An attachment problem

I have a problem, one that I didn't think was a big deal at first, until now when I'm faced with making a decision.

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When I first gained admission into the university, it was very easy for me to get up, pack my bags and leave home because we recently had moved to a new house and I didn't have any new friends there. So I had thought that I was one of those guys who found it easy to move to new places without feeling bad about the people I was leaving behind as long as those new places I was going to was going to be beneficial to me in the future but unfortunately, recent events has thought me that that isn't always the case.

For someone like me who enjoys making friends everywhere possible, the last thing I would want for myself is finding it hard to say goodbye because that would happen a lot in my kind of life, unfortunately, I'm not really big on goodbyes because I tend to get attached to people who I call friend. If I remember correctly, I have even made a post talking about saying goodbyes and how difficult it can get for me, well it turned out to be more than I can handle.

You see, recently I've been having this urge to travel down to my family house in lagos which is kilometres away from my current location, even my dad has asked me to come home but each time I make up my mind to travel and even pack my bag, I find myself being reluctant for one reason or the other and end up unpacking. I've come to realize that the reason why I was able to leave home that many years ago was because I had no one (aside from family) that I would be leaving behind, but now that I do have close friends who have been there for me through thick and skin from day one, I don't know how to leave them.

And this is eating me up because I'm literally choosing my friends over my family back at home which isn't right. I know it's wrong and that my family should come first but due to the fact that I know that me leaving would mean saying goodbye to some of these guys forever (because I might never see them again) makes it very hard because unlike friends, we can always reconnect with our family because no matter how far away they go, there will always be a way to get together with them, but sadly it's not the same for friends.

So tell me, how do you guys do it? How do you guys leave friends behind without feeling this sad? I really I need help on this topic because I have an attachment problem, one that requires immediate remedies.



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Hehehehe, let me shock you prayzz. Those your friends over there in school will leave after their graduation. It's just how life is, from one phase to another, giving us an opportunity to keep meeting new friends and new places. I understand the feeling of attachment you have for your close pals over there but I think you just have to let go and visit your family. Good enough, technology has made things so easier than before... frequent communication, chats and video calls brings a unique bond too among friends closing that distance barrier to some extent.

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I know we will all have to leave eventually.. I guess I'm just trying to elongate that time as long as possible.

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It's life. You need to leave many times even if you don't want to. I can understand it because while I was leaving my mess, I encountered the similar situation. Unfortunately, you need to leave and that will be the final decision.

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Yeah, I understand that too.. Accepting it is what's difficult.

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