Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #25 - "The Age Factor"

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Topic Of Discussion - "Age Bracket in a Relationship "

Hey guys, I think age is just a number, but many don't seem to agree. I've brought it for discussion, what do you think, especially in a relationship.

Can you date someone older than you as a man, Likewise, can you date someone younger than you as a lady?

Do you think of age as a priority in living life?

What age are for certain things in life (marriage, school e.tc)?

Hehehehe, one bonus question (A perfect illustration)

if the guy is still in the university and you are done with school, can you wait for the guy if he seems serious?..

Feel free to ask more questions and share your thoughts relating to the topic in the comment section.


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Can you date someone older than you as a man, Likewise, can you date someone younger than you as a lady?

I feel like relationships depend on maturity so yes I can; dated a few older people and let me say if someone doesn't have sense, nothing can change it.

Do you think of age as a priority in living life?

To a point, I won't lie that it isn't, I wouldn't date a teenager or my grandpa.

I still care about a reasonable age gap.

What age are for certain things in life (marriage, school e.tc)?

There is no age for certain things; I went to school at 15, graduated at 19.

I know people who got married at forty; life doesn't have a manual.

Hehehehe, one bonus question (A perfect illustration)

if the guy is still in the university and you are done with school, can you wait for the guy if he seems serious?..

If he has his plans right and I love him, why not, but I guess there will always be a fear that he will finish and leave after all the years of waiting.


I feel like there is no manual for love or relationships, what works for A might not work for B, we should all follow our hearts and when we get something worth it, these petty things shouldn't be a reason to throw it away.

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Wisdom 👏👏👏👏✨

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Will not kill you.... Shey you understand watin she write...

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Normally na 😂😂😂

Everything makes sense.

Na wetin I be wan write wey I to day write story 😂😂🤣

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Me no get sense.
I no fit write watin get sense...
Make wuna account watin de my head..
The thing comot like altar call

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No na

Mummy G.O na sensei

Divine wisdom

Wait make I go read your comment sef

💨

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You this woman, I go soon come find you.

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Hmm.. maturity, plans, goals and direction matters.

I guess there will always be a fear that he will finish and leave after all the years of waiting.

Yeah true. That's a likely possibility because you can't trust guys of nowadays. Especially with the kind of girls they have in schools now.

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maturity, plans, goals and direction matters.

Exactly, these are the most important to me and if I date a guy and he leaves, it would always be his loss.

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That grandpa for fit you ooo...
Just like that you go learn extra respect.
Like now you don't kneel to greet me as per sister-inlaw..

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Make I arrange grandpa for you na, I get one ned oh

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Hope he yellow and still have white teeth intact

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18 is missing but you go manage and cream go make am yellow.

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feel like relationships depend on maturity so yes I can; dated a few older people and let me say if someone doesn't have sense, nothing can change it.

Hahahaha this cracked me up sha, but that's the Bitter truth

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From the bottom, THERES NO AGE TO ANYTHING IN LIFE. I think everybody knows that. Putting an unrealistic target on certain stages in life can put unnecessary pressure on the individual and make them fuxk up. It's okay to have a plan, not okay to have a deadline. Two VERY DIFFERENT THINGs. VERY DIFFERENT.

As much as everyone would say age is not a priority, it should be important. Don't go marrying someone insanely younger than you or vice versa. There is always a gray area Sha when the marriage works out but honestly, it's not a great idea in my opinion.

In the end, age is truly just a number. It doesn't determine anything, literally. Experiences are what makes us, not our age. So whether you choose to be with Methuselah or some fucking kid, the age doesn't matter, a whole of other factors play a very crucial role in the success of the relationship.

Eehn, what do I know about relationships 😂😂. I've only been in one, and it don't seem like another would be happening anytime soon.

Just find and marry your best friend Sha 😅

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Everyone says they married their best friend anyway .

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Everyone day lie bro 😂😂😂😂😂

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How u know??

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It's how it is. Everyone likes to portray some superficial non-existent happiness in their marriage when it's all for the gram

😅

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It is not , because you have witness or heard of pretend marriages online doesn't mean that everyone's marriage is a wreck o.

Omo marriage sweet when u are married to the right person, there will be challenges and issues even friend normally dey quarrel, it doesn't make them less happy.

So not everyone portray superficial happiness , some people ARE GENUINELY HAPPY.. biko ahhh

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Fairs

It was a bit of a satire oh, my statement. I couldn't possibly generalize my statement that every marriage is a wreck.

