Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #22 - "InterFaith Marriage"

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"The greatness of a community is most accurately measured by the compassionate actions of its members."
•Coretta Scott King


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Hello everyone... it's Saturday. Yes, I'm late. But we can still have our chat. I had a lot on my plates yesterday. Please forgive the boy.

Last week, we discussed about the "Parenting in Nigeria". I believe we all learnt from each other.

Thank you all for sharing your lovely opinions.

If you missed last week engagement post, feel free to back track it here Hive-Naija Engagement #21


Some months ago, I thought,I shared and I asked "Why don't we Chat on hive every Weekend?"

And you all said...

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Well,we won't be the first as there are some weekend engagements trends already on Hive! But this would be THE NIGERIAN VERSION!


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So Shall We ?

I will drop a topic every friday(Today's topic is below), share your thoughts on the matter,reply someone else opinion, interrogate the opinion if you like. Keep the discussion on. If you don't have anything to say about the topic. Just reply someone else's comment.

Do all these in the comment section, as that it where it all goes down.

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There are no further rules, please banter as you like,speak any Nigerian language (Igbo,yoruba, pidgin,efik), anything, as long as someone else can understand.

However, Please don't take it to the extreme

This week's engagement starts Immediately you see this post and ends on Sunday 11:59pm.


Prizes for this week

Thanks to the @starstrings01, @crossculture and @elcomentador. They help curate comments!


Prizes are distributed to the winners after considering their interactions and also their contributions to the topic. This week prizes ;


1st prize - 2HBD + 10 POB A very good upvote in a selected post of yours in the week!

2nd Prize - 2HBD + + 20 VYB + 10 POB

3rd Prize - 1HBD + 10 POB

4th Prize - 1HBD + 10 POB

5th prize - 1HBD + 20 VYB

Prizes courtesy of:

@Samostically - 4HBD , 40POB, 40VYB
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Topic Of Discussion - "Inter-faith Marraige"

This is a marriage between two spouses professing different religions.

Can a marriage work with Different religion work?

If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?

do you actually look down on people with a different religion?

Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God? (Like anything actually)

Feel free to ask more questions relating to the topic in the comment section.


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Let the discussion begin....

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Someone that doesn't believe in God?... Kuku kill me.
In this life, anyone around me must believe in something even na sango, been faithless is the worst thing that can happen to any man...
For this life na only science de teach us to become atheist..

Wait make I sidon well well come think how to answer the questions one by one.

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Men, you are quite a different species. I can't get involved with someone with some kind of weird religious belief neither would I with someone who does not believe in God.

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😂 I understand you quite well..
Me neither.
Am coming to answer that later but for now I think not believing in anything is worst than coming from another religion.

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But they usually have valid points. Why believe in something under false pretense?

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I dey tell u, such person will have no regard for any one.

In fact it's a no go area for me too.

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Exactly.... Both brains will be thinking differently

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What if the person believes in himself? That one no do you? 😄

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Chisos... He must be the almighty of himself.
A complete perfect person.
No sin
No crime
And all that..

Abeg I wan meet this person first.
Maybe i fit change my mind

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Chisos

🤣🤣🤣, my gender oo🤩

You are so funny babe

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What if the person believes in himself? That one no do you?

Good point...
At least he believes in something. 😂😂

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😂

Even if na sango.. Mabinu obatala. 😂.. Make she sha believe abi
😂 😂

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This babe, you are just too funny to my loving🤣

Liking your vibes ✌

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For this life na only science de teach us to become atheist

You know, the irony is that the atheist actually had faith, he believes in something, just that it isn't God... @monica-ene

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Good morning fellow Nigerians (in the military voice). Thank you @samostically for this great topic. It is long overdue to see how people will react or consider inter-religious marriage. On this, I will be speaking as a typical Nigerian.

In Nigeria, religion is a serious matter. We take religion next to out hearts and as such, it forms the basis for out personality.

The Workability of Inter-Religious Marriage.

For someone who is religiously biased, the marriage would not even begin, let alone work. But on the other hand, since love conquer all, religion may be considered just as aspect of the human existence. It on that basis would some people consider to get involved in such kind of a marriage. The best is to get married with someone of the same faith as yours.

