Different People, Different methods

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I was taking a walk this evening when I remembered this conversation I had one time with a friend of mine and decided it will be a good topic to discuss here today.

You see this friend of mine was having some relationship issues at the time. He was complaining to me about how his girlfriend back then would literally get mad at things that to him weren't really that serious. Things that if she had done the same to him, he wouldn't react or think twice about it.

What I got from the whole story he told me that day was that he wasn't the type to get offended easily, while his girlfriend was the complete opposite, a typical situation of hot and cold. He was cold and she was piping hot (for better understanding, I meant she had a bit of an anger issues).

Now most people would say they're the perfect fit for each other as they both can't be cold or hot at the same time, there have to be a balance. But unfortunately my friend thought otherwise so I decided to give him a little piece of advise.

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You see, I've come to realize that some people treat others based on how they themselves feel, totally ignoring the fact that that other person is a completely different human being with completely different characters and behaviour. Just because you have high tolerance for bullshits and don't get upset easily even when people are being disrespectful to you, doesn't mean you can go be disrespectful to someone else and expect them not to react.

I believe it is everyone's responsibility to know their friends character and how they would react when certain things are said to them. You should know your friends tolerance level too, so you can avoid going past it and pissing them off. I for one do that a lot. There are times I had things in my mind to say but choose not to because I know this person won't get it or they just won't react the way I want them to and this is because I know them, I know how they react to things, so I go for the best solution, I keep my thought to myself or tune whatever it is I want to say to them down a bit, in a way I know they won't feel offended.

To me, I feel that's common sense and everyone should know this, especially if you've been with someone for over a year like my friend and his girlfriend.



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Treat others the way they want to be treated and not the way I want to be treated. Lovely peice💕

So sorry I'm bombarding your timeline😅 Can't help myself

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Exactly.. Treat them the way THEY want to be treated.

So sorry I'm bombarding your timeline😅 Can't help myself

It's no problem.. I'm happy you're doing that 😁

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