A long-lost friend.

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I didn't meet her for over 5 years now. We had a serious conflict about our ethical standards and we both decided that it's better we choose our own path.

Yes, I still call her 'friend' but we don't talk anymore!

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All my university years were well spent with her, we were very good friends. We used to live in the same dormitory at university but in separate rooms though. You can guess how much time we used to spend together. There was nothing we didn't know about each other, there was nothing we would keep secret.

But things happen, you know. We sometimes choose the wrong path, we do unethical things.

She kept what she did secret but I got to know about that from others. It broke my heart knowing she did that. She used to be a different person from me. I realized that it can happen, people change and so as their values...

We had a huge argument over the situation. She accepted her deed but surprisingly, she didn't accept it as a mistake. That was a breaking point for me. I know I shouldn't call her names but I was mad. I know I should listen to her side as well but I was mad.

And so she decided to end our friendship!!

When I realized my mistakes I tried to catch up with her though in my heart I was feeling like she shouldn't take the path in the first place. Unfortunately, she decided to end it right there. Since then we don't talk anymore, we don't see each other anymore.

After a few years, I came to know that now she approves that she was wrong. But we didn't get back. I don't know if we ever would be able to because I wouldn't feel comfortable around her anymore.

Why I'm sharing all this?

I came to realize that people change. They can be good at one point, bad at the other, and probably good again. We should be open towards them, and guide them as much as we can. On the other hand, it's also okay to cut off if you think you can't keep up. Because in adult life it's pretty common to not match each other. It will hurt but it's not the end of the world. Try to find out if you were the AH. If not then you have nothing to do with the other person's decision.

On top of everything, it's okay to lose someone you used to call a friend. Move on.

Thing happens, be strong with what you believe in, choose the right path...the rest is not in your hands.

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Rightly said, @rem-steem do your best the rest is not in your hands
It is true that Peoples change but something must make them to change, just as it was the case of your friend, what she keeps from you may be something you wouldn't feel happy about, if really she did let you know at the initial time.

She keep it away from you for a reason and which I believe if it was now you wouldn't have bother about it, such us life, I guess at that point, you didn't understand that at some point peoples keep some secret away from others and not because they do not like that Person again but because of one reason or the other which may either hurt the person.

But one thing is for sure, you two or still friends because sometimes you would feel yourself missing some things you used to do with her, maybe the way she talked or how she behaves, so I think calling her now is awesome 🤗.

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I understand what you are saying. In my case, I was not mad because my friend hide something. But because I couldn't stand her standard. I know she knew I wouldn't that's why she decided to not share that with me. For example, if you decide to rob a bank and I find out later; I wouldn't be your friend from that day, no matter what excuses you come up with/validate your action. That's what I tried to say.
But there's no argument that she is a very lovable person and a good human. I wish she understand someday what she did wrong.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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It was for the good, such is Life.
It was nice reading from you. 🤗

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