Giving up on Love because of religion.

As a spiritually inclined individual, Love is a rudiment of religion and both work hand in hand. If my spouse converts to another religion, I won't still give up on love. I would only have to engage in some serious prayers for her return.

Looking Down on People of other religion?

My take on this is that we are first humans before religion separated us. Hence, I took upon my self the title Humanist which made me concerned about my neighbour. After all, religions biggest law is:

Love your neighbour as yourself.

Marrying an Atheist

Base on individual differences,I can't marry someone who doesn't believe in the existence of God. Even the Greek stoic philosophers, later on, gave up their disbelieve in the existence of God.
As much as respect everyone belief, getting married to someone of other religion or who doesn't believe in God may be chaotic.

Can two work together except they agree?

Marriage is an agreement, a contract and pact. The partners must reach an agreement before entering marriage. For me, marriage is beautiful when the husband and wife are of the same religion, bringing up their children with one voice and one teaching.

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As a spiritually inclined individual, Love is a rudiment of religion and both work hand in hand. If my spouse converts to another religion, I won't still give up on love. I would only have to engage in some serious prayers for her return.

I agree with you here
It just plain and simple can two work together? Except they agree.
Having different religion and in a Communion that both are one just won't work out.

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That's it bro.
Religious disagreement is one of the reasons why we have recorded some many broken homes in the world today.

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Exactly, I have seen spouses who came together from different religion and agree initially to marry but along the line..issues started arising all because of different faith backgrounds. However, it still boils down to individual differences and understanding among the couple but in general, the chances of that marriage standing devoid of issues is very slim

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Well spoken.
Since marriage is a lifetime contract, one should fine-tune it before it is solemnized.

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Many just fall into marriage without the right counselling.. They say a broken relationship /courtship is better than a broken marriage

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The issue of loving blindly can cause one to enter into a marriage that has failed before it begins.

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That's just it Brother, marriage is a league of agreement and once that is out of the picture, then I don't believe anything can work between such parties.

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For real. Only the agreement defines the marriage first, love could be an addendum.

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Beautifully said, I understand your point of view.

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Love is a rudiment of religion and both work hand in hand. If my spouse converts to another religion, I won't still give up on love.

It's funny how we are talking about love and true love conquering inter religious differences for a couple, and we forget that the definitions of love varies greatly between religions and doctrines... What you consider as true love might be far from what your spouse considers to be true love.

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Well, I would like to say that in many cases, individual differences would still make a clear difference between the two concepts.
Love and religion are interwoven when you a cursory look. What is important here is the ability to conceive that purpose of love and walk by it.

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Love and religion are interwoven... True that..

But it's important to realize what another defines as love. It may be the end of a man... literally.

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Good day everyone, and thanks @samostically for bringing us together again.

When talking about inter-faith marriage generally I don't think any of the religion or religious leader will support such no matter the love between those involved.

So in response to this week set of questions;

Can a marriage work with Different religion work?

I won't want to write-off the possibility of such marriage from working, since obviously we're first human before religion comes in, so both parties as a role to play in making such relationship work.
But it's a major red flag when;

  • Both still maintain their former religion, it's mostly expected for women to do things their husbands way, and religion diff while spring up constant misunderstanding.
  • When the lady or man made any mistake, the in-laws immediately jump in always looking for reasons why they've always felt it's wrong to marry him/her.

If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?

Firstly I'll like to say there are 99% assurance that I won't be in such scenario, but in response to your question.

I'm the kind of person who once fell in love, always give my all, and I'm not a preacher of falling out of love, the reasons why I fell in love with such person will regular plays out and that'll will serve as a reminder to always strive to make sure things work out.

So no matter the religion's such bride get involved in, I believe there must have been a mutual agreement between us before Marriage about if she'll move to my religion or not, and for me to agree that if she doesn't want to, she shouldn't, then it'll never been an issue.

do you actually look down on people with a different religion?

The difference we portray in different aspects of life is what makes us unique, and I believe without this uniqueness and individual differences, life might be boring.

