Composure

Attaining balance in life will be one of your toughest bargains; yet, maintaining it will be tougher.

To maintain balance, one has to hover somewhere around the middle of holding on, and sometimes letting go.

It's the same thing for stress, most of the times at least. You'll never be fully "stress-free", because we're sometimes too arrogant, and would rather hold on than let go. Also, just when you get rid of one stress causing mess, there'll always be a new quest waiting for you, just around the corner.

The good thing is, we are in control of our responses to these tasks and quests.

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If you choose to stress about the past, which is something you can't change, then you're just wasting your energy and your very limited time. Instead, take a deep breath, analyze, and let yourself know that the past is now something which is totally out of your control.

So, it's now better to try and focus on your present and future.

Yes, non of it will get rid of the problem then and there, things won't be as jolly and amusing instantly, but you'll be one step closer to being "stress-free".

At the end of the day, life is all about a few good habits and restraint.

The problem with this "modern world" is that we now have way too many options, which to me seems like the leading cause of unnecessary stress.

"I need to get that new furniture"
"I need that new iPhone"
"I need go on another shopping spree"
"I need a bigger house"

Do you? Do you really "NEED" all of this?

It's a good to aim high, you should aim high, but you should also hold the ability to differentiate between your needs and your "wants". All these wants and a huge bucket list of unnecessary things only add to your stress levels. The urge to have it all, here and now, is what's playing with your mind, poking you repeatedly.

Where does it end? This big list of wants and the lack of patience.

We lack gratitude, that's what I've noticed. To get rid of that extra bit of stress, to maintain and advance towards a life of balance, you must take a step towards gratitude first.

We now heavily promote the idea of "excess"; simplicity and temperance is now a thing of the past. Which is why nowadays, most us fail when we're out there in search of "happiness" and "balance".

"Every situation in life is temporary. So, when life is good, make sure you enjoy and receive it fully. And when life is not good, remember that it will not last forever, and better days are on the way" - Bruce Lee

About 4 to 5 years ago I saw this quote on some social media platform, and it hit me.

I still have it my gallery and on my Instagram.

Now, it wasn't anything life changing, but it was another addition to my cause. To be positive, to be grateful, always being realistic.

Because at that time, I truly was lucky to be alive. Throughout the period of 2015 - 2016 I was very close to the door to the after-life. As I was diagnosed in a critical condition with a life threatening disease, which had struck fear into the hearts of my loved ones, soon enough, even my extra optimistic side started to believe that I was as good as gone, but I survived.

And here I am, or maybe it's a clone?

After I was done with all my treatments and meds in April of 2016, I then embarked on a journey of self-improvement.

Being grateful for my life, for the ones around me and for everything I have. When I started to look around and pay attention, I realized that I had everything hat money can't buy. Trustworthy friends, a supportive family, also the knowledge, confidence and foundation to take myself and the ones around me to greater heights.

At this point in life, all the stress that is present in my mind is my own doing. You really can't get rid of it all, but balance is achievable, and just remember, whatever the circumstances maybe, this too shall pass...

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