One more level up for the mommy

Hello, how often do you get into situations where you can't or don't know how to handle your child? What if he doesn't speak yet or only says 20 words?

Well, you are not alone. And I am in the same situation. According to many parents, it was called baby puberty. The child was refusing to do things that up until a month or even a week ago he was doing with pleasure like drawing, eating a variety of food or even sleeping.

Again, I will repeat myself in the same situation I am in. Fortunately my son quickly learned that when something refuses to give him for example a sharp knife, a large saucepan to put his shoes in or stirring boiling soup with a coffee spoon thrashing or demonstratively throwing things on the ground or roaring incessantly does not help. Yes he still does them, but it's all over in seconds. Once this little emotional breakdown of his is over, I squat down next to him because most of the time he's on the ground probably complaining to all the gods that his mom won't let him go in the laundry I ask him what I can do to help, if this thing he wanted is very important to him and.. honestly I don't get to the second question sometimes because he's already calmed down and is hurriedly standing up to make some other mischief.

But that's not the kind of success I wanted to talk about today. My success is with putting him to sleep. The last few months have been really hard, especially after the chicken pox we both got - yes we were both sick. At some point his internal clock had decided it wasn't good to sleep at night. He had already given up on afternoon sleep but was catching up on morning sleep. He would fall asleep around 9pm then wake up around 11pm and by 3-4-5-6am he wanted us to do things, play, eat, bathe him or more accurately he bathed me because he would grab the shower nozzle and by the time I reacted he was soaking me all over. He was waking up between 10:00 and 12:00 noon.

A few days ago we decided it was time to remove his crib and get him into a bed suitable for him. Honestly the first night I thought it was going to be real hell because he was used to his crib, after all it had some barriers and no matter how much he rolled around there was no chance of him falling. To my surprise, maybe because of the joy that something had changed he fell asleep all alone at 12:30 in the evening. The next night, with my help, he was asleep at 12. The next day his dad was at work night shift - they must have been chatting something up because the little one fell asleep around 9 and a bit. When I told his father what happened here he told me that he and the little one had an agreement that if he fell asleep on time he would give him his ice cream. Interesting, apparently it works. Last night the little one was too tired from all day and fell asleep for about 3 minutes while I was stroking his hair. Today's situation..he's been asleep for half an hour and the time is now 11:26 our time.

What did I do?

I came to the conclusion that when he is distraught when I put my hand on his head in a certain spot he calms down. I put my hand on his fontanel with my whole palm as my index finger follows his hairline. This way he falls asleep in about 3 minutes! When I think about how many nights I've had where I've felt powerless that I can't get my child to sleep I get downright furious and then sad at how much I've suffered myself and the little guy who wanted to feel my hand.

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