TURN THE OTHER CHEEK 2
Hello beautiful people. Your calmness will always disarm anyone who comes to confront you. How do you learn to be calm and to turn the other cheek?
Listen.
The first step to take is to learn to be calm, think always before talking or reacting. You do this by learning to listen to what a person is saying and no matter how tempted you are to interrupt what they are saying, you still yourself, you hold your emotions in check and allow them finish. By listening to them all through, you will get a full picture of what they have in mind, but if you don't allow them finish, you may respond and complicate the matter even more than before.
Don't raise your voice.
When you have listened to what the other person is saying and you want to respond, you may be tempted to raise your voice because the other person was shouting but you must learn to control it. Speak softly and with love, it will disarm the person immediately and also force the person to calm down. Another important benefit is you will be able to think as you talk calmly. You will appear reasonable, you will appear mature, you will appear understanding.
Communicate without blames.
As you respond, don't not be tempted to blame the other person for whatever they did, rather address the issue on ground clearly and with simple words. If the person accused you wrongly, try to inform them that you are innocent and tell them why. This will prove you are a better communicator, and it will help you avoid miscommunication.
Silence.
Silence is very powerful, when you started talking and the other party interrupts you, you can ask them to allow you finish what you have to say and if they don't, you keep silent. You don't speak anymore until they are calm enough to allow you speak. That restraint will show you are self controlled and you demand respect. When you do that once, twice, the third time, the person will have no choice than to allow you speak freely. You will then be able to express yourself fully without any interruption.
When you have done everything above and you can't get a positive result then you may have to take up the issue squarely with the person and let them know you cannot be trample on. You must trash it out to avoid a future repeat of the same.
This is the time to you will speak up and demand for an explanation if necessary, some people can be so difficult that they would push you to the extreme and not allow you resolve the issue amicably but you must always try your best.
Now that you know what it means to turn the other cheek and some steps you can take to achieve it, you have been equipped with a powerful weapon to disarm anyone who wants to hurt you either intentionally or not. It helps you to maintain your integrity, your sanity and also helps you keep your relationships from breaking down.
You have to practice this to become good at it, you will not be automatically good at turning the other cheek just because you have read it. Please put it into practice.
Cheers.
