The Blessedness Of A Good Friend

One of the most underrated blessings in this recent time is the gift of having a good and sincere friend. At this point in life and in this era where everyone is "on their own," having someone to sincerely be your friend and have your back is something that is beyond worthy. A lot of people are busy pursuing after money and other material things but they tend to forget what money cannot buy; what they will need even when they have gotten the money that they want - a true friend.

There is no feeling as lonely as staying without having someone to check up on you. Trust me, no matter how much you look at it and no matter what you think, you cannot stand eternally alone and make it. There is a point you will get to in life and you will realise that people are as important (if not more) as the material things you are running after. The truth is that the need of a true friend cannot be overemphasized - someone that will stand by you even when the entire world may have walked out on you, someone that you will feel belonged with, someone that will pat you on your back and say "well done," someone that will correct your mistakes in love, someone that will appreciate even your little efforts, and someone that will be a positive addition to your life.

One of the things that I have observed and learnt over the years is that true friendship exists and everyone needs it. However, there are points to take note of in order to secure this kind of friendship, otherwise you may just end up with "friendly enemies." The first point is that you also need to be a good friend. It is worthy to note that you only attract a good friend when you are a good friend yourself. You have to first imbibe the personality of the kind of friend you want. That is, fulfil your requirements of good friendship first.

The next point in order for you to have a good friend who will have your back is to also be supportive of who you call friends. You cannot be uninvolved in what concerns others and expect them to be involved in what concerns you. As much as you are hoping for things to be done by your friends for you, also try to bring something to the table. Even the very willing friend may become unwilling to help you again when they discover that you are only preying on their kindness without offering them anything? A true friendship should be based on mutuality and reciprocity, not on parasitism.

It is not everytime that you will be asking for what your friends will do for you or bothering them with your demands, do you also ask what you will do for them? When you become an unnecessary burden for your friends without you adding anything to them, you will be surprised how they will bounce off and leave you. But in order to constantly get their support and all, you have to also support them in their own course. When you are ready to help your friends out, they too will be ready and willing to do the same for you. You cannot keep yourself alienated to them and expect them to rally around you when you need them.

When you have a good friend, you will discover how complete your life will become and you will know that material things are not everything in life. The benefits of having a true friend is so enormous that its impact can be felt in very many aspects of the human life. My mentor was asked how he gets things done with so much ease. He replied that "while others are busy trying to raise money, he channels his energy in rasing people and when he raises people, they will easily raise the money." When you know the value of friendship, you will be motivated to build it. More so, it may be the friendship that you build today that will eventually build you up tomorrow. So do not joke with true friendship.

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