the whole world to see.
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Information on social media can be subject to alteration, and the annoying thing is that there is usually no way of proving it. Anything you are told online, you just have to accept it because there is no other way to get the fact.
All the more reason we must always shine our eyes.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
You are very right Bruno
I am always conscious of what I learn on social media to avoid stories that touch.
Thanks a bunch for reading 👍
Today everything is online. There are dating apps, find your life partner apps and lonely people reach out to them. It's become the norm.
Ofcourse, they are strangers, ofcourse we don't know their intensions, all that is true one obviously has to be careful at this point but things may work out.
So, reframing from social media is not the solution but proper use of it.
Obviously, relationships are personal... online, we engage with feelings at a level but its never going to be complete unless you meet the person, spend actually time with them.
Priority should always be given to real things... but online you may end up meeting a friend, it happens we go to an trekking event, meet someone and there is a chance of relationship. You get acquainted with the person, and take it to the next level, communicating online then meeting the person, spending time and communiting online as well... the realism and persanalism is between the two alone!
The problem is ... people are not mature about this... you cannot truely form a bond online, you can get a feeling of a bond, but you don't know until you test it in real life and real time.
People should set boundaries, on what information about themselves they share with strangers in the net. Personal pictures etc, we should always remember trust and relationship takes test of time to build and a bond formms between two over time. You should not trust people who you meet once or twice even, takes time right??
relationships could happen online, sure... never know... if two people are genuine and your lucky, but offline is where you should attempt to take it deeper, while online it maybe a illusion and you maybe wasting your feelings and time engaging with a entity you truely cannot get the real full essence as in you can get when you meet a person.
I have heard travellers have made friends by meeting the travel blogger in a place or group travel meet up. They become buddies and from their lots of adventures journeys can begin.
You never know... but that happens when you meet the person and find out for yourselves, hear their stories, shares times together, its also the connection you form, more than the vibes etc...
Married people need not interact much online, because intimacy will decline... when the person lives in the same house, you got to work things in a personel, bonded way, i feel.
Never share sensitive personal information online ever!!
Privacy is important.
I have formed few connections going to events where I got updates online, we had volunteer groups planting trees, going on treks, doing activism and we became a family!!
So, use social midia mildly, avoid obsessive behavior... don't get intimate with strangers online.. because it happens I heard when you are lonely and vulnerable, another soul says right things it just hits you... you feel like sharing feelings with that person and get exploited.
You can chat, no problem... share normal talk ok, form light bonds but don't get too emotionally involved with a complete stranger online.
You can use social media to get acquinted with the person, but its for you to figure out the realness of the person, I feel.
That said you can meet good people who help you online... its happened on covid times, connecting on twitter, forming teams on discord and volunteering forming teams with utter strangers verifying needed information and all that helping with the covid situation.
So, online is good but just use it properly, mature manner, beware of people who manipulate emotions and please form real relationships that pay you dividents of companionship, friendship, love, support and all that, that personal connection.
Post covid, communications happen online, its all good, use it accordinly, too much online things kill humans and make them like bots(: ... balance is good... keep mental balance too...
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Thank you very much.
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Good reflection on how we are communicating with others these days. Social networks have to take as secondary a place as possible, but it is also true that many families have no other way of communicating. It is difficult to achieve balance, and each of us must find our own.
Thanks for sharing this in DreemPort. 🤗
I agree with you on making social media network a secondary place, though it is helpful, we must use it with caution.
Thanks for the visit ma
Someone I know met a lady online. The lady came from abroad, married him 😂 and went back to make a way for the guy like Jesus did for his disciples. A few months later, the guy's papers were ready and he moved abroad. Four months after living together, they found that they were not compatible and called it quit. Relationship on social media may go well for some,but it doesn't go well for many
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I can't stop laughing on this, phewwww, lol
It is well oo
People should continue to do what they think works for them
We are all different so I think if social media works for some people then go for it:)
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Exactly my suggestion, people should go for what works for them.
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Truth, do what works for them and don't judge others:)