The Melancholy Friend

Hey guys!
It's an amazing day and I trust y'all are doing amazingly great...

In the journey of friendship, I've a friend who got me researching... 🤣 The challenge our relationship faced from time to time was the inability of understanding our differences. There were times she'll practically go off... such that you can't reach her through phone calls or any social media handle 😔. It was quite frustrating 😒. If I ever had the opportunity to see her, she'll put up an attitude and will request for her space and privacy. There was a time I was fade up with the entire drama... I knew that I was melancholy but then mine wasn't that chronic... I mean, I'll not put my relationship at stake because of mood swings. A friend once told me that she cannot tolerate mood swings. From her point of view, she reasoned that it's a selfish act. She made a scenario and took be down the imaginary lane; imagine that you have a friend who you relate with and are close to and all of a sudden a new day breaks and you're seeing a different person... She said it's selfishness seeing that she'll only talk to you when she wants to; so she'll blackout on you without telling you why and will expect to come back to meet the relationship with the initial energy and a smooth one at that.

I almost gave up on the relationship but I was able to access a book "Why you act the way you do" by Tim Lahaye. The book explained in-depthly the weakness and strength of a melancholy. I had more Insight on her temperament and I was ready to accept her the way she was. The following day, I took the book with me when I went visiting and I read out all the melancholy characteristics to her. She could not stop laughing. I realized that I was able to earn her trust, because then, she told me that she's always thought that nobody understands her. When she realized that she's not the only one who has the temporal mood change and that it's normal for a melancholy, she was happy and was able to see herself less of burden to friends around her. Actually, she knew that her friends go through a tough time but then, she expected them to be more resilient and stay supportive through that phase of her life untill she's good to run again.

I was able to make her realize that I am a melancholy and that I don't wear my emotions on my sleeves because I can decide that I'll control my emotions. I told her that she's loved and never alone in whatever challenge she faces and that I'll appreciate if she makes me a part of her daily challenge. It worked like magic 🤣😊☺️ her mood changed and she was so excited to know that I'll always have her back.

All thanks to " Why you act the way you" if you read this book you'll appreciate people's varying characteristics and you'll be able to relate with them based on their peculiarity.