The Inherent Traits I Got.

They say charity begins at home and the first place of learning for a child is from the parents at home. It is why inculcating good morals into the lives of kids is so crucial to keep them in balance when they are outside. Children are known to be good observers as they learn by doing mostly. Growing up, I have learnt so much from my parents that I have decided to pass on to my kids some of them because, you know, no human being is perfect, we have flaws in us. The statement that traits are inherent naturally is something of fact, though one may not know at first, it starts shooting out that will make one say "You act like your dad or mom"


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I have known my Dad to be this gentle and humble man that sometimes, I get mad at him when he bows to greet those younger than him. This act doesn't bother him as he always greets everyone that passes by or he meets on his way, both young and old ones. I have on several occasions told him the young ones are supposed to be greeting and not him doing that as it is a sign of respect from young ones to the elderly ones, he would smile and tell me it doesn't matter who did it first. When I saw I couldn't stop him, I started doing the same too. This trait has made it easier for me to do because it is something I have started with from a young age. I greet everyone not regarding one's age or position and that goes with a smile as I would respectfully bow and kneel where necessary.

I can greet as many times daily as my friends would ask if greeting doesn't get me tired, I told them it is something I do easily. There was a time I travelled for some weeks and when I returned and decided to get something at the market, there were people who kept asking if I travelled because they noticed I wasn't around as they believed if I passed through the market, I will greet as many people as I can including those I do not know.


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Dad is so much a giver and so generous with everything he has. He doesn't mind giving his last kobo on him and it is what I am happy doing today. Also, he loves kids a lot. No wonder my love for children cannot be fathomed. When he sees kids around, he happily plays and jokes with them. A lover of children I would call him. His gentleness, generosity, loving and kind traits are what I got from this man and would happily transfer them to my kids because these are traits that give one peace. With me practising these traits, my life has been amazing and I have not encountered any trouble whatsoever.


Now to my mom. A strong woman. A submissive woman to the core. If there was one trait I got from my mom, it was her submission as a wife to her husband. In my past relationships, I exercised this trait, even though the guys could not value it. My childhood and best friend told me one day that the man who would tie the knot with me someday would be lucky to have me and I know that myself. Thanks to my mom who passed this trait on to her children.

My mom surrendered herself to respect my Dad and I watched her doing this with ease which has made me decide to continue this trait when I get married and also to teach my kids why it is important to be submissive to one's partner irrespective of who they are. She was always gentle when in hot arguments with my Dad and would not flare up in the presence of her children which they would resolve within themselves without us knowing about it.

There would surely be arguments in marriage but it is important not to have such in the presence of kids as they easily observe and grow up with such a nature. I would want to pass on this trait to my future kids too because it is necessary to keep the home going smoothly and well.

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Thanks for your time reading. Looking forward to your interaction.

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Awwww
Is that why tosin always call me sir every time. Aha. I’ve tell her, we are brothers and sisters from same state so relax on the sir but she continues and chatting with you, I know you to be a very calm person. You don’t seem like the person that would always want to get into a fight.

It’s a good trait you’ve gotten from your parent.

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Hehehe,,, let her continue to use sir oo. Lol
I am a calm person oo but what I do not like is when I am being taken advantage of on that. Fight is always far from me because I have no strength at all.
Thanks for reading, Fash.

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Wow, Princess, your dad has a good character. Always greeting everyone with a smile, regardless of age or position. It's funny how you tried to stop him from bowing to greet younger people, but he just kept at it. And now, you've picked up the habit too. It's amazing how these little traits can shape us.

And your mom, what a strong and submissive woman she is. Taking after her in valuing submission in relationships shows a lot about your upbringing. It's beautiful to hear how you plan to carry on these family traits into your own life and future family.

It's true, the lessons we learn at home truly do shape who we become. Cheers to passing on those valuable traits and keeping the peace at home

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Exactly, the lessons we learn shape who we are and that is the truth.
I couldn´t stop my Dad from greeting the younger ones when they should be the ones according to him respect but I realised that it is part of being respectful and humble and such traits do not remove an inch from you. Thank you for reading, dear.

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Hmmm don't worry your future husband will enjoy all that when he finally find his way to you. My dad was calm too but my mom gets angry a lot and that I took from her which I always try to control ever since I became adult.

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Please, do control the anger aspect oo. I got that from my dad as well but I started learning how not to get angry easily and I am doing well now. Anger isn´t something good at all

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And why did you think you could stop an adult from his humble greetings..so interesting that you later got contagious with this traits and it has become part of you. Your dad is generous and now I know the root of your generosity. This is actually a nice trait. I respect women who gives their partner their deserved respect just like your mum. It's going to be a good trait you should pass down to your future children

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Hehehe, I thought I could change him but I couldn´t. Instead, I imbibed such a trait and it´s something worth it today for me. Thank you, mama ❤

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This is very very interesting. They say a good woman is always hard to find, but then your Mom really sounds like a really good woman, I mean, you father must have shined his eyes well well you see her...

Well, other men must shine their eyes well to see what you have too, cause you sef have a lot.
I do admire your combination, you'd make a wonderful wife material.

Don't mind those other exes of yours, they say you might not know the worry of what you have until you loose them.

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Hahaha, yes, he did.
I got that trait from my mom which I am grateful for.
Thank you, Zara for such kind and lovely words from you.

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That greeting this is so much a part of myself as well. A certain old woman once greeted me first when I was forming and didn’t want to greet, ever since that day I greet even animals in the street. It’s is a worthy character.

You have a lovely family dear, that picture entered my eyes.

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It happens to me sometimes too. Just two days ago, I never greeted this fuel attendant before since I arrived in this town, but when he first greeted me, I felt guilty at first and since then, I do the greeting first.

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I get mad at him when he bows to greet those younger than him.

This one got me laughing 😅
The humility from our father's days are topnotch. It's very rare to see Gen Z daddies behaving like this

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You are right. Those fathers couldn't be changed from their habits of greeting and respecting. Nowadays, who cares? Lol

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Your dad is a great man and I am glad you learnt a lot of awesomeness from him.

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Yes, he is. Thank you so much.

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