I'm not a Grinch. I like seeing people been happy, makes me happy.

But I get, and respect your point.

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In this fake life, every marriage is perfect and a role model until divorce hits.

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Exactly.

I never take social media love seriously Sha.

I've seen too many of how they eventually come out about abuse. Omo

Social media is deceptive

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Exactly, no one can teach me about marriage and I can't like mine based in someone else experience or guideline...

I just de pity people wey they read to many marriage counselling books...

Try applying it and see you you will fail.

Some are good and will enrich your understand but... Our experiences in marriage can never be thesame just like our faces.

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True

This wisdom you are spitting, I know deep down flesh and blood did not reveal this to you 😅

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I don marry for my before life, na him make.
Experience don set

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Big lie, best friend ni, best friend ke

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Na wetin dey trend now oo...me sef dey find female bestie like this sef🤣🤣

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I feel having deadline is important to one's growth in life. It's better if the deadline is a personal one.

Because goAls without a deadline would likely die from procrastination.

Eehn, what do I know about relationships 😂😂. I've only been in one, and it don't seem like another would be happening anytime soon.

I think we have a lot more things in common.

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Well you're right about the deadline thing.

During my uni days I only get serious when it's a day to go, so that makes sense.

I think we have a lot more things in common.

You wey be lord of the girls 🤣

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You wey be lord of the girls 🤣

Lol. The same guy that you call lord of the girls has not been in a relationship since 2018. 😅😂😅😂

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Na you choose to not be now, no be say them no plenty.

Two very different thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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    'Because goAls without a deadline would likely die from procrastination"

I have learnt 💥

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So you feel like there should be a deadline in marriage?

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Yeah it is a personal thing. Mostly for a guy. In my head, I have plans for the year I want to get married and I am working towards it to be personally ready before it gets to that time.

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And you haven't told me; the bride, nawa oh

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Even me, I don't know the bride. I am just working on myself mostly in building skills and finance.

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I am the bride uncle, get in the program 😆

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That deadline thing is too much pressure abeg. I've seen people that marry wrong because they felt they were too old and past the deadline they gave themselves. Marriage still scatter. It's just better to follow your heart and not compromise on that.

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Yeah creating goals and working towards them are important.

But i think with that plan you need to till have someone in mind?
What if you reach that age, then you start looking for the wife??

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Just find and marry your best friend Sha

This is very important oo
I have tasted and see and beleived. It has a way of curtailing some unnecessary misunderstanding in marriage .

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My sisters no marriage is perfect oo. We all working towards perfection.
For me, age matters a lot. If you as a lady marries an older man of maybe 10 years difference, that's still time but for a guy to marry a woman who is older, mmba nu. That one di too much

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Yes,I can marry someone older than me but with a reasonable age difference.

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Guys like us that have two female best friends. What do we do oh?

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See you; men are scum generation.

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Lol.. what's bad in having two female best friends. These girls have been with me since childhood oh. They are childhood friends as well.

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Omo my boyfriend no carry bestie bestie near me oh 😆 I know females, I no gree.

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That's why there needs to be boundaries. I am close to them but they know I have my boundaries. That's why I don't think I can marry anyone of them.

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Omo, boundaries only work when temptation hasn't come in play.

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Lol true. 😅😂

It all depends on how one can resist the urge to temptation then. It is best to run (avoid) away from scenarios that put one into it.

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You are not ready for any form of contest or drama🤣🤣

New to I am jealous, my good person no reach that end🤩

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You can't have 2 best sha... its good , better, best...

One is a good friend and the other a best friend

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Lol... Yeah I know that I can not be very close to both in the same way. But they both have the titles.

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Lol...just get ready to separate fights when both of them get to know that they are contesting for one handsome guy🤣. Of course, jealousy will come in, trust my gender🤩

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Lol.. they are not contesting anything oh. Biko 😅😂...

I did not even take the level to that point. And they know each other.

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😂😂😂😂 this cracked me up
This question always comes up in relationship program??
You can't love two persons at same time, one love must be greater check yourself
Whereas you can't marry the both

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Rightly said...

What can I do now that my best friend has ran away.

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He will come back

No fear.

I go put am for prayer 🙏

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That's why you will marry me bah because I am your best friend, you are welcome my love.

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the song playing in my head rn 😌

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Go away 😆 song way I no get, send it to me oh, lemme listen so we will rest.

