Manoeuvring Unfairness: Lessons Learned and Moving On!

There is something I do say whenever I come across someone being treated unfairly, and it is that, we cannot satisfy everyone. Everyone cannot be pleased, even the few persons you'd expect to do right to you will someday surprise you with the behaviour they put up at you. It is just so funny how this life is filled with cruel people, those who show no remorse when they do bad things, those who are ingrate and make you feel regretful for helping them in the first place.

Life is there for us to learn from experiences, from people and things. Life is all about learning and taking those lessons into practice.

One good thing that describes my personality is that I don't feel too sad anymore because I already know about human beings. Whatever I experience today has been done to someone else and it isn't a surprise or news to me anymore. If you have expected something coming, it won't bother you when it eventually happens because that is how life is with different people.

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Something I hate is to be treated unfairly or see someone being treated that way. Even when we don't have anything to do in return, we just let go and take some lessons from it while we move on with our lives. We just need to be careful not to be treated in such a manner again. Something I also like is to know your value and stand up to speak when it's necessary to let them know that shouldn't be. I hate ill treatment and when I see victims of such, I feel bad at them especially knowing how they have no choice — this happens when the victim has no other way but to keep enduring such treatment from bad people.

I can help in my way but when you start treating me badly, even though it would hurt me, you can never find me being depressed about it but to let go while making sure such a thing never happens again.

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I have been treated unfairly many times which hurt me for a little while and it is gone. Among them is one that happened earlier this year, January to be precise. I was posted to this public school and met other colleagues. For the first and second week of socialising with my fellow corps members, I got to know one of them was struggling especially when she approached me that she needed work to be doing after school hours to complement the allowances she gets from the Federal and State government. I pitied her and decided to introduce Hive to her.

According to her, she needed an after-school hour job, but I told her she could be doing this one (Hive) anytime she is less busy and makes some money for herself. After putting her through sign-up procedures and explaining some major things to her, she made her introductory post. The way she was making mouth that she would dedicate her time to it, I was just looking at her and smiling which I told her, we shall see.

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I never knew what was coming for me but I only did what I did for the sake of being my fellow member and knowing that I benefit from a platform, why can't I introduce her to it? I did for others but they didn't show any sign of interest, I left them alone. There is no force in this, if you want, you do it, isn't it? That is life. No one forces anyone to do something these days.

I noticed this lady would always wait for me to be around before she did anything after telling her to always chat me up, told her to be engaging which I emphasised to her even if she wouldn't be writing all the time. She wouldn't do anything unless we meet the next day. I made her know there was no way I would be less busy at work except after school hours and that is when I am home. This was why I told her to always chat me up in areas she doesn't understand. I would always monitor her and follow her up on her blog but won't do anything.

Sincerely, I did my best explaining, doing videos to guide her on what to do, make screenshots just to get it clear, but she wouldn't try it out. At least trying something on your own would make you learn. When there was no sign of her putting interest in it, I left her alone. Remember I said I don't force anyone. I was observing if she would talk to me about it, but she didn't until after a month had passed.

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One thing she wanted was for me to help her run things every time she needed to make a post, like editing (even after telling her about Grammarly), adding an image for her, creating a title etc then publishing. I was even vexed to ask what if we weren't together. I gave her instances of the people I do guide online and they get it immediately but she said she cannot learn that way unless she is with the person. I just ignored her. What if you are taking a course online? I asked her but couldn't give me a response.

After a month had passed, we were in the staff room one day and it was the day for the final rehearsal of the inter-house sports for the students. All staff were mandated to be on the field. So, I was getting ready to leave for the field when she called my attention that she wanted to make a post that I should guide her. After how many times? She already made two posts which I guided her and expected her to grasp and know how to do things. I reminded her of not engaging for the past month and now, she wanted me to guide her, even when we were going out to the field. I told her I wouldn't be able to.

As I was leaving, she started lashing out words at me, making me feel like I didn't try enough. She said some ill things I didn't expect from her. I looked at myself and rewind to how it all started and the things I had helped her with. I told her of my little sister whom I only guided once on how to make a post and she had grasped it. I told her how my sister who is younger than her was trying out things on her own without me being there with her. I was pissed at those statements she uttered. One of our colleagues met us on it and asked what went wrong. I had to share screenshots of my messages with her as evidence of how it began and even expected her to be engaging online but didn't.

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The other colleague begged me but I told her there was nothing to beg me for because I wasn't angry at all. Even though I was pissed at her statements to me, making me feel like I did something wrong, it was so unfair to me, I waved them off and didn't act as if I was hurt. We went to the field and that was it. We never discussed anything about Hive again, I decided not to say anything but it didn't stop me from relating with her on other things. I didn't let those words make me do things I would regret but understood that she was just a young lady and being childish.

That is human for you, they make you feel like you never tried, knowing how hard you went helping them out. When I decide to help someone, I go all in without expecting anything in return but it becomes unfair when you are being taken for granted or treated in the wrong way. But such is life. Just let them talk but take them as lessons to learn from. This is one experience added to your catalogue while keeping in mind human behaviour.