And I've never looked down on people from the other religions, even though most of our preachers talks about how they're on the wrong parts and the likes, but I'm aware that's the same this their preacher told them as well.
I don't look down on them, instead I strive to understand them and their religion believes.
And in my few research I've come to the conclusion that no religion preacher anything other than peace, it's the human in it that preachers violence due to their own experience and the likes.

Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God?

That's a no no for me, if you don't believe in God, then I believe there are high likeliness that we don't share anything in common.

I believe in supreme being, and the believe that they're about making this happen for me as kept me going and so someone who doesn't feel such way, can never be my wife.

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You are right on the course my brother. Such a kind of marriage could spell doom for the partners. Especially in a continent like Africa where people have been brainwashed by religious fanatics.
For me, even though love exists,a lot of factors ought to be considered before entering a marriage and religion is one of them.
Imagine yourself marrying someone who believes in sacrificing blood on some alters, as exposed and as educated as you are. Men, that's out of this world.

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O boy that's gonna be a no no o, sacrifice bi ti bawo, that's why no Matter how much we love such person, we need to come together in agreement on what how we see life and how things are done.

Once you see a red flag in one of such person believe and you know you can't cope or adjust to such way of life then it's better to flee than to go ahead with such marriage.

Marriage is meant to be enjoy not endure.

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Omo, bo sé ri niyen ooo. Maka chuckwu.
Define the kind of life you want ro live in marriage is very important.
We should be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.
In the first place, who is an unbeliever?

An individual who doesn't your religious belief.

As a christian, when you marry a person of another faith, you have unequally yoked with darkness.

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And I've never looked down on people from the other religions,

Never! The best is to respect them and their religion, after all, life is a choice.

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I won't want to write-off the possibility of such marriage from working, since obviously we're first human before religion comes in, so both parties as a role to play in making such relationship work.

@vickoly you forget that marriage is not a human thing, it is rather, a cultural idea. That means that marriage is determined by the culture the couple come from. Humans don't need to be married to reproduce. Marriage is a cultural institution to help fend for the kids when they are born.

So if they both don't have agreeing slants as to their culture, and mind you, religion is a culture too, they cannot stay together.

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Religion and culture are two different thing entirely, even though they're almost similar, one of the difference is why you see people of the same culture having different religion.

and like I said, it's my opinion on the issue.

And you need to talk note, no matter the cultural beliefs or religion of a man, he's first human before that and that's why you see people behalf or handle situation differently, so being part of any institute doesn't mean you have to leave your life the way others felt it ought to be.

What doesn't work for A, might work perfectly for me B.

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@vickoly you are still missing the juice of the matter.

Humans were not born in isolation. They were born into a civilization, a culture one in which they define their identity. This you can't separate people from their culture and pin them to their humanity alone...

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You're misunderstanding me, there several cultural beliefs and nobs in my culture that I choose not to go along with, I don't live my life base on any cultural entity and the likes, I do things the way I deem fit.

It may work for you the way you see it, but not for me.

During the days of Adam and co there weren't any culture, we humans are the one's who institute our own culture not the other way round.

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It's true that there are aspects of your culture that you choose not to follow, how about the ones that you still follow without asking questions, the ones you have in your subconscious, the ones you don't even know exist... The ones that affect your decisions subtly without you knowing it?

During the days of Adam and co there weren't any culture...

During the days of Adam, marriage didn't exist as we have it today.

What's my point?

There are things we are all a product of, one of them is culture and marriage is purely cultural in every sense.

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So are you driving to the fact that such marriage between different religion can't work, because obviously that was the past you quoted.

Personal I can't get involve in such marriage, but I've seen it work perfectly fine with those people me who dive into it. Even better than most people with same culture or religion.

To me it's all down to the agreement between both parties, and as well the human nature within them to keep to such agreement.

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So are you driving to the fact that such marriage between different religion can't work?

That is exactly my point dear...

One person has to be decieving the other or they could both be decieving the other.... I am only saying, if they both are people who take their religion seriously.

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One person has to be decieving the other or they could both be decieving the other.... I am only saying, if they both are people who take their religion seriously.

