You Can't Help It, Sometimes.

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A lot of people take rejection too much to heart. The truth of the matter is, it's not the fact that they got rejected that hurts them more but the expectations they had before the rejection. Sometimes you dream everything would go just as you planned and boom, it bursts and hurts and you try to look for how to pin the pain and hurts that you transfer it on others.

Is there anyone on earth without expectations? Even the tiniest bit? We all have expectations and it's on varying degrees. What matters to you won't automatically matter to me. One thing I've noticed with life is that nothing is certain and a lot can change so quickly too. We just have to keep pushing, keep dreaming and hoping life smiles at us.

Don't take it to heart when you feel rejected. You are not bacon, cheese or plantain, so not everyone would like you. Let's face it, not everyone loves these aforementioned items anyway so why are you beating yourself too much all because of acceptance? When everyone likes you then you better start watching your back because something isn't going right. You are either compromising on your standards or you have a lot of unreal people around you.

Like I said, it's the expectations we place around those things or people that hurt the most. What hurts the most too sometimes isn't because someone lied to you but with your expectations in them, you wouldn't think they would imagine you being stupid enough to believe that and of course the denial card they play hurts deeper especially when you already know the truth.

We can't go back to make a brand new start or change the past and we all have ways by which we heal and then look ahead. For most it takes time and everyone need to find their healing process and go through with it. Forgetting doesn't heal us, rather we suppress the pains and hope it goes away, only for it to make us into a ticking time bomb, willing to explode when similar situations arises. Forgiving does the healing...forgive yourself first and only then can you forgive others. Most people find it hard to forgive themselves for making such a terrible decision or having such expectations. They pin it on others and hold that resentment for too long thinking it's the other person they are angry at. You gotta forgive yourself and heal...

Forgiving doesn't mean you have forgotten about it, but it means you have gotten to a point where remembering it doesn't hurt you as deep as it used to be and overtime it becomes bearable. It gives you the strength to move on and know how best to guard your heart further. Yes, it's not easy but there is a difference between hard and impossible. One of my favourite quotes says: "You can live with losing the good fight but you cannot live with not fighting it." There are some things you cannot avoid but to deal with them. Getting hurt is one thing you can never run away from but you can reduce the impact on you.


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Thank you for your time.


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Rejection is part of growing. We feel the pain, we learn from it, and make ourselves better..

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It's part of life and you are right, we just have to learn from it. Thanks Janey.

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Rejection has a way of making us want to be better than our previous self and that is so good.

Found your post via @dreemport and that lovely , cheers 🥂

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Yes, if we choose to see rejection in a positive light, it helps us handle it better.

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Don't take it to heart when you feel rejected. You are not bacon, cheese or plantain, so not everyone would like you

True fact that a lot of people don't seem to accept even though they say it that they understand. Rejection is a lot to take in, only the strong stay strong after being rejected.

I learnt something from your content, thanks for sharing.
Got here from @dreemport

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Merit is here yaaaaay. I won a jackpot. Thank you so much for the input and thanks for being here. Yes, it takes the strong and someone with a positive mindset to handle rejection the best way.

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Rejection isn't the end of the road but a fresh start toward another.. Expectations births rejection and the moment we don't expect much from people or life, we find a little peace within. ❤❤

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Contentment is peace and I love how you said it...when we don't expect too much we experience the peace that comes with it.

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Rejections will allow you to become a better person if you take it as a tool to improve yourself, but if you are hurt by rejection, you might be frustrated

Always use rejection as a tool for improvement, working hard and achieving goals.

Hopped in from @dreemport

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We have to use rejection as a tool and only that way can we learn and be better for it. It depends on how we choose to see and accept rejection.

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That's the only way we can strive from rejection, or else it will continue to weigh us down.
You are on point man

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Some find it hard to process rejection. The hardest rejection is from our loved ones, this can make some people mentally unstable. We are humans and we will always place some sort of expectations on people but then again life is what it is. Forgiving and forgetting is great, although I would say it is easier said than done.

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It's always easier said than done, that's true. Rejection from loved ones hits deeper into the bones. When we understand that humans will always be humans, it somehow cushion the effects even with the pain.

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