Phones, Minors and Sanity ||Story time

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Aside cryto currency, tech is another thing that has been evolving rapidly. Things that only existed in dreams in the past are being used on a daily basis today. While these things are of immerse help, they also have a bunch of negative effects in our world and sanity.

My baby girl got her first 'mobile' phone (a kids educational tablet).
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As much as I am happy she'd be off my phone now, I can't help but cringe at the remembrance of the 10 year old Nigerian girl whose s*x tape (I have not seen it though) is flying around the internet.

It was said that she did a video recording of her doing it with some boys during a school excursion to Dubai. What is heart breaking and appalling is the fact that she thinks she's been cool. She doesn't think its a bad thing for a girl of her age to do.

A lot of analysis and opinions have been shared on the internet about this abnormal occurrence but my own admonishment is to her parents or guardian because there is no fire without smoke and kids don't keep secrets. She must have shown some signs, symptoms or behavioral pattern that are questionable. I feel she must have looked for a confidant at the onset. She must have wanted to talk about it with someone who would understand her point of view and not judge her. Maybe offer some advice but not condemnation.

I remember being around some kids that were having their casual discussion one time where I was learning fashion design. They didn't know I was listening as they went on speaking words that were rather too much for 3-4year old kids.

OK, let me introduce them for the purpose of clarity of this story. They were about 4kids at the store that day. Two out of them are twins (which we'll call Biggilie and Smallie) and the rest two are friends.

So, Smallie was writing a letter of warning to her class mate (Rebecca) but needed help with spelling. She practically asked for the spelling of every word in that letter from her twin sister, Biggilie, who by the way was in the same class with her!

The words she needed help with were rather too strong and that caught my attention and made me ask why she was writing a hate note.

Apparently Rebecca was trying to treat one of Smallie's class mate badly because he wouldn't share his pencil. Biggilie later confessed that the reason her twin was so mad was because the boy in question is Smallie's "Husband". And that he always buys her candies and snacks.

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As hilarious as this was,I had to sit them down and tell Smallie the reasons her action was bad. Especially the hate note because I was dumbfounded about the 'relationship' part. I didn't know how to address it as of that moment.

Kids don't have to walk up to elderly people for advice before they are given. 'Advice' should be given during day to day casual conversations with them. This way, they know what is good and bad.

An aunt of mine once said that she'd rather teach her kids what's right and wrong then allow them to live life to the fullest than deprive them of some things (phone in this case) that has the potential of spoiling them just because of what they might discover on their own.


Translated to Spanish.


Aparte de la moneda criptográfica, la tecnología es otra cosa que ha evolucionado rápidamente. Las cosas que solo existían en los sueños en el pasado se usan a diario en la actualidad. Si bien estas cosas son de gran ayuda, también tienen un montón de efectos negativos en nuestro mundo y la cordura.

Mi niña recibió su primer teléfono 'móvil' (una tableta educativa para niños). Por mucho que me alegro de que ya no esté en mi teléfono, no puedo evitar estremecerme al recordar a la niña nigeriana de 10 años cuyo video sexual (aunque no lo he visto) está circulando por Internet.

Se dijo que hizo una grabación en video de ella haciéndolo con unos chicos durante una excursión escolar a Dubai. Lo que es desgarrador y espantoso es el hecho de que ella piensa que ha sido genial. Ella no cree que sea algo malo para una chica de su edad.

Se han compartido muchos análisis y opiniones en Internet sobre este hecho anormal, pero mi propia advertencia es para sus padres o tutores porque no hay fuego sin humo y los niños no guardan secretos. Ella debe haber mostrado algunos signos, síntomas o patrones de comportamiento que son cuestionables. Siento que debe haber buscado un confidente desde el principio. Debía haber querido hablar de ello con alguien que entendiera su punto de vista y no la juzgara. Tal vez ofrecer algún consejo pero no condenación.

Recuerdo estar con algunos niños que tenían una conversación informal una vez en la que yo estaba aprendiendo diseño de moda. No sabían que estaba escuchando mientras hablaban palabras que eran demasiado para niños de 3 a 4 años.

OK, permítanme presentarlos con el propósito de aclarar esta historia. Eran alrededor de 4 niños en la tienda ese día. Dos de ellos son gemelos (a los que llamaremos Biggilie y Smallie) y los dos restantes son amigos.

Entonces, Smallie estaba escribiendo una carta de advertencia a su compañera de clase (Rebecca), pero necesitaba ayuda con la ortografía. ¡Prácticamente le pidió la ortografía de cada palabra de esa carta a su hermana gemela, Biggilie, quien por cierto estaba en la misma clase que ella!

Las palabras con las que necesitaba ayuda eran demasiado fuertes y eso llamó mi atención y me hizo preguntar por qué estaba escribiendo una nota de odio.

Aparentemente, Rebecca estaba tratando de tratar mal a uno de los compañeros de clase de Smallie porque no quería compartir su lápiz. Biggilie luego confesó que la razón por la que su gemela estaba tan enojada era porque el niño en cuestión es el "esposo" de Smallie. Y que él siempre le compra dulces y bocadillos.

Tan divertido como fue esto, tuve que sentarlos y decirle a Smallie las razones por las que su acción fue mala. Especialmente la nota de odio porque estaba estupefacto sobre la parte de la 'relación'. No supe cómo abordarlo a partir de ese momento.

Los niños no tienen que acercarse a las personas mayores para pedirles consejo antes de que se los den. Se les debe dar 'consejos' durante las conversaciones informales del día a día con ellos. De esta manera, saben lo que es bueno y lo que es malo.

Una tía mía dijo una vez que prefería enseñarles a sus hijos lo que está bien y lo que está mal y luego permitirles vivir la vida al máximo que privarlos de algunas cosas (teléfono en este caso) que tienen el potencial de malcriarlos solo por lo que podrían descubrir por sí mismos.



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The words kids say these days are shocking. I remember being their age and although there were kids with loose mouths, we weren't that vile. All this is because they are exposed to too much now. Access is unlimited and if the parents are not intentional, the kids will pick up whatever.

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Exactly. Parents need to form that friendship bond now more than ever. To be able to discuss issues or answer their questions so that they don't get misled out there.

Thanks for reading and commenting.

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I can't help but cringe at the remembrance of the 10 year old Nigerian girl whose s*x tape (I have not seen it though) is flying around the internet.
It was said that she did a video recording of her doing it with some boys during a school excursion to Dubai. What is heart breaking and appalling is the fact that she thinks she's been cool. She doesn't think its a bad thing for a girl of her age to do.

WHAT!?!?!?!?! omg i cant i just i have not words.

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My reaction exactly. It just left me dumbfounded. Like whaaaaaat?!

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The rate at which small kids go this days is alarming o. When my landlord's son told me he had a girlfriend, I was dumbfounded. He is ten. I did not lash at him or warn him because that is one way to get a child to close up from telling you anything. What I did was say, "really? tell me about her". He began his ramble of how sweet she is and how kind she is and pretty too. Lol. I listened while internally asking the Holy Spirit for help to tackle this issue. Because I like the fact he tells me everything going on with him. No secrets whatsoever.

After, I proceeded in asking to meet her to which he agreed. Then I gently began to lay down the requirements for a successful relationship. He looked at me like I was crazy and shook his head then said, "I am not ready for this". 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I had to stop myself from laughing and the next day he said, "I am not getting a girlfriend till I am 25".

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