RE: The feeling of inferiority and why we should stop having it in mind

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Yes is true, Obinna got into an unpleasant place at a wrong time, and he was beaten, they took away all his belongings.

He was given First aid but the scar still remains, Samuel was only trying to feel for him, he felt sorry for what had happens to him, but he didn't knew how to put his words and when he needed to, because everything has time, if you place any words at a wrong time, it will become a problem, I quickly noticed it that, although his intentions is genuine, he does not know when to ssy it and how he should go about it, I tried to stop him from saying more of what he was saying because I observed that it would make him Obinna furious and at last, would make him feels inferior, which is what I do not like at all, or want anyone to have that feelings.



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That was good of you. It is hard. So many people are insensitive to other people's feelings, even when they don't intend to be cruel. That can be even more cutting sometimes.

I am also sorry to hear that your friend was injured. That is awful. Violence is a sad and terrible thing.

I usually believe the truth is best, but if a scar looks quite bad, it might be best to shelter a friend from that truth until the friend is psychologically ready for that (if ever). Instead, it might be better to find ways to not notice the damage (which can be tricky in some cases) and to treat our friend as "normal." This reminds the person that the damage was only skin deep.

I think sometimes, it is easy to forget that surface damage or ugliness is not important. We meet people who are ugly deep inside themselves and can accept it more readily than a scar, but the scar only shows a single misfortune whereas when someone has internal ugliness, that is much harder.

If your friend who is scarred ever seems to be in despair about the scarring, this is important to remember. I am not religious, but religious teaching can be helpful for those who are. For example, a minister or pastor can explain that the body can be scarred while the spirit or soul is not. That can be very healing, depending on a person's beliefs.

You were very kind to your friend in my opinion.

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You are really right, Thanks so much for your kind words

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