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@stevenson7 you don see your wife already na

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Isn't God wonderful 😊

A whole khaleesi

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Na complete package God give you oh. @khaleesii weds @stevenson7

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😆 you know the matter; complete indeed but to marry me cost oh, last child.

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Just find and marry your best friend Sha 😅

Make bestfriend sha go hustle oo😂😂

I hear girls marry who's this ready

All your writeup makes sense sha

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When I think of age, I remember that fool at 40 sentence.

Age is just a number, the only thing that matters is maturity and how responsible a guy is.

I would rather be with a younger person who is very well understanding than an older one who will feel like my father because he is older than me 😂

Age for certain things.

Well this used to exist in the past, I had my plans for life and things I wanted to achieve at certain age.
Maybe graduate from university @20 and all that but

It all doesn't matter anymore, life happened to us, Nigeria decided some of our fate. No matter how hard you push, you can't achieve some goals at those certain times you have set, stop killing yourself.
I have put in my best but some things are just out there to frustrate me, friends, frenemy, familienemy, Countrenemy and things I never imagined can stand as a hindrance, including African dark magic and juju 😂😂😂😁😁😁😀😀

Eweeeee, the list plenty.

And if you have become frustrated concerning this.

Please have a rethink, show yourself some love and take it easy.

Qui cera cera.

Be patient, let it happen when it will... The right time for something might just not be the time you have set for it to happen.

Every time is right
But not everything right can happen all the time.

This is good enough for me.
🍟🌮🌭

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Good response here. I fell in love with some lines but concerning the fate that befall us, I would rather you go for what you want, waiting may deprive you.

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Sure.. Chose what you want, set deadlines, do your best but don't kill yourself if it doesn't happen...

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That's how to roll. Don't kill yourself over nothing. One step at a time will do.

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This is just perfectly said sis

However, we should also work hard leaving no stone unturned .

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Wisdom 👏

I particularly like the "life happens" part. It's brilliant, albeit I don't believe in the "qui cera cera" school of thought but I get it 😌

Wisdom 👏

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an older one who will feel like my father because he is older than me 😂

The man must be really old to feel like a father...

10-15 years age gap is not bad at all... I don't think these gap are father figures yet😂

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Its only in africa u will hear a man boasting of his age....
Abeg who age epp....
If the man think say him old why he no marry old woman...

Age gap is not the issue when a man brags about his age
But its the culture plus pride that he has

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Your father's age go fit you sha, e go give you small sense.

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I would rather be with a younger person who is very well understanding than an older one who will feel like my father because he is older than me 😂

🤣🤣come to think of it, some young men understand this marriage with a tight mentality more than an old man

It all boils down to personality and reasoning.

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Let me answer this first before i dive into this main talk because its relates personally to me anyways the bonus question

if the guy is still in the university and you are done with school, can you wait for the guy if he seems serious?..

It depends, first on maturity and responsibility level of the guy in question i am suppose to wait for...

And its also depends on the meaning of wait, wait for marriage or wait to continue a relationship

If it is to continue a relationship definitely yes, there is no harm in waiting expecially if it was a good relationship from the start and both hearts are knitted into each other.

But for marriage , you go wait tire, because no fresh out of school guy will tell me he is ready to settle down, no job, no financial stabilty.

There is one thing we should understand, marriage is not all about love.. love inside marriage is like 20% so if love is the reason you want to wait and marry this particular school guy then .. its the ladies cup of tea but as for me I MOVE...

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I like your response on the issue of waiting. Ladies don't have much patience to spend around waiting for too long.
If marriage is in the oven, then the waiting coils be worth it.

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😆 there are guys in my university that got married immediately after school oh; I think it's a "to each it's own" kind of thing.

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They much have money and their life planned for them. Someone without a plan or knowledge on what to do after school who has not figured out how life is cannot just jump into a relationship like that.

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They didn't have plenty money oh, but they were willing to plan things with their babes.

Some struggled even but now them dey ball.

It depends on your partner and how y'all are willing to plan.

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Hmm true.. you need a very understanding partner. But I fear thing would be harder if you marry when you haven't made everything settled.

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In life, we will always want more and some might be unlucky that when you are ready to settle, you wouldn't find the person that is right for you.

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Some men hv a solid set-out plan while still in school.
Those kind of men can easily blow financially almost immediately when they are out of school. Hence these category of men can jump in and out of relationships.

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I want to believe they had some sort of financial backings and plans set already

Well to each its own like you rightly said

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They probably might have but we saw them struggle a lot, clearly struggling but they said they wanted each other and it was enough.

