SOME SECRETS ARE NOT MEANT TO BE KEPT ( W. E 153)

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There is a saying that "When you are entrusted with a secret, you become irrevocably accountable for what you do or don't do after your mind is colored by the knowledge of it".

A few years back, I was home one weekend hoping to get a long rest as I had a very busy week when I got a call from a friend of mine. he wanted to know if I was at home as she needed to talk to me about something that has been bugging her. I told her that I am at home and she said she is already on her way. She came around and shared a secret with me. Well since it's a secret I won't go into details about what she said I can only play around with it. Let's just say it also involved a mutual friend of ours and I don't know why she told me, she probably wants to lessen the burden and have someone else (Me) share the burden with her.

I was very disappointed in her for doing such to our friend because I felt if she could do that to her, then she would be able to do the same to me if the tables are turned. I told her to tell our friend because if left unsaid for a long time, our mutual friend would be in very big trouble.

I wonder how she'd managed to keep a straight face whenever we all go out together knowing she did her dirty. I told her that I love them both and I don't want to pick sides but seeing that failure to rectify her wrong could cause our other friend big time then I would have no choice but to tell our friend if she wouldn't. Yes, I can keep secrets but when it can cause damage to the other person, then I cannot because people reacts to things differently. What if she finds out from someone else? Of course, she'd feel betrayed and might hurt herself in the process. I would never forgive myself if anything were to happen to her.

I know for her sharing the secret with me means she felt remorseful and regretted what she did so I gave her the chance to tell our other friend the secret herself. She eventually did tell her and of course, our other friend felt betrayed and didn't speak to her for months. I was torn between spending time with the first or the second. Instead, I stayed neutral and told both of them, I was going to give our other friend as long as she needs to forgive her. Yes, she did wrong, but she also had her good sides which we both enjoyed.

It took a few months before she finally forgave her for what she did and I guess what helped was that my friend that wronged the other never stopped apologizing. She did make it clear she was very sorry for what she did and our other friend decided to give her a second chance.

So Yes, I would have divulged it if she had failed to tell the secret herself. I'm all for keeping secrets that are harmless but I draw the line when it could be detrimental.

Thank you all for reading.



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