Remembering the Departed | Gone So Young, Gone Too Soon

Losing someone you are very close to is sad. But what's saddest is when you lose them without even seeing them, in their last moment. And worse, you will only see them when they are already inside the coffin, lifeless and unmoving. And you can just cry at the sight in grievance.

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"Ruffa, call me now, your sister...."

I already knew my sister's situation at that time. But I am optimistic that she will be okay and that it is just a simple case of diarrhea and nothing serious to be worried about. She will be okay; that's what I said. She has regular checkups anyway because that is required in her work.

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But that simple diarrhea is not just a simple diarrhea, especially if you didn't do anything about it. If you release something, you have to replace it. My sister had diarrhea and also vomited, and whenever she drank or ate porridge, she just spit it all out, which led to dehydration.

Her partner and my brothers are forcing her to be admitted to the hospital, but she is just so hardheaded and won't listen to them. Her reason is that it's just another expense, so she refuses to do it. No matter how hard they forced her, she just wouldn't budge. She just allow it when her fingernails turns violet.

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That means it is already severe, and God knows what might happen to her. I want to blame her, to be honest. I also want to blame the people that she was with at that time. I mean, they can just easily drag her down to the hospital. They don't need to ask for permission. They can just hayzt.

Now that I remember it again, a lot of scenarios were running through my head at that time. If only I am in Batangas, I will really drag her outside and even carry her or whatever just so she will be admitted to the hospital. whether she likes it or not! but I am in Mindoro at that time, sadly.

"She's gone...."

It was my mama who brought the news to me. She's communicating with my siblings in Batangas. When I heard it, I was like, "Why so fast?" I also learned that she was revived six times, but on their last try, she didn't make it. Just like that, as simple as that. like she's just a piece of paper that was soaked in water and then gone.

I cried. The little memories that we had came rushing back to me. She is so young—barely 18 when she decided to work. That's why we can't always be together. Then she decided to work in Batangas, and it is more difficult for us to meet personally and have a little bonding. We're in Mindoro, and she's in Batangas; that's an ocean apart.

We can only communicate thanks to Facebook. We can just see each other if we take a selfie and upload it to our timeline. But that's okay. She's living the life that she wanted. Her dream will not end here in Mindoro. She's doing well in Batangas; in fact, she's already the OIC in this company. So she has too much work to handle.

I took this in a cemetery where she is buried.

She is doing well, but with just a snap of the fingers, everything ended. It became blurry at first and then eventually ended. She can't do anything about it. It is already her time. At a young age, she left too early. It still hurts and makes me get teary-eyed sometimes when I remember. But I know she is in paradise now. She is loved there by everyone, for sure.

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And you know what? I am still happy because I got to spend a little time with her when I went to Batangas to seek work. I think I stayed there for 3 or 4 months. I got to bond with her, and I saw how hardworking and dedicated she is to her work. I also saw how she overworked herself, sadly. But she'll go with it for a better future.

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Aside from that, we already have this family picture where we are all present. It happens on our niece's birthday. We were all able to attend, including my mom (auntie). My sister traveled from Batangas to Mindoro just to attend. In fact, she is the one who helps with the preparation. I am just glad we have this kind of picture. And we will remember it because it is uploaded on Facebook.

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Oh God, seeing this is making me feel so damn emotional. I really miss her. I miss her voice, and I miss her calling me "Panget." I miss our kulitan in the comment section, and most of all, I miss her face. I am literally crying right now, guys. I just can't help but feel hurt again because she left us so soon.

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She was just 29 years old when she died. And it's been 3 years 9 months 15 days now. That long, I feel like it was only yesterday. She had a good future ahead of her, but it all ended. It is just sad, but I know she enjoys her little time here on earth. She will be forever missed, and she will always be remembered by us.

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Yohooo, this is my entry on the second week of the contest on HivePH. Thank You guys for the initiative. And for this week's topic, we have this: Remembering The Departed - Tell us the memories you shared with your departed loved ones.

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She's too young. But I'm sure she's watching over you and your family right now from heaven.
Still happy that you have bonded with her in where she was chasing her dreams.
Your memories with her are really genuine. Can't help but feel emotional too.

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Too young to die but maybe it is already her time. They did all their best pero, di pa rin talaga kinaya 🥺. But I am okay naman na, we are okay. Our memories together eill stay here and aalalahanin ko yon as long ss Im alive. I hope she is watching over us in the sky.

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Every time I hear sad stories like this, I feel carried away. So sorry to hear about it as she was so young and you were not able to see her on her last moment. The hardest part is really to accept it that she is not around anymore, but surely she is in God’s most loving arms.

