Know when to move on

Sometimes, we're the cause of our own problems, and sadly, a lot of this things probably won't go away until we agree to unite and work together, and by we, I mean we the men.

_{Photo by Geoff Oliver}

Late this evening, I was seated out with the bros and everyone was basically talking about women and how most ladies around here were making it real difficult for guys to go out on a date with them, and most times it's not because they don't like the guy, but because there's this general mentality for ladies that if he likes you, then he has to fight to be with you, he has to really want you before they (the ladies) could give him a chance. So what most of them do is that they intentionally keep you waiting, playing mind games with you and just keeping you close for weeks, if not months before finally agreeing to a date.

Now I don't blame the ladies, I really don't, I blame the men. Initially I was going to say I blame "us, the men" but then you see, unlike those guys who would choose to wait because they believe that someone you love is worth you waiting for them to make up their mind on if you're an option or not, that can NEVER be me.

Now before we get too deep, I would like to put it out there that all this isn't coming from a place of pride but a place of self-respect. As a man, you should be able to respect yourself well enough for you to know when to walk away from anybody and anything. Trust me when I say gone are those days where ladies had all of that power that gave them the ability to keep a man waiting for too long just to get a response from them. There are better things to invest your time in than waiting to get a yes or no answer from a lady that probably would depend on your money to get by for the duration of that relationship, and that's what pisses me off.

The fact that we're going through all of that stress, only to be the ones doing all of the work. We're the ones spending, we also have to be funny all the time and so on. There's a lot of stress involved in a relationship for it to be this stressful to get into one.

I lost it the day a female friend told me of a guy that has been asking her out for over a year now. And that is why I say that I really do not blame the women in this situations, I really don't. As a lady, you're allowed to feel pretty and give whatever conditions you feel you have to give to whoever it is asking you out, and as a man, you have to know your freaking worth and know not to hang around looking like a simp but instead walk away the moment you realize that lady isn't ready for what you have on the table.

Do not stand around, hoping that she would come around, that is very sad and unless you weren't loved at home, no one should be doing that to you, no one should have such power over you. Learn when to walk away people.

Trust me, when we all start doing that, a lot of these ladies would change their thinking time from months, down to some couple of days because they know that we wouldn't be there waiting for them if they decide to waste a lot of time thinking.

Do better people.