Reconciliation is complex, but forgiveness is vital.

It all started with a heavy heart when an unexpected moment came. I was surprised after I heard the worst news, and my nerves were shaking like I wanted to shout and cry out the pain.

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Tripping down memory lane, I always remember it as a drowning nightmare. Perhaps, he cheated, and I cannot bear the pain in my heart, for I love her. How dare he do such acts of cheating on my favorite aunt? I feel unfortunate, and I feel so bad about what happened. He cheated, and she was left hanging.

Every love story has a beautiful beginning, yet real life is not happy ever after, just like in fairy tales. The start of every love will always be overfilled with joy, happiness, kindness, and sweetness. I often say that to be in love is the best feeling, yet it is also the worst feeling in the world when things turn sour all of a sudden.

I heard about it when my mother talked over the phone with her elder sister in the States. It broke my heart when I discovered a long-time secret affair between my uncle from Hawaii and another woman from Singapore. He cheated on my aunt, and my heart cried in pain and loneliness.

Have you ever experienced being cheated on by someone you love?

All my life, I have been so good and kind to every person I met, but I am so sad to say that a friend cheated on me. Reminiscing those moments made me feel broken, and I even recalled how I was fooled timely by someone I loved many years ago. But as for me, the past is past, and I have already forgiven the things that are beyond my control.

And what had happened to my favorite aunt made me feel broke, knowing that I could do nothing but cry. They have been married for over twenty years and are both forty. There is a saying that goes, "Life starts at forty." Is it true that men do love more pleasures starting at the age of forty?

When my relatives heard about it, they said men will always be men. I hope this is not true, but I firmly believe that not all men have the same feathers, for there will always be good men who are perfect husbands and good partners. However, let me say that men are more prone to temptations, especially when a flirt makes the first move, and as well as women are also prone to temptations. This situation is such evil, and every time I hear this story, I feel like drowning myself in tears with the heaviest heart.

Consequently, when I put on others' shoes to my very own feet, I could truly understand and feel how they are going through a challenging moment in life, most especially when I could relate to the situation. It is not easy to be cheated by someone when you have given all your trust to the person you love. To be cheated is like carrying the whole world with all the heaviness and pain in the heart without someone backing up.

I could never forget those moments when I felt cheated. I was so depressed and even experienced depression. But little by little, I was healed through time as my mind was enlightened, and I started with a new beginning in learning the best lesson in my life through the most challenging feeling.

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There is no cure for cheating. When a person loves to cheat, it becomes a pleasure, but I firmly believe cheating is a choice.

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Even if others would say that once a cheater is always a cheater, it depends on the person. On the other side of the coin, people who would dare to change for the better just for the one they truly love then turn cheating into a beautiful experience to grow and be a better person than yesterday.

But will it be easy to forgive the one who cheated? Ignoring the one who cheated on you is also a choice. It would always be full of different points of view from one person to another.

Still, one thing is for sure, when you genuinely love the person, you will always accept one's flaws and imperfections, paving a promising avenue for forgiveness and giving to correct all the mistakes from the past. But if it happens once again, indeed, it is no anymore a fault, but it is already cheating.

Going back to the love story of my aunt and uncle, I do not know what happened after a secret affair. That was so painful for my aunt when she witnessed my uncle and the other woman lying in bed as they slept together in the same house. My aunt secretly followed my uncle in the Philippines, so he had no idea my aunt was coming.

My nerves trembled after discovering the secret, and I could not imagine myself if I was my aunt. My uncle cheated, and my aunt was left hanging. As of that moment, she was in deep pain, and I had not heard a single word from her after what had happened. I hope that all is well.

Could you imagine yourself if you were my aunt? How would you react to the situation? Perhaps reconciliation is complex, but forgiveness is vital.

However, despite what had happened, I always wished for their relationship to mend, for they already had many kids.

They have been together for how many decades, and indeed they will get through it.

Deep hurt feelings and misunderstandings may have occurred. Still, I firmly believe that communicating openly and honestly and working together to find a resolution can help. Yet, it would always require patience, sacrifice, effort, and a willingness to forgive the past. And that reconciliation is complex, but forgiveness is vital.

Disclaimer: All texts and pictures are my own unless otherwise stated.