Now I grab your point, and I explained a little more below the part you highlighted;

both parties as a role to play in making such relationship work.
But it's a major red flag when;
*Both still maintain their former religion, it's mostly expected for women to do things their husbands way, and religion diff while spring up constant misunderstanding.
*When the lady or man made any mistake, the in-laws immediately jump in always looking for reasons why they've always felt it's wrong to marry him/her.

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Marriage is a communion to be one.
So if there's a difference in religion that is nowhere close to both parties being one and from there issues star occurring.
It simple can two walk except they agreed?
Definitely No.

And for the second one if I happen to be in such scenario

Love is calm , love forgives , love contains everything with positivity
Love is beyond giving up on mistakes.
As long as love is involve I don't need to give up I only have to find a way to make it work out..
Lol I doubt I wound ever be in such scenario.

See it okay to do you and your religion as long as you are not breaking life rules like killing , stealing and all.
I see no reason why I should look down on you.

Marry someone that does not believe in God

Okay let see it like this
Marriage is like triangle the husband and wife are at the different end and God is in the middle
If both move forward to the top to seek God they get to meet up and become one and then everything becomes easy and sweet.

A marriage without God is like building without foundation

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A marriage without God is like building without foundation

Hmmm deep, and that's the better truth, God is the institutor of marriage and when he's absent in any union, then such home is on the path to failure.

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Love is calm , love forgives , love contains everything with positivity.

Correct but eternity is the highest.
I think this topic is more practical than theory.
Until one experiences what marriage really is, he may just be drawing conclusions on paper.

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Hmmmmm

This is a deeper thought and a sure truth.

Experience will be the best answer

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My sister, mouth no fit fry Akara.

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For where....easier said than done something

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Na xo ooo.

I hear day rain storm carry the roof one native doctor, put am on top church and mosque wey dey side by side.
Nah the quarrel we dey try settle sinceooo.

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Can a marriage work with Different religion work?

Well, it actually depends, a few years ago I would have said no but now, my views have changed and if I truly love the person, I would and we will figure it out.

If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?

I feel like true love is something that is very rare and if I am lucky enough to find it, I wouldn't care about anything else.

In my opinion, most religions preach love so love is all that matters.

do you actually look down on people with a different religion?

I would never, I have friends in different religions so obviously no, instead I try to learn about them.

Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God? (Like anything actually)

this might be dicey though, it depends on the person, if they respect my beliefs then maybe but if they don't, I wouldn't no matter what.

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Hmm. @prechidi!!
Are you sure?
Marriage is not moi-moi ooo.
My friend (a Muslim) married a catholic sister and part of the agreement was that he would allow her practice her religion. The wedding was held at the church. This friend was quite in love to ha e agreed to the terms.
Just a few years after, see gobe. The guy and bus family come wear hijab on the lady that she must begin to go mosque.
This was how the marriage ended.

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I think you replied or tagged the wrong person but not everyone is like your friend, I have met people who have successfully done that for years.

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Oh yeah! I did. Was meant to tag you @khaleesii.
The percentage of people of different religion married together and having it fine could be very low. It's not like it didn't exist.

One big factor here is that a chronic "Christian" will "NEVER" accept to marry a person practicing another religion.

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Well, I am not a chronic Christian, I am a follower of Christ, and I believe in love.

So many "chronic" Christians are also miserable in their homes.

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It baffles me how people can easily think that they can marry a man without his religion. See eeehhn, once you marry a man, you kuku marry everything about him and not leaving religion behind thinking that miracle will fall down.

Good for her though.

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Thank you. I think your thoughts are those of a typical African, home grown and I like it.
In marriage, you do not marry your spouse alone, you marry his religion, his relatives and whatnot.

So, there is need to consider it before saying Yes, I Do.

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Yesooo

Much need to put lots of that into consideration to avoid unnecessary arguments

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Thank you. I think your thoughts are those of a typical African, home grown and I like it.

It's not just an African thing. People who take their beliefs seriously know that inter religious marriages don't work. It's a global thought pattern.

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But elsewhere, religion is just an enemy of the state and individuals. So, other forms of human life have secluded religion. Only in Africa would find that much religion, trying to connect to the supernatural.

