Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #6 - Money & Relationships

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"One of the marvelous things about community is that it enables us to welcome and help people in a way we couldn’t as individuals.."
•Jean Vanier


Is it only me that feels January is moving so fast? Well it's another Friday.


We Thank God it's Friday! How are you? I hope you slept well?
I woke up but I'm still very much sleepy.

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Yes! Last week was cool, I mean, it was interesting, we did have a chat in two different years right?. If you don't understand, feel free to back track it here Hive-Naija Engagement #5

Some Weeks ago, I thought,I shared and I asked "Why don't we catch cruise every Weekend?"

And you all said...

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Well,we won't be the first as there are some weekend engagements trends already on Hive! But this would be THE NIGERIAN VERSION!



So Shall We ?

I will drop a topic every friday(Today's topic is below), share your thoughts on the matter,reply someone else opinion, interrogate the opinion if you like.keep the discussion on. If you don't have anything to say about the topic. Just write a primary school composition about yourself(We go manage am).

There are no rules, hahahaha please banter as you like,speak any language (Igbo,yoruba, pidgin,efik), anything at least someone else can understand.

Please don't take it to the extreme abeg

This week's engagement starts Immediately you see this post and ends on Sunday 11:59pm.


Prizes for this week

Thanks to the @starstrings01 & @crossculture, they helped curate some comments again last week!

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Prizes are distributed to the winners after considering their interactions and also their contributions to the topic. This week prizes ;


1st prize - 2.5 HBD + A very good upvote in a selected post of yours in the week! + 100 Ecency points

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Topic Of Discussion - Money & Relationship

Or should i have written money and dating?... well money plays a big role in our relationships today. Some kind of effect that can be so complicated.

Anyway, here are some questions I'm so itchy to get answers.

Who should pay on the first date?

Who Pays The Bills afterwards?

Should a woman earn more than her husband?

As a man, would you feel hurt, if you can't provide as much as your partner can?

Do you think a Nigerian lady would date a guy below her net worth?

Feel free to add more questions below to the discussion.


Let the discussion begin....

Oh wait!

The hive naija community is having a meeting via telegram on Sunday by 6pm. Please do well to join in 😀

Back to our discussion,

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You gave me permission to tag you but you can always tell me to stop anytime!

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😂 Hi Sam, I also thought this month is running really fast.

Now to our week's question, I'm gonna answer all the questions in the most shortest way I can and I can't wait to read from others... I'm excited, this is a very crucial topic to discuss on.

Who should pay on the first date?

Since na Nigeria we dey, I go say na the guy go pay first o 😌 but if I'm the one on a date with someone, I would like to experience that aspect of us paying together 😊

Who Pays The Bills afterwards?

Any of the two on the date together but it shouldn't seem like the guy is leaving everything for the lady, just let her pay some and the guy pay for most of it.

Should a woman earn more than her husband?

If the woman is lucky to earn more than the man, there's nothing wrong with that unless the woman brings in her pride in it which would not be good for the man. Because men have an ego they try to protect and women are fond of putting their ego out to shame. I for one is working on myself to not let pride be a part of me in my relationship with my man in the future, even if I earn more than him.

As a man, would you feel hurt, if you can't provide as much as your partner can?

For sure, it must surely hurt but there are women who wouldn't make him feel that hurt for long or make it less worse for him until he gets back on his feet to provide.

Do you think a Nigerian lady would date a guy below her net worth?

I won't answer for other ladies but I will date a guy even if he is below my net worth... The most important thing in such situation is we love each other and we have money to cater for ourselves and family.

Oya oooo
@iskafan @doziekash @chincoculbert @deraaa I want to specially hear what you guys have to say about these questions... I like aproko wella so nor even bother call me aproko 😝🤣😂

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Okay I like the point you are seeing this from and also to the fact you spoke for yourself and not all
Make sense
I go like see others point of view

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Yes o
I dey wait for their own o
Where is yours 🙄

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This one is an entire post on it's own. All the answers you gave are valid sha so I'll allow it.

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Thank you... Oya where are your answers 🙄

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You've said everything I want to say.

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😂 Make ona come o
I be nor plan to help anybody answer he question o

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E sey... I'll allow it

Waiting for yours...

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If I don't have what to say nko?

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Read the rules lol.

You can write a primary school composition about your

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Paying together ke 😆 madam how far you

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Me I don't think most girls will want to be paying together. After tasting sweet thing at first

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😂 Just lemme alone o
Is e your money? Is e nor my money? But it's on rare cases sha, not that I would like to pay all the time

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Why are you people paying together abeg, one person should pay na.

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😂 It can happen na
But sometimes he will pay alone or I pay alone... You know those situations where the guy doesn't have enough to pay at that moment 🙄 just saying though

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Hmm. Dating someone below net worth. This is getting interesting

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😂 Yeah it sure is, it's not a bad thing at all... To me sha

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Ok o. But won't you voice out when it get to some stage

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Omo @merit.ahama answered the question exactly how I would answer it.

