Dear Love: I don't put it into words, I show it through my actions.
It's funny how I effortlessly put into words the love I had for my ex, but for my own family, I can't do it easily. The feeling is like I have a big lump in my throat that's stopping me from using my mouth to say it face-to-face with them. It is just so hard to open my mouth to say it all, to be honest.
I still remember that time I had with my last boyfriend, almost 7 years ago. And how I can whisper sweet nothings to him, assuring him how much I like him, but that was in chat, text, or call. It's easy doing it that way and to pass it on to him or make him feel it, I will just use my finger to let him know.
As for a call, I don't take calls that often. I hate calls, ever! and they know that. I can use my finger to type all the messages I want to tell them, but not in a call. I am a silent type of person, and I hate talking. "Let's just let our fingers do the talking and not our mouth," lol. Yes, yes, that's me, lol.
And yes, again, I don't know how to express my feelings to them without being embarrassed, so I will just tell it that way. But this is only for my boyfriend; as for my family, we are really not vocal about showing our love to each other. But I know that they love me as much as I love them.
And, just so you know, I only said "I love you" to my mother once; that was graduation day. I don't know; I just blurted it out to them; even Mommy D got surprised when I said it. I just want to let them know how thankful I am. If you'll remember, I shared in my recent article how I resented them.
But all of my hatred vanished after I finished school. I love them all, and I am very thankful to them, and I know they feel it. I just let them feel it through my actions. I also chose to stay here with them because I want to take care of them. They are already old, so doing this is surely a big help.
And that's another way to let them know that I love them. I nag at them when I see that they are already neglecting their health by eating food that is not allowed to them. Through this, I can let them know that I care and that I want them to take care of themselves. I still want to be with them.
I get mad if I have to; I say what I want to say to them, but only with the purpose that I want them to love themselves more. I remind them of this and that to show that I give attention to them. My way is kind of twisted, but I know they understand me. I only want the best for them, as they do for me.
I don't need to say it all because I can just show it through my actions. I greet them on every birthday, Christmas, Valentine's Day, and any other celebration that will pass by. I hug and kiss them as a show of love. A simple act, but enough to make them feel special, loved, and cared for.
And we already have such a strong connection to each other that we don't need to say it all. Just look at it and feel it. and that's how I care for them. That's how I feel about them, love. That is my way, or our way.
So yeah, that's how we love.
How about you?
And here's my tree motherbels. I am single and not ready to mingle that is why I am putting all my love to them, of course that includes my siblings hehe. We are not sweet to each other but we care.
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It might be brave and vulnerable to be the first to love someone. To put yourself out there and communicate your feelings to someone requires courage, especially if you're apprehensive of their response.
Yeah, it really requires a lot of courage. That's why doing it thr other way is what I do.
I’m the same sis! I found it so easy to express my love to my ex partner and ex husband, but with my family it seems like there is a blockage to say these words. It’s just never been a thing in my family to say ‘I love you’, even though I know my mum loves us more than anything and my dad in his way too.
I find it easier with my auntie and my younger cousins even, rather than my closest family.
I also prefer text to a phone call. Face to face is my most favourite way of expression though, as I can feel the energy and see the facial expressions. We’re both a little introverted I guess 💙
Haha, why is it so hard no. Or it is just us who's making it hard. But seriously, it is really just our thing. As long as we show it to them, then we're good hehe. But to be honest, it amazed me how can others easily say that.
Some things are instilled in families from young age. Then I guess it’s easier. My mum never said these things to me, even though she would show it at every step. She probably never heard it from her parents and it was passed from generations before 💙
Oh yes, yes, same with my parents. They had a hard time as a kid and I guess they never really experience being lovey dovey with their parents.
Well, this generation is hopefully different and I !love you sis 😘💙
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Action speaks louder than word. Love is an action word.
Yayyy, as long as it is sincere din.
I think that's one of the problems in Filipino youths nowadays. They tend to tell their boyfriend/girlfriend that they love them. But, they can't say it to their parents. It's a sad reality tho. However, we know in our hearts that we value and love them dearly.
It is really a sad reality. But sometimes kasi mas nafifeel pa nong ibang kabataan ang love sa mga juwa nila kesa sa parents nila ee. Like mine in my teenage years, lol. Naiba nalang nga ngayon coz mommy is a little bit ano na, vocal na din minsan ba. Sweet na rin.
Oh, you are blessed because you have lots of mudrabels. Hehe
Super bless talagang tunay ❤️🥰
Magandang capita Ryan. ☺️
Same madam..never pa ko nag i love you sa parents ko 😂. Pero sa iba madali sabihin
Hahaha, ang hirap no, saka di maiwasang mahiya baga sa sarili. Ganito nafifeel ko ee lol
Hahaha Ikaw din sis? Dapat we can say it na sa kanila ano.. Yung bunso namin so easy for him to say it at mag kiss and hug pero Ako Ewan di talaga Ako showy.
Mga nkakabatang kapatid ko rin madali lang..pero akp naiilang. So sa actions ko nlmg pinapakita hehe
I am not very expressive either. Although with my son I have always been, I hug and kiss him whenever I can and tell him how much I love him.
However, I am not known as affectionate, some of my cousins jokingly call me cactus, hehe. But with the years I am more expressive and I use the "I love you" with the people I care about frequently. I have learned that we must not skimp on showing affection to those who matter to us because we do not know how long we will have them with us.
I am not sure if the time will come where I can finally say that words to them but for now, little by little, I'll try it hehe. I also want to say it to them and not just show them, maybe when I get a little older ❤️😂
I think the time will come ;) Have a lovely weekend ♡
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It is indeed a risk, let's ho take a risk with love 💪❤️
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It is just very easy to type the words "I LOVE YOU" rather than saying it in front of the person we really care the most. hahahaha..I just don't know why?
Thank you for sharing how you show your love to others @ruffatotmeee. It is such a great story.
Me either, I don't know why, lol. So I'll just show it than say it, haha.
Yayyy, thank you ❤️
Same Ate, sa action ko pianapkita kung gano ko sila ka-love. Hindi rin ako madalas mag-iloveyou but as the breadwinner of the family, I make sure that I provide everything they need. And I guess everything that I do for them is not just act of responsibilities and obligations but rather an act of love and care. 🥰♥️
Yayyy, you are really a loving daughter that's for sure❤️.
We're pretty much the same. I can't even remember if I have ever said "I love you" to my parents. We have similar love language, I show it through actions. I'll ask them how are they and care for their health rather than showering them with sweet words.
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Same with me, I seldom express my love explicitly. I'll just do it with my actions. Sometimes in a humorous manner nalang para di masyadong cheesy haha. Kaya siguro tayo ganto kasi di tayo sanay na magexpress sa mga parents natin.
They look adorable! ❤️
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it would cringed me if I say I love you to my parents, lol.
Hindi ako vocal na tao
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Naku same tayo, I am not showy sa among family which is I hate. We grow up na Hindi nakikita Ang sweetness Ng nanay at tatay kaya kami di Rin sweet hehehe.
In my own family now, I am trying to say it but not that seldom, iba talaga if di ka sanay but I am trying to say those words to be an example to our son.
Buti kapa nakajoin, ako di talaga. Di kinaya Ng panahon, Oras and Ng brain cells ko hehehe
You're so sweet to your family @ruffatotmeee. After resenting them, it's like you're completely different. Blooming yern~