Knowing someone and living with them

During the years, experience has taught me that there's a huge difference between knowing someone as a friend and living with them. It has taught me that just because you guys are good friends doesn't mean you would make perfect roommates.

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During my second year in school, I knew this two female friends who were also good friends of mine who decided it would be a good idea for both of them to live together, seeing how they were both in need of roommates at the time and were already close friends. I remember they had both come to me seperately to ask me about my thoughts on the issue and I had supported it because to me, it felt like the perfect thing to do, seeing how they both were already best of friends.

Sadly, that arrangement ended up becoming a disaster as both parties would fight over every little thing. From how dirty the room looks, to who took the hairbrush and didn't return it to its usual position. Their first year together was so bad that they ended up going their seperate ways and getting different roommates the next year.

But as if that wasn't enough lesson for me to learn from, I had gone ahead and agreed to have a close friend of mine as a roommate myself. That was when I got to have a firsthand experience of the whole thing and realized my mistakes because we both would get upset about the most craziest of things. But luckily for us, unlike the ladies, we had found a way to work on our differences and had both delegated the chores that were to be done at home equally to avoid any future arguments.

If you ask me, ours ended up working out because of one simple reason and that is us being guys. Because we were able to agree that we had a problem and agreed to tackle it together, something a lot of ladies wouldn't want to do. Anyways, ever since then, I've come to realize that although choosing to become roommates with your close friends might end up becoming a good idea during the long run, you should be prepared to hit some rocks and have some crazy arguments on the way, arguments that could either make or break your friendship, depending on how matured you guys are and how much you want the friendship to work.

If you ask me, the first few months made me feel like I made a mistake but as time went on, it ended up becoming one of the best decisions I ever made.