Creating Trust In Relationships

One of the basic building blocks in a relationship is trust, but trust itself has to be built and sustained. You will agree with me that there are things that can be gifted in relationships and there are other things that can only be built. Trust is among the later, and for it to be built, there are many things that you have to put into consideration. The truth is that, no matter how you try, you cannot enforce trust, you can only earn it. Now we will look at how to effectively build trust in relationships.

The first thing to consider is truthfulness. Without any contradiction, saying the truth and building trust work together. When your partner remarks you for always saying the truth at all times and at all situations, you will not need to struggle to earn the trust of your partner. Someone that always tells the truth is quick to be trusted. If you can be truthful in small things, then you will also be trusted to be truthful in much bigger things. However, if lies are being detected in you, it may reduce the trust that people have in you.

A single and seemingly negligible lie you tell can destroy the trust that you have worked ages to build. A friend of mine once told me a story of one of his cousins and it amazed me how someone can tell lies with something as sensitive as that. He got engaged to his fiancee and they dated for years. While he normally visit their house, there is a little girl that stays with her. All the while, she created the impression that the girl is her sister's daughter.

After about fours years of dating her, he got to know that the little girl is actually his fiancee's daughter. When he knew about it, he could not believe that she could hide something like that for four years. So to be sure, he told her that someone revealed that the little girl is her daughter. She finally opened up to him that she did not want to tell him because she was not sure how he will process the information. What she did not know is that even if she had told him the truth from the beginning, it would not have prevented him from still loving her. But because of the lies, he is now finding it hard to trust her because he does not know what else she is lying about.

You see, when you lie, the trust that people have for you will be at stake. Obviously, no one will want to entrust something of value in the hands of someone that cannot be held accountable for their own words. More so, lies will also need more lies to thrive but at the end, truth will always find a way to surface, and the person would have lost their trust.

Another thing to know is that for trust to be received, it also has to be given. That is, if you want your partner to trust you, you have to start by trusting them first. It is the same level of trust that you give that you should expect to receive.

Each time you find it hard to trust your partner, they will know from your attitude. When they know that you do not trust them, their trust for you will also decline. So for trust to grow, it has to be mutual.

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