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While it is true that Africa is largely religiously superstitious... People from other continents and climes still attest to the supernatural, some call it 'spirituality'

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My friend (a Muslim) married a catholic sister and part of the agreement was that he would allow her practice her religion. The wedding was held at the church. This friend was quite in love to ha e agreed to the terms.
Just a few years after, see gobe. The guy and bus family come wear hijab on the lady that she must begin to go mosque.
This was how the marriage ended.

Omo, that's sad. The guy was actually never in love with the girl. Most times ladies could be blinded to subtle signs that shoe that the guy has an ulterior motive in the whole thing, until she's in the marriage and gets herself all messed up.

Inter religious marriages never work. Unless the couple were never serious about their religions...it means that religion plays a very small role in their lives individually and therefore collectively it makes no impact in the relationship.

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Happy weekend
It's another lovely weekend engagement, am glad to be here. Please @azuconfidence, come and check this out☺️.

Can a marriage work with Different religion work?

I have seen marriages work with different religions, but I don't think i can marry a man with different religion.
Imagine coming back home and having different believe, it might cause misunderstanding.

If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?

Why will i fall in love and be so deep with someone i can't be with.
Religion should be discussed in the before entering a relationship or something serious sef.

do you actually look down on people with a different religion?

I can never look down on people with different religion, that wasn't how i was brought up. We have right to believe in anything we choose to.

Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God?

That's a big NO for me, it is Very hard for an Adult to change, just in case we feel they will change
How will we raise kids
How will be pray
Omo I can't oo

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I think your response is simple 👌 and straightforward. We are all responding to this matter the way we are tutored.
Like I said elsewhere, the African child is born into such religious belief that he or she sticks with and that forms the basis for our ways and reasoning.
I won't also fall in love with someone who has a different belief too.
What kind of children do you raise in such a marriage. There would be disparity in the home. While some children are on the side of the mother, others will agree with the father, that is a divided home already, and it may fall.

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Yeah, i should be straightforward and say my mind
You are right, religion plays a great role in raining children
Thank you for sharing your ideas

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Sure, the disparity will be high no matter how they pretend or cover-up.

Las las, the children will face the effect.

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And remember, where two elephants fight, the grass suffers.
Children who are products of marriage should be considered.
Religion is a great bar. It could make and mar.

Hence, when love arrests the heart of a man, he should consider the religion of the lover before falling.

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Exactly my point @mrenglish
Oil full your head, no doubt 👌💪🤭

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Oil kwa, biko nu.
I wish it is anointing oil.😂😂😂
Anyways, I am glad you gave the comment another shot.

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🤩🤩🤩🤩

Both anointing oil, olive oil, Cocoa not oil, natural oil...all join🤣🤣

I believe you already got the gist 🤩

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You are right on point, the difference will surely play a long role in bring dispute between such partner, so it's better to avoid such if you know you can't cope with such.

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Yes o that's why we need to discuss all this in even before relationship or courtship

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Change ni, change ko
Instead they will change you sef🤣

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Hahahahahah that's why we need to know all these in relationships before marriage oo

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I have seen marriages work with different religions

@prechidi can you define "work" in this context. Because it seems highly improbable that a pragmatic christian would fraternize with a Muslim in such regards.

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Marriage like that can work for some persons
I'm talking about myself
It's not like am being Judgemental tho

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Marriage like that can work for some persons

What makes you say so mate? And what kind of persons can it work for?

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Maybe you... lol
But the truth is that I can't marry someone with different religion

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Can a marriage work with Different religion work?

Love is a strong feeling that can't be broken when two people have a true feeling for one another

If truly they love each other no matter the odds marriage with different Religion works.. I have seen several marriages like that. The wife is a christian and the husband is a Muslim. The wife attends church while the husband go to the mosque... And they are doing fine till date

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Hmmmm, from my observation so far, out of 100% of marriage with different religion one 1% stand it

It's rare even with love

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If truly they love each other no matter the odds marriage with different Religion works.. I have seen several marriages like that. The wife is a christian and the husband is a Muslim. The wife attends church while the husband go to the mosque... And they are doing fine till date

@midemanuel

My brother, they are not doing fine. That they are still together doesn't mean they are doing fine. You don't know what they face together inside their house. When it comes to marriage, it's not about "feeling" in love... It's about a choice to live with a person for the rest of your life. All the "true love" we see portrayed in movies are just that... Movies. The real thing in marriage is the commitment that the couple decide to give to each other.

