I have been burned in a fire many times!

My life has been filled with a variety of scenarios then and now. My existence opened my eyes to reality, and I even witnessed the tragic events I never thought would come to my life. My experiences taught me the difference between what is wrong and what is right. And my younger self five years ago had a lot of aspirations.

There were days I even asked what is my purpose in life. And all I knew was the feeling of being human and reflecting through my emotions within me. I am not sure if other people had the same perceptions as mine. But one thing is for sure, I am a dreamer and will always be.


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Walking down memory lane five years ago, I was just at an entry-level position in my institution. In every aspect I have taken, I have encountered difficulties. I cried when I failed, but it taught me so many lessons.

In my institution, if you are new, almost all tasks are given to me. And I am the type of person who does not says no whenever I am designated by my School Head a responsibility because, as for me, it only shows that somebody trusts me for giving it to me instead of others.

The struggle I have been through is not only working for the students and doing all the ancillary tasks relating to extra-curricular activities and others but also being envied by some because, at a young age, I was already designated Chairmanship by my School Head with more considerable responsibility.

Little did I know that some also wanted the position, but they were not given by my School Head a matter of more trust.

And what hurt me was the feeling of being younger than them, and they had a sense of superiority—that feeling when people underestimate my capacity and potential.

Despite being envied, I remained neutral and just let it be because what matters more to me is being dedicated and hard-working in my job.


And this motivated me to go on with my professional growth.


With my challenge back then, I continued my Graduate Studies and got a Masters's Degree in Educational Administration and Supervision. It was a part of the promotion. And I was then so lucky to be an Outstanding Teacher in the whole division in our province, which impacted my advancement to a higher position.

Life back then was still so hard, but one thing that pushed me toward my dream was never to give up.

I never made a move to prove myself to others, but it was a matter of proving myself that no matter how others belittle me, I continue without thinking of giving up.

And so after I graduated with my Masteral Degree, I continued my Post Graduate Studies in Educational Administration and Supervision. And after straight years of studying, I finally added Ph.D. to my name.

At present, I am still a teacher but just waiting for my promotion to a higher position. But I cannot deny the fact that with the tragic events that happened to me, most especially because of the death of my sister, I cannot deny the fact that there are days that I feel empty. My sister has been my motivator and my crying shoulder every time other people are harming me. But I always stay humble.

Now, those people who once belittled me are very proud of me, and they even said that I should not forget them if my fate ever leads me to a higher position in the Department of Education.

Jealousy and hatred existed in my workplace, but they did not make me someone I did not want to become.

No matter how I keep my life private, there will always be those who will look for holes; even if my intentions are good, people see bad things in me. And no matter how I tried to do good things, some people saw me as a failure and a mess.

One thing I see as a problem in this world is that whether we are good or bad, we are constantly judged and criticized by others, and it even becomes a meal on a group’s table for the center of talks.


I have been burned in a fire many times, but I never let the scars and wounds lose my confidence.


I then realized that, in reality, it is like proving myself to them. But as for me, it was only to establish myself. I must say that since I was young, even not born with a silver spoon, my parents have always taught me to be compassionate, for in reality, there are always rude people.

Nevertheless, no matter how rude people would be, the key is still kindness and humility.

Perhaps when the fire burned everything I invested in, it taught me that not all things are permanent, for time will come when they are gone in a blink like a quick snap of fire. And that, in times of seeking help, I see the actual color of a person.

Disclaimer: All texts and pictures are my own unless otherwise stated.



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In my institution, if you are new, almost all tasks are given to me.

I hate that. Saying no is not really easy, but we have to do it as a way to protect ourselves from resentment later on. Sorry to say but many people tend to abuse those who are too agreeable and those who are too kind.

To be a meal behind our back, we can't control. Let them say what they want to say. To me, that's a sign of envy when people talk bad about you.

Sorry about your sister. Words are not enough to console us in the loss of a loved one.

