How do you cope with frustration? A recent experience.
Have you been so frustrated by someone or something to the extent that you confront them with anger just because of how they made you so? Every human being have been with such emotion, and the only way is for us to vent our anger on them, and for some, they do that with a cracky voice, one would think they are about to cry; it's just that they have been pushed to the wall even when they had no intention of getting back at you.
If you happen to push someone to the wall and such a person finally gets to the end of it, you'd expect a turn back immediately and the outcome wouldn't be palatable at all.
Living in a particular place where everywhere is always noisy due to sounds from some companies producing different kinds of stuff, or cars and bikes moving everywhere while honking, is enough to frustrate someone especially when you aren't concentrating on a task at your table; such moment needs a quiet and peaceful environment to get things done, but stuff like this does come up that will make us keep regretting staying around such an area.
We live with different kinds of people, and being irritated is bound to happen. If you happen to live in a surrounding where there are lots of people living in it, then you'd understood what real frustration is.
Someone who is extremely disappointed because he or she couldn't complete a goal is likely to experience frustration that could lead to so many things; it can lead to negative self-talk that succeeds in a negative spiral of thinking which will suddenly lead to more aggressive behaviour from the victim, and this affects how we respond to such environment or person that causes it.
When one is frustrated, it can change someone's mindset from positive to negative and that could affect day-to-day aspects of life.
Something happened some days ago that made me frustrated which ended me up getting more angry and aggressive in dealing with such a situation because; I couldn't control it anymore even when I'd given it chance to subside, but it didn't. If I hadn't gotten up that day, the whole place would be heated up and affected me.
It was the day I got back to where I stay after leaving the village. The travelling already added to the stress I had and all I needed that night was to sleep peacefully with no disturbances, but that wasn't what I envisaged because there were some group of people who decided to disrupt the plan due to their selfish interest.
There was no light throughout that day and as usual, there is this guy who was my course mate that always help in powering up his generator for students including me to charge in the compound, while outsiders would come in to charge without asking a dime from us. It was something of an opportunity because they could have charged us if we go out to plug our phones and other things.
I wasn't in the mood to step out to charge with the socket being plugged outside as I still had some battery left on my phone. I lay down on my bed and it was as if I was hearing some noises in my dream. They woke me up with their noises, and I had to give them time to settle whatever they were arguing about, but it seems they weren't nearing the end of the discussion as the whole place got heated up. One would think there was a market of people selling and buying goods.
I felt angry, irritated and annoyed because these people aren't even part of us in the house, they were outsiders, and instead of charging whatever they brought along peacefully, and not creating any nuisance in someone's house, they decided to take over the place with their noises over the unnecessary discussion.
With anger from the inability to have a quiet and peaceful sleep, and the fact that they couldn't consider those living in the house, I rose and screamed at them to shut their mouth up because they were disturbing someone who was already asleep. Everyone kept quiet immediately because they realized they were disturbing, and knowing they aren't part of us in the house but only came to charge and they apologized.
If I hadn't come outside to do that, I believe they wouldn't stop and the frustration in me would keep growing, making me have different negative thoughts about everything around me, also, I might end up having a sleepless night which could cause migraine.
Do you think I approached the situation in the best way? What could I have done to stop the frustration in me? Being frustrated is a bad emotion and we need to be careful to avoid anything that could trigger it.
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Frustration is a part of life and we all feel frustration for various kind of reason. In my case I love to spend some lonely time with nature and it boost up my mind very much.
Yes, nature works best in overcoming frustration in us and we must not ignore that fact. Thank you.
Letting frustration reside inside us makes us vulnerable to several other negative effects. We start having tantrums. Our focus is distorted. I think what you did at that time makes sense. You were disturbed and so the others were supposed to know that they were the reason for someone's discomfort
We become vulnerable when we allow frustration resides in us without taking steps to release ourselves from it. Thank you for reading and agreeing with my step in ensuring I wasn´t too distorted but went to make them stop.
Frustration is something that everyone will experience but learning how to deal with it will really help us to avoid some mistakes.
For me I either sleep or lock myself up inside.
Hehehe... I just couldn´t sleep that night and it was because I couldn´t take it anymore, I had to do what I did so they will know someone is inside sleeping. Thank you, @marriot5464
Hahaha, you were frustrated, everybody deals with situations differently, maybe it was what worked for you.
You are right. The same thing cannot work for everyone and we must find what works best for us at that moment. Thank you.
Some situations or people will always try to frustrate us, and keeping our emotions inside can be bad and lead to a worst situation.
I think you did what you were supposed to do, by letting them know they were disturbing your peace. Sometimes speaking up and letting it out helps.
If I´d not spoken up that night, I might not like myself later though. Thank you, funshee.
Also, I appreciate your support yesterday.
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Frustration is definitely unavoidable at times. Even more so with so many stressors out there right now. The key to dealing with this sometimes lies in breathing. Breathing deeply for five minutes helps. Of course, when you need to talk, you need to talk. Knowing that sometimes we won't do it the way we might want to and that's okay, we're not perfect 😄 🙈
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I think it's normal to breathe when we are frustrated, as this might help us in what to do next. At least breathing to calm yourself and know what's next is important.
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Frustration is a negative feeling that we can all feel at any time, perhaps in these states it is good to close your eyes and breathe slowly and slowly and if possible walk away for a few minutes and stay still, often the immobility of the body can lead to tranquility of mind.
Amazing. I love this part. It's enough to just breathe and let those frustrations leave. Thanks for reading and leaving a beautiful comment.
I believe, frustration has a direct connection with the desire of something. I mean, not achieve what you truly need and want, one way or another it will consume you. And the emotion behind it, is frustration indeed. So, if you can identify what's that you want and how reach it, you can avoid frustration. Loved your post, @princessbusayo. Very educative.
Definitely, you are right. One has to identify the cause of the frustration, find a better way to stop or avoid it and that's it.
Thank you so much for reading and enjoying too.
Thank you for write this post, @princessbusayo