And that commitment can't exist if they have varying beliefs regarding their view of God and salvation... Aka different religions.

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If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?

Give up bawo.. Even if the parents are saying no, fact that myself and my partner is ready to take up the challenge then i am good

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I take it you are not married my good man... If you know the rigors involved, I am sure you would reconsider this statement

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do you actually look down on people with a different religion?

I have always been telling people around me that Religion is just a group of people coming together to believe in one thing or the other.

I basically don't look down on Religion... I work with people with good heart, that's me

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That's just it, when you look beyond the religion difference, you'll see a human filled with positive, which will might even be good for your growth than you might get from people of the same religion believes.

Religion shouldn't be a standard for relating with people.

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Exactly.. Religion shouldn't be..

And this has disorganized lot of people

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I hope most of us come to that realization and live in peace with everyone around us.

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That's is one major problem my country Nigeria is having..

We are a country with different religion and ethic groups

Instead of us to come together as one and be productive.. Buh reverse is the case.. Even a fellow Yoruba is against his Yoruba brother because of religion.. Crazy

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Very crazy, a nation against itself can't develop, and that one of the major reasons why we're experiencing this insecurity, diversion strive and the likes.

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Religion shouldn't be a standard for relating with people

WORD

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Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God?

Basically, as a believer that I am I will want to get married to someone like me.
FACT

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Hey Guys,
Let me chime in real quick...

Can a marriage work with Different religion work?

I believe it can if there is mutual understanding.
Personally, I don't like complications so I would stick to being in a union with someone with similar moral and spiritual values.

If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?

I've dated someone from a different religion but I was well aware it was not going to end in fairy tales or a marriage.
I was much younger and was open to exploring diversity.
It was fun while it lasted.
We are still guys to this day.
Plus he was a super chilled guy who was even open to participating in my faith every once in a while.

do you actually look down on people with a different religion?

Absolutely not.
Never have! Never will!
I have them as friends and I have worked with them.
We need to understand that people are just people at the end of the day and can have beautiful souls, exceptional minds, and an amazing spirit free from religious bias.

Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God?

No.
This is because marriage is a really sacred union for me and I really don't want to start it out with complications from the get-go, especially for my kids!

With these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you and not confuse you that beyond all the religious bias and whatnot, there are super amazing individuals that are morally sound and bundles of blessings.

We can give them a chance to be part of our lives however, when it comes down to marriage we know what we hold sacred and what we are willing to sacrifice.

Thank you and Cheers 🍷🍷🍷

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I believe it can if there is mutual understanding.

The mutual understanding is the Koko

I am an Anglican by birth and married to a Catholic, it's over 8 years of our marriage and we perfectly understand ourselves based on religion. It has never been a problem all because of understanding. However, I know a good number of people that have been having issues with religion in their marriage. It can only work with understanding and when one isn't convinced enough, the best thing is to back out on time

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I am an Anglican by birth and married to a Catholic,

That's interesting.
I am Anglican as well...

I am glad you and your spouse have a good level of understanding between you both!
It is super key!

Just like this verse says,
"Can two work together except they agree?"

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The resemblance here is that both Anglican and Catholics are in the same line of a religion, so there may be little or no issues.

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I got your point and that's cool, however, my uncle (an Anglican ) and the wife (a Catholic) still have a pending white wedding for a marriage of 8years due to disagreement. Dragging church up and down even when it's the same Christianity

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You see. That's totally another side of the same story. So, they both would walk the aisle after with whole year's marriage.

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Everyone in my family are still watching them and their drama

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In fact, it's a season film.
Wetin man no go see for this life?

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@mrenglish64
The resemblance here is that both Anglican and Catholics are in the same line of a religion, so there may be little or no issues.

Not exactly. I am afraid to say, that the doctrinal biases would fracture the relationship or make it terrible to endure.

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Well said man. It is not as serious as getting involved with someone of another religion.

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You didn't confuse us yet you convinced us 😆

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I've dated someone from a different religion but I was well aware it was not going to end in fairy tales or a marriage.