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Indeed, you all have the good points my friend. The reality will always be but what matters is having a humble heart at all times. Many thanks for your beautiful remarks. Know that I genuinely appreciate it, most especially, your precious time and attention. Have a nice time my friend and I hope you are well.
!PIZZA

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Yes, we need the grace to be reminded that our feet are made of clay and many good things we enjoy in this life are but gifts from above.

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What can I say but WoW!

So much here resonated with me. Congrats on your achievement and may your life keep getting better.

Jealousy and hatred existed in my workplace, but they did not make me someone I did not want to become.

I have been burned in a fire many times, but I never let the scars and wounds lose my confidence.


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Many thanks for appreciating my humble writing dear Milly. I am in awe. I hope all your good wishes will come true and I wish you the same. Blessings to you as always! Take care.

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I am glad to know that you trust yourself and your abilities. It’s still you!

Those who do not want to recognise your virtues is actually because they lack them. They are only projecting their own frustrations on you. 😘❤️
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Awww, it was a very nice feeling reading these wise words from you dear paloma. I so need this and as what I always say to you, I am always loving your brilliant and positive thoughts. Much love from me as always and a big hug to a dear friend. Best regards and I hope you are well.
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WAW!

Dr. Pinkchic!

you are amazing. 😊

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Luh, demo. Do not mention it, hehe. This is just me. But thank you so much for the wonderful remarks. Have a great night!
!PIZZA

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hehehe ok ok. good night din po dr. Pinkchic 😉

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Very honest and straightforward! The loss of a loved one is always a pain that is never erased

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So true, my dear friend Seck, especially my sister's tragic death. I never imagined it would happen to both of us. I was saved timely from the tragedy but she was not. How hard it was but still I am moving on. and I must say a part of me is still recovering from a deep pain. No words could ever describe how painful it is and it is truly immeasurable. Many thanks for your kind words and I greatly appreciate your attention my friend.

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You must go forward but you can't avoid pain...

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I know wherever Sue is right now, she is so happy and proud of you! Keep soaring high, sis! Hugsss

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Huhuh, I am feeling emotional, sis. Life is not the same anymore without my younger little sister. The pain is immeasurable but I hope I will fully recover at the perfect time. Even when she was still alive, she was always proud of me, but I cannot deny the fact that I am feeling empty every time. I miss my smiles when I am with her. My Life is different now without here. Huhuh. Thank you so much cindee. Loveyah!
!LADY
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You're most welcome sis, nasa dc lang kami if you need someone to talk to, in time unti unting mababawasan din ang sakit at pangungulila. 🫂

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Wow! What an achievement po ate pinkchic 😍 The path to healing is never easy but in moments like this, you just can't help but feel proud for yourself and longing for your sister, and that's okay.

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Awww, thank you so much, Ish, but this is just me. I can always move forward, but the most complex reality is I cannot avoid pain. I hope and pray that I will fully recover from this. It is not easy, but I must try. Many thanks for your beautiful words and I genuinely appreciate your attention.
!LUV

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If there is something I have learned throughout my life, it's the fact that nothing stays the same forever, everything changes, so no condition is permanent.

I admire your courage to move through the fire and come out strong and become a person of honour and whom other people look up to. I am proud of you.

And I know that your sister will be proud of you too.

Congratulations on all your achievements. You are blessed.

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Awww, honestly, your beautiful words made my day, dear sister. I always love your wise thoughts. Thank you so much my dear friend. It may be challenging but I need to stand up once more and bear with the pain caused by her death. Still, life goes on. Once again, many thanks my dear friend. Much love from me as always.

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Congrats on your Ph.D.! 🎉🎉🎉 Take everything as a challenge, and make all objections constructive so you may continue to grow. Cheers po! ✨✨✨

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I agree with your words. Thank you so much, Mebu. Reality will always be complex, but it is a matter of accepting the challenge and never giving up, come what may. Many thanks, and have a great time!

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It is very brave of you to share such a personal journey. Your dedication to your studies and eventually receiving your Ph.D. is admirable. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. As the Stoic philosophers say, memento mori.

