No regret for cutting off some people from life!

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When I came to realize I need to make the move, I felt numb for many days. All I was thinking about was what would be the aftermath?

But guess what? Now I can proudly say that I cut off some toxic people from life and I have no regrets about it. Moreover, I feel free, good about myself in many ways.

If you are still in the phase where you don't feel the need to get rid of some people, then I must say, life is still treating you really well. For me and for many, it's not the same. The thing is, it was never like we choose the wrong people to enter in our life. Rather, what I came to realize is people change, their priority changes. And that's okay.

But what is not okay is letting others make your life difficult.

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How did I do that?

There are three parts to this.

  • Realizing that there are people who don't add any value, makes your life difficult.

  • Taking the big move.

  • Dealing with the aftermath.

All three of these are difficult. It takes a lot to understand, take action and deal with everything that happens after.

As I was saying, I felt numb for many days when I realized it's time to cut them off. They were three of my friends, two of my relatives. I analyzed for a whole month or maybe more about what value they are adding. With no surprise, I found that they add nothing rather tie myself up with so many unnecessary things that I don't want to deal with them anymore.

Gradually I reduced my communication, calling and texting, meeting up with them. With two of them, I had to confront that they are not the same person anymore like me, I can't support all they are doing in life. And it's better to go in different ways.

Believe me, it was not as tough as I thought. Yes, maybe if I think too much about their feeling, then it would seem challenging. But I gave myself a priority.

And it doesn't take me much to deal with the aftermath. Because I was very clear about my point, I was right from my perspective, I choose what seems ethical to me. So I stand strong on this.

If you are thinking of making the big move, I would say, do it. Life is not always the same, it's okay to not get with some people and it's fine to get rid of some. People change just like we also do. Take what it needs to boost your self-esteem, what it needs to make your life easy. You should always be your priority, right?

Give this a second thought if you are in the same boat and never feel regret or guilty for doing so.

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When we see that some people who we choose as friend are causing a lot of damage and making things difficult for us, we should cut off them to make us feel comfortable and have peace of mind

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I simply try to ignore such people 😂 slowly "erasing" them somehow. It's tough, it'll take time for some people, but it does work and come into effect rather sooner than later when dealt with.

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Yes, ignoring them works best. But if it's friends or family, we have to talk about this so many times with others like why we don't act the same anymore.
Gradually everyone else understand and we can choose the path that's best for us.

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Realizing that there are people who don't add any value, makes your life difficult.

this type of parson are very painful . They think they are doing right thing but i am wrong and i can't do anything. This type of people made us depressed. Need to cut off them from the list......

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That's true. Sometimes we also think that we are right. What I came to realize it, it's okay to choose a different path if we doesn't match any more.

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Taking the big move.

This is the most important part to implement because we do realize the damage we are inhaling but don't know how to take the step. For me, it always starts with ignoring and ends up with a silent cut-off.

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It's okay, it takes time to cut off. For some reason, with two of my friends I had to make it clear that I can't continue our friendship/support their unethical standard.
No matter what steps we take, it's always hard but it pays off by improving our mental health.

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I cut off so many people from my life in 2021 and at the end of the year I was so glad I did that.

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The thing is, it was never like we choose the wrong people to enter in our life. Rather, what I came to realize is people change, their priority changes. And that's okay.

Agree because it's human nature, we change. But sometimes we just don't understand who is compatible with us, with whom we can adjust. People easily can blame each other but I personally think everybody has their own perspective. But yes, it's better to stay away from toxic and negative people and never let them ruin our life...

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You said it right. A matured relationship never works without shared interest and ethics.
Maybe we grew up together, maybe we were friends for decades but now if we change, it's better to make the move than trying to fit it. The second option makes it worse.
Thanks for sharing your opinion.

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Good relations should be maintained with everyone. Friendship is like a shadow.
Remember that those who can do harm can also do good.

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Nope, not everyone deserve my time nor I'm here to take any help from them. I would stay far away from those that doesn't add any value to my life, those who are not in same ethical standards like mine.
I understand your point but this is what I came to realize works best for me.
Thanks for sharing your opinion.

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This is a huge decision, fine cutting off people especially as you have highlighted, people not adding value its all good, but i always feel, what happens it others do cut us off too from their lives. I think we should focus more on tolerating each other and calling people in order! Like heyyo do you know you can do this thing for me and i will appreciate it. You know people coild actually add colors to our lives just that they don't know how to come in

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I understand what you are saying. I would love to not calling out from certain people. It not like I can't tolerate them but more like what they are doing, I can't support them ethically. So it's better to cut off.
There are many people on my list who I don't prefer hanging out with but never cut them off. They may add no value but I respect them.
There are difference on this. I hope you understand what I meant.
Thanks. Have a good day.

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