Peaceful Resolution Of Conflict [Part 3/3]

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We have been exploring the ways we can effectively prevent and resolve conflicts in our day-to-day lives. It is true that everyday, humans are faced with a lot of events that can easily trigger conflicts, but their responses to these conflicts will also tell if the events will lead to conflict or not. In our last episode, we have considered some potent ways of peacefully resolving conflicts. Here, we shall be taking the final episode of what to have handy with in the event of a conflict to prevent it from being blown beyond proportion and also prevent it from happening again.

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1. Staying away from negative people and people prone to conflicts

There are place that you may go or there are people that each time you relate with, you will end up creating an uproar. Then wisdom demands that you should stay clear of such people and such places. The truth is that you may not be able to change the person to fit your lifestyle but you have a choice to dissociate from the person. Anyone that comes with negative talks or often challenges your peace or puts you into a compromising and conflicting situation is not your friend and you should be ware of such individual. Negative talks can breed conflicts if they become dominant.

The person that always comes to tell you negative things about someone else might also be telling that person negative things about you and this may cause unnatural hatred between you and that other people and may even breed conflict in certain situations. So you see, you have to stay away from people that their dominant conversations are negativities. Always bear in mind that hatred should not be communicable and enmity should not be inherited. So that someone is in enmity with another person does not mean you should inherit that enmity. For the sake of your peace, it is better to stay clear of such an individual than trying to change them.

2. Find a common ground or something that both of you can agree on

Most of the conflicts that arise are from dissimilarity in perception, ideas, perspectives, school of thought, and methods. However, one can find a common ground in which the both parties can agree on. This will help you to get your mind off the conflict and focus on another topic until it is settled. For example, in an argument, both of you may not agree on something which was actually the reason for the argument in the first place. However, there may be something (even inside the argument) that both of you can agree on, which you can consolidate more on instead of focusing on the disagreement.

It is worthy to note that conflict resolution is a conscious efforts that requires sacrifices sometimes. You may not agree with someone in certain things but there may may be a few other things that you will agree with them, you can focus more on that. Learn to employ compromise in certain conditions, and let things go. After all, what will you gain by winning the argument and inciting conflict? This is just like winning a fist fight and creating a war. You can be the bigger person in the picture by making the effort to resolve the conflict.

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3. Engaging a mediator

When other options have seemed to be less effective and the conflicting situation is getting blown out of proportion, then nothing stops your from engaging a third party to mediate in the situation to restore peace and tranquility. This is best when the mediator is someone that is trusted by both parties and someone with a neutral view that will not take sides or become partial or compromised by one party.

In this part of the world, every family has their own constituted kins-people and elders that normally serve as mediators in the event of disagreement. For example, issues relating to land dispute, farmland management, sharing of inheritance, etc can bring about friction if not managed properly. So these people have a mandate to enhance peace in situations like this. Similarly, other organizations like workplace, etc, have constituted authorities that can mediate between conflicting people. This can also be done by the mutual friends of both parties involved. Always have in mind that there is no gain in conflict, so one should not give any room to it.

Thanks for reading

Peace on y'all



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Hi @samminator

This is a very good advice "Stay away from negative and conflict prone people", no doubt, staying away from all negative scenarios will keep us away from conflicts, and give us spiritual and emotional peace.

Best regards, be well.

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That's right. In order to stay away from conflict, we should also stay away from negative scenarios and people that can incite conflict.

Thanks buddy

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It's not easy to walk away from conflicts, and even more so when you see that the situation is unfair. Sometimes it is best to see the positive side of the conflict and try as much as possible to reach points where both parties agree. Thank you @samminator for sharing this kind of content.

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Excellently said. Thanks a lot for your continuous support dear friend

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