Forgiveness Is a Choice, Not an Obligation

Hello everyone, welcome to another blog of mine. Today I'll be discussing about forgiveness, that if we should forgive someone and if everyone is worthy of it. I'll share my personal experience. To be honest, there are so many times I have mistakenly did something wrong which was unintentional and when I seek forgiveness, I expect them to forgive me. But if someone wants to forgive or not it's their personal choice. So, I really can't decide it for someone else but I can decide it for myself.
I feel if someone has done something unintentionally then it should be looked over, a solution must be given and not drag it for a long run. Someone who admits their mistake has the capability to learn from their mistakes, so they deserve a second chance for not being ignorant.
Last year I gave money to few people they were once my friends. We have been friends for years and they decided to betray me. When I asked for my money they filed a false case against me saying that I took their money but never returned. I was really depressed after this incident, I could not sleep. I did not care about money that much, the only thing that had hurt me the most was that I considered them as my but they never did.
During that phase, I was going through financial crisis and my wife had to sell her gold jewelry, not because I asked her to. Because she wanted to help me. I felt very bad that I made my wife go through such tough situation. I don't know if I can ever forgive my old friends truly. I swore not to ever forgive them because of them my family had to suffer a lot. I can't forget the painful and struggling days. I had asked them to at least return the half of the money so I could carry the expense of my daughters education, but they ignored me several times.
I still feel the pain, after that I stopped trusting people. Now I only trust my instincts which is not that good but I'm improving within time . I felt angry and betrayed. I will never forgive them. Every time I remembered what happened, the old feelings came back.
However, forgiving someone does not mean what they did was acceptable. Sometimes they do think of that every time they will get away with it. I would only forgive someone when the issue is not that big. I can't move on easily but still I would try to forgive if it's only acceptable to me. I don't want someone else to decide it for me. I feel forgiveness is given due to the situation. We should forgive people but not everyone deserves a chance. Someone who keeps repeating it intentionally, I usually confront and avoid them.
My life is very simple, I do not need toxic people there. That is why even if forgive someone, but I do not forget about it.
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Well done on your daily Ecency leaderboard quest, @rayhanhiveman! Your reflections on the importance of forgiveness are truly heartfelt and deeply thought-provoking.
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Thank you 🙂
You're very welcome, @rayhanhiveman! 😊