A life-changing event: dependency kills.

Hello, everyone.

I welcome you to my blog. At some point in our lives, we all must have had an encounter that changed how we do things, how we see things, and, most of all, how we react to things. That encounter changed everything about how we see life itself, an encounter that reshaped us either into a better person or a worse person. The effect of an encounter can yield good results as much as it can yield bad ones too. I have seen people change from treating people nice to treating people badly, all because of one encounter.

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For me, I don't think we should allow certain encounters to make us change from the good people that we are into something we detest; instead, we should go from bad to good after encounters and not the other way around. There are encounters we have, and they change how we see life completely. There are certain encounters that will push us into working on ourselves in order to become a better version of ourselves.

I had the best life and the best parents when I was growing up. Life was good, and my parents made sure they provided my siblings and me everything we needed. They made sure we had everything at our disposal, various varieties of food to the point where we got to choose what we wanted to eat. Mom owned a big boutique with Dad working too, so they had the resources to give us a good and better life; they pampered us; and we attended one of the best schools while growing up.

In a world where we had to do nothing but get everything we wanted, amongst my peers, I was the only one who owned a phone. I started using a phone at the age of 7, my dad was never around, and mom travels for her business too, so they got me a phone so we could keep in touch when they were away. We were like spoilt brats; we couldn't do anything on our own without our parents intervention and support. We were completely dependent, and at that time, we thought life was a bed of roses and things would continue to flow.

Things changed for my family when mom's boutique closed down and we all had to fall back on my dad's little salary. It was no longer a smooth sail. The little salary alone was not enough to cater for our bills, pay school fees, feed, and so many other things. Since we were raised to be completely dependent and could not do anything on our own, and now the people we depend on are not finding it easy to make those provisions for us, it has become an issue. It was at this point that I realized that complete dependency is not a way to grow. As much as it's good to make sure your child lacks nothing, give them room to do certain things for themselves without you interfering, as it gives room for personal growth.

It's good to give kids a good life, but if you allow them to stay completely dependent on you when life puts them face to face with reality, they won't be able to face the challenges of life.

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