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Remembering all our memories is making me sad talaga. I have regrets din kasi ee. I really wish I was beside her kahiy pa last moement nya yon. Sana nakita ko sya na buhay pa. But yeah, i know she's in God's loving arms now.

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I also lost my sister and it was very painful that until now, I can't accept the fact that she's gone, I am still hoping that this life is a long nightmare and once I woke up, I can see my sister scolding me due to waking up late, this life is empty without her, I feel like I'm lost in wilderness without her presence.

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Nakakalungkot talaga íf you lose someone na close sayo no. And what's worse is you are used to her presence that when she died, you really feel lost 🥺

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Madami rin ako namimiss 🤧.. Wala lng ako time magsulat lol..

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Sulat na madam, sabihin mo na ang mga guato mong sabihin sa kanila huehue

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This is so emotional to read🤧🤧.
So sorry about her death. We don't know whether it's her fate to die at that age and we can't question our creator. Wherever she is right now, I'm sure she's well and fine

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Yeah, all we can do is accept their death and move on with life. I'm sure she is happy now and she is watching us surely from the sky.

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Hello @ruffatotmeee I feel your pain as deep in my heart as maybe you feel it, I lost my dad in 2019 and I still feel his loss as if it was yesterday, he was for me the best friend I could have had, I enjoyed his presence all my life and I still feel he lacked a lot to go through, from the bottom of my soul I wish you the best and that you find the way to happiness, and if you believe in the reunion in another life, well you can find it again and give yourself the hug you long for so much. A big hug❤️

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We all lose someone really especial to us. It's hard to accept it but we have to. For their sake too as they will feel the saddest if we stay sad because of them. Sorry about your father too, hugs.

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I'm sad reading this blog because I cannot imagine the feeling of losing a sibling in that kind of way. That you are not there or they departed too soon. Perhaps, when it is God's time to get your sister back, there's nothing we can do about it. Thanks for sharing ate!

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Even me before can't even imagine na may mawawala. But, it happened, sadly. This is what I'm fearing now. What if, maiwanan akong mag isa sa earth. That's why I want to die first bago family ko. Selfish na kunh selfish 😭

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I'm lost of words kasi ang sad talaga mawalan ng minamahal. XXX

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It's sad we have to accept it talaha no, no choice 🥺

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I am so sorry for your loss, although 3 years and 9 months passed, time doesn't really heal these bruises. It becomes a bit easier, but our beloved ones that departed will always remain in our memories 💔

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That's true, we can just choose to move on and be happy again but healing takes more time. Those happy memories that we can look back once we missed them 🥺

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It's really inevitable to lose someone in this world but even if that's the case, it can create a hole in our heart longing for that someone who passed away at a young age or suddenly. I know it hurts even if the time has already passed by ate but we have to be strong for them even if they are gone.

As for losing a sibling, I lose my little brother when I was 7 years old. I was grade 1 that time and he was 1 month old. He passed away suddenly..Still it hurts because I've been longing for a sibling the whole time.
Wherever they are now, for sure they are happy and guiding us when the world turn upside down on our part.

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Yeah, we have no choice but to accept it. Pero di lang talaga maiwasan na ma sad when you remember them right. Like you will think, pano kaya if they are still alive.

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For sure if they were still with us today.. we laugh, enjoy and savor the goodness of this life.

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I'm sorry to hear about your sister sis... it must be the hardest especially that she was away from you when it happened. I do believe she's at peace now, healthy and sound wherever she is. It's really sad to experience losing someone we truly love and care about.

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It is sis, I have a lot of thought before na sana andun ako sa tabo nya, aigooo. For sure she is. Ang sa totoo lang talaga ayaw ko na ma experience yan ulit.

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Mahirap din ang ganon noh. Death talaga is a thief kasi we never know when it comes

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ruffa, kung napaiyak ka sa entry ko, mas naiyak naman ako neto .. ang sakit naman, ma prevent pa naman eh, huhu sakit ruff..

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Yan na nga ee, iyan isa sa kinaiinis ko sa kanya. Maaagapan pa sana if nagpadala na sya una palang sa hospital kaso 🥺🥺 ewan ko ba. Si sana kasama pa namin sya now 🥺

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Losing someone is never easy. I think there's something good that came out of this which is the time you were able to spend together.

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Yeah, Good thing lang talaga, di warj ako maka move on if ever di ko sya nakasama ng mej matagal

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A heartbreaking story, isa sa pinaka ayaw kong manyare sa mga taong malalapit saken. Thanks for sharing this one @ruffatotmeee

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