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Awww, thanks much, my dear friend, for your excellent remarks. You know, losing my sister was not very easy for me because we were together during the tragic event. I was the one who was only saved and she was not. Still, the memory is vividly clear although I am accepting that she was gone anymore but I am only human, it is inevitable to fell the pain. And I must say that life still goes on but I must bear the pain. She was once active here in Hive before me. My only wish is to fully accept everything. Thank you so much my friend for your attention. Have a great day!

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If there's one thing that is constant in life, people will always hate you, no matter how good you are... But one thing is to either respond to them in the same manner or love them and be kind to them.
You did a good job of not letting their attitude get to you, and not doing what they did to you...

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Indeed, my friend. In reality there would always be those rude people but it is a matter of adjustment and not putting the fire at them. I just let it be while remaining humble and kind. Many thanks for your beautiful remarks and I truly appreciate it. Blessings to you!

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You're welcome🤗. Just keep being you ❤

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Every incident in our life gives us some important lesson, and make us more strong for the future. May be for that reason life is not a bed of roses.
Losing you sister was a shock for you but at the same time it was the reality and you needed to overcome it and you did it means you are more strong now.
I know still you miss your sister and you won't forget it anytime but you know that the reality and you already accepted the reality.

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So true, my friend. I admit that it is so hard to forget it, knowing that I was the only one saved from the tragic event. I have a lot of what-ifs and I am feeling so much guilt for losing her while we were together. Thank you so much for your heartwarming words and I genuinely appreciate you stopping by. Have a great day.

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Woohoohoo🤯♥️
Congratulations Dr Pinkchic. You're victory is prove they need to know they were wrong.
Indeed I recall the passing of your lil sis, I'm sure she is super proud of her Sister, keep flying higher🎊♥️

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Awww, you are so sweet, dear. I genuinely appreciate every wonderful remark. And know that I so value your precious attention. Thank you so much for your kind words and compliments but this is just me. How sad it is to lose a sister. But this is life, it must go on and I must bear with the pain. Love you sis!
!LADY

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This is so true! We only have to strive to prove how capable we are to ourselves and not because we are trying to impress people! What achievements you have made despite the odds! I got motivated reading this because I am still in school and look forward to more out of life!

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Awww, I wish you success my dear deraa. I believe you could soar high and achieve all your dreams. Just never give up and keep going come what may. Many thanks for your wonderful remarks and blessings to you!
!PIZZA

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Amen and to you too! ❤️❤️❤️

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Quite a display of pride and prejudice. Someone who says he is modest is not. Someone who judges others as rude and envious carries the same qualities. If you yourself are not or have never been envious or rude to anyone, there would be no need to give yourself the label of nobility, you would simply be humble and kind without emphasising it. If you only wanted to prove yourself to yourself, there would be no need for pictures showing you with sash and award, your graduation from university would be a normal part of your life miles.
True modesty does not promote itself.

Unless you are enlightened or a holy person, you will be as rude, as envious and as underestimating peoples potentials as you perceive it with others, no? You would not answer that you never fail, neither in judgement nor in tasks?

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That's a great achievement. A PhD is not a small feat. Some people are threatened by the success of others around which is not supposed to be. The sky is wide enough for birds to fly without touching one another but unfortunately those that can't/refused to fly prefer others to remain like them. Show them love to in return when you get to the top.

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Indeed my friend, that’s the word threatened by the success of others. I truly value your insightful words most especially for coming here. I hope you are well. Thank you very much and have a great day!

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Thank you. Keeping moving ahead ahead.

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Never thought you felt that too. Bisag asa ra gyud diay ang naay envious and haters. Hoping you'll have your promotion soon sis.

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Indeed, everywhere sis. But all is well. Have a nice day and thanks for stopping by.

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Have you experienced it at work, sis? Before I am assigned in my station at present, I have been experiencing it. I experienced it with an envious person being known to create troubles. but I just let it be. Good thing I found my home now.

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