Hello everyone, the topic that I am going to talk to you today really has to do with self-control, self-control in the end is something that depends entirely on us, although we often believe that it is impossible not to react to external things and that many times it seems that It is justified that we should jump because obviously it is impossible not to jump into such a situation.

Above all, it happens in situations in which we don't like someone, someone insults us or someone says a comment that we don't like very much to speak clearly, it has taken me many years to have self-control, in fact I think it was one of my weakest points and I continue to improve because I believe that human beings do not exercise it until they truly understand why they have to have self-control.

Many times we think that we have to have self-control because you have to be a good person and well, typical things that your grandmother would tell you so that you do not do anything wrong, but today I want to explain to you why you should have self-control so that you understand it because I believe that when things are understood the more likely you are to do them, the more it takes to do it and not understand it.

I think there has to be an understanding at the beginning, you are not going to understand it 100%, in fact, I am going to make a big difference between understanding and understanding, for me understanding is that I explain this to you and you are going to understand and you are going to saying it makes sense, but until you put it into practice for a short time and see it you will not truly understand it, there are things that you have to experience in your own skin so that you fully understand them.

One of the things that you have to be very clear about, so that you understand me, we have two responses, when a conflict arises, something arises to which we want to react, there are two responses, one is literally instinctive, one is your most animal instinct, one instinct of your emotions springing up and another is your true response, it is the correct decision that we must make, to pay attention to that impulsiveness, to say "okay, I'm going to the right option."

You have to avoid that animal response, which is almost totally uncontrollable and affects your emotions, like, for example, when you interact with someone you don't know and that person tells you something that you don't like, but what happens when I get my instincts out, I'm encouraged by it, no? Deep down I would have felt good saying something worse, and that controls my emotional state, that is, a stranger has the power to make me emotional and lead me to anger.

That is what you have to think, if you are developing personally and someone comes to bother you, that way you cannot fall or be mentally weak; Sometimes we want to show our character, but do it for yourself, you don't gain anything to that person, it's not worth it.

Your emotions will always want to say that, your emotions will always want to spring forth, they will want to react, but you have to understand that when you react it is towards you, towards that impulsiveness, towards this uncontrollable situation that has overcome you.

That does not mean speaking clearly and one thing is that you are talking to a normal and ordinary person and you have to introduce a higher tone, clarity so that that person understands it well and you set a limit or because you are teaching him something and still Obviously it depends on what your role is.

And to conclude, sometimes we believe that speaking clearly is bad and not speaking clearly is very good, but you have to know when are the right moments to speak clearly.