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Awwwwwww

We are nothing but pencils in the hands of the creator

I wish them well

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😆 as in ehn, but that's why I say to each their own.

I have seen 50 years old man who has mad money and refuses to marry because he wants more.

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Oliver twist....

He obviously won’t be able to keep one woman, wanting more won’t stop with the money... its even better he is single

Marriage is not for evetybody

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Nigerians don't know that marriage isn't for everybody oh, they will pressure you till you enter gutter.

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Same here! Guys were just getting married and it's not like they had plenty money. It was just the right time for them I guess

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Like ehn, when a guy wants you, they will do whatever they can to wife you oh; like they said, most know in weeks of meeting you.

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I have seen someone thay even got married in school i mean a guy

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To add to what you said, love is good oo but marriage without money inside will gradually reduce that love and then persistent disputes. So before any marriage, securing a job, is very important, it's that money that will maintain the marriage no matter how we pretend.

For instance, I request for pampers money and my husband says no money, milk, clothing, name it, food...manage this 3k, men I go vex in bitterness and the love will be on search mood🤩

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Yes mummy
It's better i cry in Dubai
😂😂😂
But truth, i see a guy talk about marriage with nothing to show forth, it anger me
Guy hustle!!!

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Hahaha
This babe dey vex

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Lol, no be say i like money sha but let me see your effort whereas i will support

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I agree with you...no room for pretense

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Why will i
Na me go suffer for the marriage

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But there are students guys i have seen get married
Some guys in school just want fo fufill all righteousness of having certificate but they are capable of taking care of wife and children even more than those people that have graduated.

You sure the guy have a good business, but till in School, why won't i marry him??

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Age In Dating

As an African man, age is very important in what we do, our culture inclusive. And a man without a culture is a man without a foundation.
It is un-African to get involved in a romantic relationship with someone older than you.
Have you ever wondered why we have the age-grade system in nearly all the ethnic groups we have in Nigeria? It is simply because age is a very important criteria you cannot buy in the market.

Age As A Priority In Living Life

Like I said, age is to be considered while living life. At different age, we have the medical laws by which we must live on so as to live healthily.
As such, to live a comfortable life, age is to be greatly considered.

Age For Things In Life

It would be abnormal for an adult to begin to learn what he ought to have learned during his early years. When a child is born, their is age for crawling, teething, walking etc
Constitutionally, a child (0-18) should not be involved in romantic relationship or live alone no matter the circumstances.
If children within the age bracket mention above gets involved in a sexual relationship it is referred to as child marriage or statutory rape.
If a woman must give birth to children, she must marry before menopause sets in....

Marrying An Undergraduate Guy

I won't advice a lady to marry an undergraduate. Marriage is for those who have independence financially. It is far beyond what you are from the outside if you are not married.
A responsible man should take the lead and must not utterly depend on the wife to provide the basic things of life, though there maybe exemption.

Considering the nature of women, one must not thread on dangerous grounds on the platter that they have fallen in love. I will rather we fall in love with our eyes opened.

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There is no manual for anything and being African isn't a solution for any thing.

We use Africa hide rubbish and isn't it in the same Africa that people get married to 13 years olds?

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Underage is not African.
Some of these things we say, we can't practice them, maybe we just use them to console those who are in it..

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Underage is African; make your research about the countries who do this and you'd be shocked.

Even your Nigeria has it in sharia law.

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I want to talk about the undergraduate thing o...
I know of an uncle who had 3kids with his wife and was working and schooling at same time....
Being an undergraduate does not mean u aint financially independent

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Yeah. That's why I started that clearly. If you must marry an undergraduate, he must be financially capable to take care of the family.

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Nice one bro
Cos girls of nowadays no get ti e to suffer from the scratch
They want to scratch from the plenty 😁 😀 😃

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Na so ooo. Them no want Surulere, an where the thing don done them dey like.

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Marriage is for those who have independence financially. It is far beyond what you are from the outside if you are not married.

Experience is the best teacher

When reality surfaces, love will start going down drastically.

Money before marriage, full stop 🤷‍♀️

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Do you think of age as a priority in living life?

See eh there is one thing i live by, i never see anyone or judge anyone by their age, not even myself.....alot of people have assumed my age so much that i just concur to what they say because age really does not matter.

The few areas that age counts could be jobs, nysc(30 years max) ,and in the hospital to help with the health.

Marriage , friendship, relationship.. age doesn’t matter. What matters is level of maturity.

