Supporting Adult Children Without Encouraging Dependency

Should parents be financially responsible for their adult children? That's some kind of interesting topic of discussion, and I will share my view below.

Personally, I am of the opinion that parents can support their adult children whenever necessary, but there should be a limit to it. It's important to teach adult kids to stand their feet and face their responsibility, because there is a level of support that will make the child lazy and dependent, and that's not healthy.

For me, I will feel ashamed seeing my parents take up my financial needs as adults. God forbid, but then life can happen, and I may need all the financial support I can get from my parents, but I pray never to find myself in that situation. It will be joyful for any parents to be pampered with money by their adult kids rather than the other way round.

Responsible parents must have spent a lot and invested in their child from infant to adult, and if everything is alright, it should be time for those parents to reap the fruit of their labor and not keep on taking the financial burden of their adult kids, but then a lot of time, life doesn't always go as planned; some old adults at 40 may still be struggling to find their feet financially, while some in their late 20s are already driving a car and doing well for themselves.

While it's great for adult kids to keep their feet at the right time, it's also important never to give them unnecessary pressure.

The society we live in, getting a job after school, is not always easy; having a profitable business too is not as easy as it sounds, and these are contributing factors to some adult kids relying on their parents too. Unemployment is already frustrating a lot if youth and parents' intervention is a big yes.Having said that, there is a big difference between assisting an adult child financially and allowing them to be dependent on their parent.

Adults' kids shouldn't always have the mindset that Daddy is there for them and will provide everything; that's wrong. They should be allowed to face the reality of life, taking full responsibility for their lives while supporting them whenever the need be.

Overall my goal as a parent is not to raise kids who will rely on me financially but to raise responsible kids who can take care of themselves and even extend a helping hand to me and their generation at large .

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