FRIENDS, FRENEMIES AND ENEMIES......

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Life is just like a game of chess where there will always be a winner, looser or a tie, chess is one of the game that I know takes a lot of time while playing, it also depends on your opponent intelligence and understanding on how well to use his or game players to their advantage...

One thing I like about chess is that it's also applied to the rule of life, it helps in some certain decision making, I didn't know of this until I saw in both Korean and Chinese series...

I saw how well two rulers plan to rule over the world with just a game of chess and it was then I knew it helps in decision making, watch WHO RULES THE WORLD and you will understand better...

That was a bit of digression but my main point from the introduction is to tell you that in life, there are different types of people, the friends, the enemies and the frenemies, you need to be wise, intelligent and tactful while dealing with these sets of people...

In life we have friends that will help your life journey this set of people are called FRIENDS...

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we have some that fake loving and supporting you but deep down they are waiting for your downfall but because of the benefits they are enjoying from you they don't want you to depart from them, to me they are called FRENEMIES...

The third set are the ones who makes it obvious that they don't care about you, if you live or die, it's non of their business, these set of people are known as your ENEMIES...

Unfortunately for us, life has given us all these set of people but what can we do than to either go far away from them or learn how to play a smart game of CHESS where you make them the pawn in your game before they think of you...

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Can you all now see why I compared life to a game of chess, you will either win frenemies and make them friends and you will either defeat your enemies or make them you friends and all this is done with intelligence, understanding, patience, and with God...

A chess game is not played by anyone but for the brilliant mind and sound brain :brain::brain: and that is what I have been learning for some weeks now, I want to learn how to play chess...

       HAVE I SHARED AN ENCOUNTER WITH FRENEMIES???


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Hmmmm this is indeed a tough question but I think I have in one way or the other encountered many because I keep friends a lot and it is surely bound to happen...

Well I won't lie to you all, I don't put all my trust in my friends, I have many friends and i trust just few of them I trust them enough to tell them secrets that whether they share it or not, it isn't going to harm me because in one way or the other it wasn't really a secret but a test to know their loyalty and how covered their mouths are...

There was a time I had a friend in high school, well he and I were close, very close that we eat together and do stuffs together, we even go to each others house and I thought that was the definition of best friend until I realised his best friend was another and I considered him my best friend...

We share secrets with each other and other things like talking bad about teachers, crushes and many more stuffs in the class, if you are a guy that goes to mixed school, you will understand...

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There was a time I told my so called best friend about my newest crush, what I like about her, what attracts me to her and how I wish we will end up together as couple in the future Lol :joy::joy::joy::joy:..

Damnn I was in junior secondary class back then I was already thinking of future lol, thinking about it now look crazy swears...

I shared everything with him and one thing about me is that anything tagged a secret is always kept a secret by me no matter the situation...

Including when we have heated fights and argument that leads to us going our separate ways for weeks, I will never alter any word to a living soul...

It happened between me and this my so called best friend, we had a heated argument and the next thing was him spewing everything out and it didn't stop there , he brought my crush and told her everything from A-Z, I didn't believe what I was hearing and I countered him back to back to make everyone thinks he is jealous and luckily for me my other friends backed me and that was how I didn't loose face in the school and at the end my so called best friend was crying after they all turned against me...

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Did I do wrong??, he wanted to defame me but I was a step ahead of him and he ended up getting shamed, all this happened because I trusted him to keep all this thing's even when we fight but he was a loose tongue...

That was how I reshuffled my friend and I let him go...

I went to him to reconcile but deep down I ended up my intimacy with him and since then I started treading with caution and wisdom...

     HAVE I EVER BECOME A FAKE FRIEND TO ANYONE??..

Well to myself NO, to others maybe yes because since that incident, I have never once trusted all my friends because I don't know who they are when we have argument, so I make friends with lot's of people...

The only thing I can say I do is that I talk about a person's act that pains and offend me to a third party, let me explain...

I am in a group friendship, that's a friendship of 4 and whenever I have an encounter with one of them and I try to settle it with you and you are still claiming Wright when you are obviously wrong, I will sit our other friends down and explain the matter to him or her....

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The person I explained too will try to go talk to the person who is wrong to set things wright but guess what????

He ends up calling me a fake and unreal friend because I went to tell the crowd when I shared with only our group friends..

This is the most encounter I find myself in and I think they must have think of me as a fake friend..

Gone are the days where I beg friends to stay with me but now, if you leave or fuck up, you get replaced and if I fuck up and don't apologize even after you tell me, please replace me ...

In conclusion, these are the few encounters I have heard with friends and frenemies...
Be wise while dealing with friends to avoid falling into trap...

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     THANKS FOR READING :zap::zap:


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It is better not to trust anyone wholeheartedly so you won't be disappointed. I had a friend back then. She is the only child and her parents are actually very rich. We were best friends. She makes sure she buys double of whatever thing she buys—one for her and the other for me. So, one day we fought and then she told everyone that I was a beggar that I always collect things from her. The truth is I never asked her to give me. It pained me o.

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Lol 🤣🤣🤣 that is very crazy Lol 😂😂 but thank God you are not like her and that is her problem lol...
Thanks for stopping by dear...

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hm my dear i had a similar story like that this one was bearing the same name with me, i thought we were good to go as friends sharing secret together until we had a little misunderstanding she went to tell people about the things we share, my mom heard about it and told my dad, he was very angry with me and stop me from using my phone. since then I don't think I can trust someone like that because i may not know their level of maturity.

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Lol 🤣🤣🤣 indeed my dear, we have learnt our lesson thank you for stopping by my dear..

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It's always a pleasure to stop by your blog 🥰

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Too bad, I don't know how to play chess but I admire people who relate the game to life situations.

It is impossible not to have friends who aren't happy with you. They pretend to be everything to you until they have the opportunity to strike you.

I have many of them but they have only tried but didn't hurt me. My family happens to be my best friend, my secret and everything is safe with them so I barely get too intimate with friends.

I have them but I am into shallow relationships with most of them.

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Wooow Good job my friend and thank you for your beautiful contribution ✅❤️

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These are things we already know, no matter how you feel you don't trust someone, you will still end up telling them something important that you might regret telling them but then we all know that nothing can be hidden forever, if that person did not say it, one day you might still say it but that's if it's a case of truth and lies.

I don't trust people because they are humans after all and so am I, I always try my best not to lie to people and also not to keep secrets but then I do not just tell people things about me, I can only do that when they ask and if after I tell them and they chose to tell others, yes it will hurt me but it was actually expected.

Enemies that I have are the ones that say they are my enemies, I just like seeing people just as they are and follow their lead.

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Lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣 welcome my dear longest time Lolz 😂🤣🤣🤣 thanks for stopping by my Angel lol 🤣🤣

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Hahaha, it's obvious that you are high 😂😂, who is angel again oo, na wa wetin my eyes nor go see 🤣🤣🤣

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Lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you are welcome my love, you go still complain lol 😂😂🤣..
How I go satisfy you lolz 😂🤣🤣🤣..

Longest time lolz 😂

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@quduus1 continue to maintain your stand as a friend to those that deserve it and keep building your trust, you will always get a good friend that will be like a brother to you.

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Indeed my dear, thank you for stopping by my post...

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