I know a really young couple 25 and 21 ...newly wed if you have a conversation with them for just a few minutes you would be amazed at the type of knowledge that comes out from Their mouth.so young yet so rich in wisdom.

I know a couple 23 and 45... shocking but i have stayed around this couple and the way they love themselves and God is admirable that i cannot even care so much about the age gap, it is easily forgettable and not noticeable if you are not told.

In age matter and relationship.. one man’s meat is another man’s poison..

But from my personal experience age really doesn’t matter.

i should write a post on my personal experience of being in an age-gap marriage. Thanks for the inspiration BTW It has been blissful

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This is beautifully said...
I like been seeing young couple who relate well too.
If the age gap isn't far its uaually blissful.

Maturity matters but make the age gap too no far, they won't relate in thesame level.

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23 and 45..wawu. I know that age difference works when they're both older, probably people that haven't married before or divorcee or widow(er). But a young 23 year old? That's a lot.

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They say it's love🥰..but they look so cute together you can hardly tell

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Omo 23 and 45 scares me for a lot of reasons; first is how long has he known her because there is a lot of grooming going on these days.

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I think she met him when she was about 20...if I remember their wedding speech clearly☺️

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Well to each their own 😆 I just have too many questions

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I like how diverse the answers are already 😌

Sam, day post this thing early next time 😏

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The society we are in today have placed to much emphasis on the Age factor and this has misled lots of people even leading to depression and other unimaginable things. The real truth is not everybody will achieve certain things at the so called "society set age" because we all have different timing and purpose to fulfil.

Age is not a big deal. So no pressure whatsoever

Back to the questions:

Can you date someone older than you as a man, Likewise, can you date someone younger than you as a lady?

Well, my Ex is 2 years older than me and we dated for almost 2 years with no issues regarding the Age factor. It boils down to maturity, understanding of purpose, respect for each other among others.

Maturity is not by Age.

Do you think of age as a priority in living life?

What age are for certain things in life (marriage, school e.tc)?

So, for both questions...

Hmmmm it is depending on situations. For instance, when it comes to achieving goals and one's desire, age should not be a priority because I believe that the time anyone choose to sit up and chase realistic goals, it is still achievable.
We have heard stories of old people going back to school and taking major u-turns in life.

Though when it comes to certain things life itself has placed age limits on, age at this point can become a priority but not a burden to cause worry.
For example, a woman who wants to give birth to her own children definitely knows she must have them before her menopause age. She can't wake up at age 90 hoping to have a child unless she is Sarah.

if the guy is still in the university and you are done with school, can you wait for the guy if he seems serious?..

Lol😂😂 why not? If you are truly sure he is serious and that's who you want. I don't see a big deal here.
While waiting you can get busy upgrading yourself and building your future together by making plans. Don't fold your arms, do something to grow and explore too.

Chai...make una no vex for me I Don type one post for here🤣🤣 make I go drink milk for energy.

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Awww Ex... i wonder why it ended🥺

I don’t think 1-5 years gap on both sides matter or is even spoken of, its age gap that blows trumpet or alarm that people carry on their head...

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Some beautiful things are sometimes not meant to last long I guess...but make I no lie her wahala plenty😂😂

Abi oo...age is not written on the head so I don't even understand the fuss about it.

I know of a couple (my high school classmate's parent) that the wife is 10 years older than her husband and they are still happily married with grown up kids... When their son told me ehn, I fess weak but it made me understand clearly that the Age thing we carry for head doesn't really count at the end.

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Bro...
Its hard for a naija babe to date u when u still dey school ooo...
Remember that ladies are like flowers and them get expiry date

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Lol...its the flowers for me

There are Naija babes who will wait and even enjoy the waiting period if you are worth it.

How many years person go use finish school?

The truth is we put unnecessary pressure on ourselves for no reason. As for me ehn, I no send oo and I just dey one corner dey sip my alcohol and enjoy my timing with no stress and pressure.

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My brother we gat get d bag o
Its necessary

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Crazy part is that you might date someone older than you with 10 years and they will give you hell, just imagine your own situation; some girls will never date a younger guy.

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Exactly...Age in no way says the man or the woman is matured enough to even handle situations.

Every thing na mindset my dear. If you want it to work, it will.

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Indeed oh, it's all the mind, people who use age aren't ready.

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How much i love my country naija 😃 😀 😄
As in ehn
Once there is money relationship don set...

As in
Lets see it like this with a scenario...

A friend of mine got married last year despite he is my age oh, although i never too old 😁
Me sha know say dem never born me well cause pepper never rest a d i never see road finish...
The wedding was a banger tbh...

