WHO IS TO BE BLAMED? MUM, DAD, OR THE CHILD?
Back then before I got married, and even now that I am married, I still see parenting as teamwork primarily between mum and dad and not the other way round.
For God's sake parenting should not be one-sided. It's not meant for either the mother or the father, rather both parties should put a collective effort into nurturing the children. Mothers alone are not meant to face the responsibility of training a child!
I can still remember vividly the words of advice given to my husband and me by the priest on the day of our white wedding in the church, and one of them was teamwork. However, I believe that every married couple received similar advice either from their parents, sponsors, or rev. father, pastors, etc.
By now, you might be wondering why I am sounding this way right? Oh yes, the reason is not far-fetched..
I had a phone conversation with a friend of mine earlier this morning, according to her, her son was given two weeks' suspension from school due to a persistent bad habit he has been portraying in the school. Her husband on receiving the news, went to the extent of filing for a divorce, to the husband, she has failed as a mother by not training their child well and he wouldn't tolerate any further form of shame from his children as a result of a bad mother. Maybe the recent happenings on social media about parenting made the husband has such a shallow mentality about the situation. I pity my poor friend Lilian.
A husband punishing his wife due to their son's bad behavior, it's unreasonable. According to the wife, who is my friend, she instills all forms of discipline to the child but yet, the child still behaves so rough, spoiling lots of property in the house. The husband on the other hand is a busy businessman who has little time to attend to his family and when the wife complains to him about how bad the character of their child has become, he would almost do nothing nor say anything about it until now when the issues escalated, he then pushed the whole blame on the wife.
Now, who should be blamed? The child? The wife? Or the husband?
Well, in my view, parenting should be deliberate. There should also be synergy in children's upbringing. To every Daddies and mummy, let's take responsibility for raising the kids and not push blames on anyone.
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Marriage is joined as one. So no blame can be placed on the other partner without placing equal blame on oneself.
Thank you for this.
I wish the husband can read this post.
Very well said my friend!!!!!
Thank you for believing in me my good friend.
I believe takes a whole village to raise a child, father, mother, church, school and literally everyone around them but mostly father and mother....
Decisions like divorce because of this small issue is more reason why the child would be badly behaved.
Really sad
I agree with you and that's why I said that mum and dad are the primary people involved in raising their child, every other people involved are secondary and are also very important in raising a child (my grandma always reminds me of this)
Yeah, the decision is a harsh one but I sense the man has nursed this idea before this issue came up. Maybe he has another woman in his life and therefore used the opportunity to achieve his motive.
Too bad!
I think instead of putting the blame on anyone, both the mom and dad should chanel their energy on showing love in the home.
Just like the saying “charity begins at home”. It’s what he sees he emits.
As for the divorce, I don’t think that is the only reason because it’s simply not enough. He must have been considering it since and this was just a perfect excuse to execute his plan.💔
My heart goes to the Mum, I hope she’s doing okay.
You got the point, the same question I asked the wife... probably he has another woman in his life whom she thinks is better and so he uses this slightest opportunity.
Too bad of him
It's really unfair. She deserves better.
Well, it's really sad to see the measure the husband took and it's a very bad one.
Most times, the husband push the blame to the wife because if all things being made equal, the wife spends time with the children more but it is not an excuse to push blames
It's still ya family and will remain one even with the divorce
Some men get A' level in pushing blames.
So sad for my dear friend.
Thanks for your contribution bro
You are right about parenting it involves both paries the husband and the wife..who knows maybe all the child needed was a little discipline from the dads part and then he or she gets back to track.
Exactly but the dad claimed over busy. You know sometimes children listen more to their DAD more than mum.
It's well shaa
Yes they do it like all fathers have this discipline in their voice and commands.
It is well just as you've said.
I wonder why some people would think that upbringing is meant for mothers and then put all blame on her when the child misbehaves. Marriage is teamwork, and it’s the responsibility of both parents to see to the upbringing of their children. However the situation is, fathers should show interest in their children’s lives. Some men do, but when anything goes wrong, they still blame their wives. I wonder why. What happened to themselves?
Mothers are always blamed for the bad attitudes of the children but when they behaves well, the fathers take the credit.
It's well oo
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