This has started clearly that religion could pose a threat to a homely marriage.
The so-called mutual understanding could be undermined when the real marriage begins.

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Some people make it work.
I know them, so I speak from a place of knowledge.

Here, I was stating it would not work for me, given my personal preference.
Different strokes for different folks.

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People who make that kind of marriage work are most likely unserious with their religious inclinations.

It was never designed to work.

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People who make that kind of marriage work are most likely unserious with their religious inclinations.

Arguably but you do have a point!

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Truthfully, I agree with @mrenglish.

You can't be a true avid follower of a religion and be married to one of another religion. Every religion prohibits inter religious marriage.

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Definitely.
People are merely attaching secure feeling to what doctrines exist in religion. These concepts are two parallel lines that will never meet.

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Majority of us here are saying they will stick to someone of their spiritual caliber rii.. But we are forgetting that love is blind and does not differentiate spirituality or so.. I don't know if we grap what I meant... Love can make one married to someone of another Religion entirely..

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My brother, to love in our dispensation, your two eyes have to be naked.
Gone are the days when someone will fall in love with eyes closed in the name of love is blind.

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But we are forgetting that love is blind and does not differentiate spirituality or so.. I don't know if we grap what I meant...

@midemanuel

Love ain't blind in the littlest bit. It's humans that are foolish. Very few people know how to wield their emotions and think logically through how they feel... That's why people think "love is blind".

We could also say, "anger is blind"... Because angry people hardly make sane decisions.

Love is a choice. People choose who the fall in love with. It's not like they are taken over by a fairy wielding a love wand over their heads.

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Halo my Naija peeps, make I attend to the questions below:

Can a marriage work with Different religion work?

To a very "little" extent it can work but it depends on the personality of the individual involved, their understanding and degree of love to withstand any ups and downs that may surface along the lines putting their future children under consideration as well.

However, I can't give in to a different marriage religion.

If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?

It's a CAPITAL NO!
I am a Christian and not even marriage should change that all in the name of love.

do you actually look down on people with a different religion?

Never! Not even in the future. I have worked with different Muslims in an office setting and lived with them in rented building years back and I have always respected them and their faith

Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God? (Like anything actually)

NO!!! I can't. I believe in God and Jesus my savior and therefore can't marry someone with a different belief. I won't be able to deal with it simple.

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Nna ehn!! The Jesus and God factors in my marriage cannot be substituted. So, I rather marry the devil I know than the angel I haven't seen.

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But what of this you dated this "devil" for a long time.. that should afford you time to "know" this devil 😂

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Exactly my point. The appearance of an angel my be camouflaged. Hence, the devil is already known and his intricacies 😂

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So happy seeing my naija brothers and sisters in this Community.
I don't think marriages between two spouse of different religion will not work, it will surely work.
If I happen to be in the scenario I won't give up on love.
No I don't look down on people with a different religion we all worship God in different denominations as far as we worship the same Almighty God.
To be frank the answer is NO I don't think I can marry anybody who doesn't believe in God.

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I don't think marriages between two spouse of different religion will not work, it will surely work

Are yoh certain of what you are saying mate? Cos marriage is not the same as having a boyfriend or girlfriend.

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Am very certain a marriage between between two people of different religion can work

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Thanks @samostically for this opportunity. Without much a do, let's strike the metal while it's still hot.

Can a marriage work with Different religion work?

It depends on what we define "work" as. With the dawn of the 21st century and with the increasing changes we are having in the timeline, the reason for marriage is changing. People get married for different reasons now... Whether as a business contract or as an agreement for a task... But if it is with the purpose of living together for the rest of their lives, I do not think that a marriage of 2 varied religions can work.

If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?

First up, I can't be in that scenario. But if I am to answer the question the way I would answer the question " what would you do if you were a female?" I would say, knowing who I am, that relationship would not last a month.

do you actually look down on people with a different religion?

I don't. I believe it is a foolish thing to do, looking down on people for any reason at all, not just for their religion. The facts may remain the same that you vary in your beliefs but that does not make them any less humans and they deserve respect in that regard.

Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God? (Like anything actually)

The answer is a resounding NOOO.
Our relationship would crack into a thousand pieces in its infancy.

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