Lets be plain here
What do u even think makes a man ready????
As we all know location matters, as far as oyinbo dey concerned o if pikin don reach 18 then the coconut don mature meaning say u fit do things as u want...
But for naija, my brother u beter calm down think twice and look front before u fall jabirata...

I can date a woman older than me if she get bar oooo...

You see the thing about age ehn being a thing of life... i go say make everybody just gettat cause every man get him own race to run....

Me i sha like money and all of us self like am 👍 👌
But the fact that money can't buy valuez matters...
Values must be a thing that muzt be present not withstanding the age...

I don talk my own oooooooooooooooo

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Funny enough
You just spoke the truth o

Financial stability is key o.... i’ll see some that has not finish buying subscriptions on his phone come and propose to be married.. ERROR...

Gone are the days of lets stuggle together o not in this economy

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What's your definition of financial stability?

What about the part of building together?

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As long as you are financially and emotionally ready, then you can get married.

Age doesn't matter in most cases unless it concerns pedophilia.

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So it means i can marry a mummy that has money abi

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If you are happy with a grandma, marry am, who go live with you for house?

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If she die then i go inherit property...
Marry anoda bae
The money goes round

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Na this one sweet pass... Na sugar mummy I dey find like this!

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U go just dey soft anyhow
Girls no go fit dey bullshit u nw

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Sugar mummy advert? Looks like you want one lol

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Date an older woman if she has bar?

I don't get thus part...why the money factor?

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Hello, Naija peeps, how una dey?

Can you marry someone older than you as a man, Likewise, can you date someone younger than you as a lady?

Oh yes as a lady I can, depending on how mature the guy is in terms of marriage and his perspective too about marriage. This is because some men even with an older age behave and think like a child, so that man has to be reasonable enough for my YES,!

Do you think of age as a priority in living life?

To a large extent, I don't think so, however, there is an age difference I can tolerate in marriage so that my children will not have to enjoy life with their Daddy at old age.

What age are for certain things in life (marriage, school e.tc)?

Life has no procedure. There is no specific age to either marriage or school, however, a teenager should not be talking about marriage, likewise an old man. It's advisable to attend school on time or engage in any business of your choice on time, make money while you can at your younger age so you can have your marriage at a reasonable age.

Hehehehe, one bonus question (A perfect illustration)

if the guy is still in the university and you are done with school, can you wait for the guy if he seems serious?..

Well, depending on the level of love we have for each other, his plans for the future even as an under G., and more importantly, if I trust him enough that he wouldn't serve me breakfast, in the long run, 🤩, then my answer is yes, I will.

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😆 most of them will likely serve you breakfast especially if you aren't in school with him, sad reality.

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Sad reality oo🤩🤩
You need to define your relationship to see where the train heading to 🤣

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They can lie oh, this dating market lies plenty.

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When you girls would no gree for the good boys and only prefer dating the bag boys. How lie no go plenty?

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That's not true, I try to only date "good guys" but the fact is you never know someone's heart or who is pretending.

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Hmm.. defining your relationship is very important!

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Smiles... Saying it as if all guys are bad or like this. Nawa oh

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Not all guys are bad, obviously.

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yeah, I am an example to this statement...

not all guys are bad, obviously.

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Well to me, age is not really a barrier, I have seen series of family which the husband will be the same age with the wife or just some months when you guys have that real feeling and you don't care about the age barriers then you are good to go. But the Koko also is money..

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Happy weekend, so good to be here

Can you date someone older than you as a man, Likewise, can you date someone younger than you as a lady?

Omo strong question indeed, sincerely speaking I don't think i can oo..lol

Do you think of age as a priority in living life?

It's good to start living a good life at an early age, but it's also bad to rush life just because you feel you are getting old.
To relationship aspect, i think age really Matter to me, at least the guy should be older with 1 year, but then not more than 5 years😂, i wouldn't want to marry my father's age mate biko

What age are for certain things in life (marriage, school e.tc)?

For me, except circumstances beyond is like late admission, Asuu strike
At least by 16 ot 17 someone should be out of secondary school, 22 years one should be done with University and by 25years a girl should be married.

Then for guy at least 28-32 years he should be married
Just saying from my side of view tho😜

if the guy is still in the university and you are done with school, can you wait for the guy if he seems serious?..

Sure, if he is serious and at have plans for himself
I have even seen student (boy)get married as far as you can Carter for a family why waste time getting married

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