Do you speak up when they hurt you?

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I welcome you to my blog. As we journey through life, we get to meet a lot of people with different characters and how they react to situations. You get to meet people you are compatible with as well as people you are not compatible with, and you are forced to go your separate ways. There are certain people you will meet, and you will wish you stayed at home. As our faces are different, so are our characters, some good and some bad.

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We all have a thing or two we find very difficult to do. For some, it is easy to get those things done, but for us, it is not an easy feat. Even when we go tooth and nail, in most cases, the result is futile. I have seen people who find it very difficult to apologize; even when they are wrong, they do everything possible to shift the blame. I once had a friend who, even when wrong, will boldly you that apologizing is not her thing. Now it is left for you to either let her wrongdoings slide or keep fighting because expecting an apology from her is not an option, and for real, she is never going to apologise.

As we journey through life, we all have our battles to fight. A battle that seems to be very easy for you is a very difficult one for another, which is why it is very wrong to judge. Just because you find it easy to do does not mean everyone else should find it easy too.

That one thing I find very difficult to do.

For this, I have tried all I could to fight it, but all to no avail. When people hurt me or make me feel bad, instead of speaking up or expressing exactly how I feel, I go silent and bottle up all the pain inside. Friends will always tell me to speak up and let them know how their actions and words make me feel, but I just can't do that. I might be all lively and laughing, but the moment something hurts me, instead of lashing out, I just go silent, and my whole mood changes.

Many people don't even know they did something that hurt me, all because I couldn't let them know their action or words got to me. I just go silent and, in most cases, start to distance myself from the person; they won't know why, and in most cases, I feel bad that I leave them in the dark, but I still can't speak up. Sometimes, even when they ask me if their action made me angry, I just respond that it is fine or that it is not a big deal, but inside I am hurting. I just wish I could speak up more when people do things I don't like; sometimes it saves me the energy to go explain how what they did hurt me.
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I have a lot of people that don't have APOLOGY in their dictionary around me. I don't keep close distance around those people, I keep them as friends but distance away because small thing dey vex me😅

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Me I had to distance myself from her, because it is annoying how she cannot apologize but can go through seven hells to make sure someone apologizes when they hurt her.

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These kind of people are to be left on a different planet 😅

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I guess that character of your friend is everywhere. They're people who choose not to apologize not because they don't know, but simply because they can't just bring themselves to say it💔

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It is very annoying, like why is it so hard to admit that they are wrong instead they try shifting the blame.

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Every one with what they are saying , doesn't mean one should care less about the other feelings

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I used to be like you before. I would just feel bad and start to isolate or cry. But guess what? They would never stop hurting you if you don’t speak up.

Now, as soon as someone does something to hurt me I address it at that instant. No time to waste. It’s best to speak up that bottle up feelings.

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It is true, some people make it habit after all you won't say or do anything about it. It is good you can now express yourself and let people know exactly how you feel.

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That’s right. Some people don’t have shame

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This sounds like someone I know, I still don’t get how hard it is for you to point out something someone did to you especially if they are really close to you?

Maybe that’s my pov because I’m blunt and don’t find it hard to do so.

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We understand that it might be hard speak up sometimes but then when they are the ones asking you what the problem is, don’t you think it’s easier to let them know?

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