But about this topic eh, I do not understand why our Nigeria ladies make it a big factor, making the innocent boy/man involved enter street and do the most just to impress the lady. Money is essential but if little things like he has to pay the bills and earn higher becomes priority then there is a problem.

What happened to growing rich together, starting from the scratch together and supporting each other to the top?

Too much pressure in this generation for money and it is crazy.

Most ladies do not even care where the money is coming from sha they want the sweetest things of life... Really sad o

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That's why there are lot of cases of kidnapping and the rest because most don't care how the guy gets the money but just want to enjoy sweet things which they think it's their spec

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Oh girl! You too much! Most girls won't even thinking about all this... They just want to belong by charging their partners for whatever they need.

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What happened to growing rich together, starting from the scratch together and supporting each other to the top?

Nothing happened to it my dear. There are people who did this and are stronger than ever. I am totally for this idea but I have come to realize that some guys not all are douchebags.

They date a girl when they have nothing, and as soon as they become soft, they believe they can afford certain kinds of girls and they indulge their fantasies because they have the money.

So it really goes both ways.

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This is true, this happens everywhere. I can't even find an explanation for it or a solution.. could that be a good reason to follow a rich guy?

!PIZZA

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Not necessarily.
I think some people would rather have a broken heart with money as opposed to a broken heart with a broke wallet.

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Yes, can you blame them? Just think of a beautiful girl suffering? How unfair is it. Then, a man with comes ready to exploit that weakness. It would be really hard for them not to fall.

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It's sad honestly. It's the sort of society we find ourselves these days. Where love has no meaning. It's all about money & cruise now.
No real vision of support & growing together.

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It's societal conditioning and men are also enablers of this entitlement.

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Because men have an ego they try to protect and women are fond of putting their ego out to shame.

The thing is every human has an ego my dear. The ability to control it is where the power lies. I once dated someone who I earned more than, each time I said something that had to do with money, he flared up. Now, I wasn't even asking for him to use his money as I had mine and was always willing to come through for him but Baba was just insecure and his ego kept getting in the way.

Truth is, the guy has to be secure in himself first, if not, anything you do would be an insult because in his head you have money more than he does.

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Wahala o
I haven't really been in such situation before though so I won't say much but I get your point... Controlling one's ego is what's important

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If the woman is lucky to earn more than the man, there's nothing wrong with that unless the woman brings in her pride in it which would not be good for the man. Because men have an ego they try to protect and women are fond of putting their ego out to shame. I for one is working on myself to not let pride be a part of me in my relationship with my man in the future, even if I earn more than him.

Well, after reading this, I don conclude say you over get sense. It's the wisest answer I've seen so far. Guys have pride and women sometimes can easily hurt that pride. So it's all a thing of understanding each other and doing things that'll make y'all be happy.

Well so far, it seems like the girls are the only ones so eager to answer the questions. Me I just dey dey observe...lol aproko no go ki you ma 😂😂😂

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😂 My funny @chincoculbert is finally here, so na now you know say I get sense ba 🙄😑

I like aproko, I nor say make you remind me... Drop your own soon abeg

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Lol, I been dey here since but mehn I was just observing o..😂😂, I been know say you get sense, now I confirm say e dey wellah.

😂😂 Sorry no vex abeg

I'm going to..

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😂 Funny, you're so funny... Observe well but don't copy and paste my own answers sha 🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️

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Since na Nigeria we dey, I go say na the guy go pay first o 😌

I swear!! That's the way o. It's our culture

but it shouldn't seem like the guy is leaving everything for the lady, just let her pay some and the guy pay for most of it

I agree, but I also think if the girl decides she want to take the guy outing,she can handle the bills. Not everytime for sure though.

unless the woman brings in her pride in it which would not be good for the man

This is the major issue sha. Alot of women tend to do that. They're mouth no get control sometimes, them fit get small argument one dey now, the next thing she done dey talk "I'm the one catering for the family, what do you do sef.

won't answer for other ladies but I will date a guy even if he is below my net worth... The most important thing in such situation is we love each other and we have money to cater for ourselves and family.

Awwnn ❤

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Our culture says the guy should be in charge of payment but there's really nothing wrong with the girl handling the bills sometimes.

I've seen a lot of that scenario where the girl let's pride get into her head because she caters for the house more... 😒 So sad

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Our culture says the guy should be in charge of payment but there's really nothing wrong with the girl handling the bills sometimes.

I'm down with her paying sometimes but definitely not on the first date.

I've seen a lot of that scenario where the girl let's pride get into her head because she caters for the house more... 😒 So sad

Yeah it is.

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I think whoever asks the other out should pay on the first date.

Afterwards, anybody can pay, sometimes you go Dutch, other times it falls on one person.

It doesn't matter who earns more as long as money is earned.

Nigerian women date guys that earn less, it's just that most times the guys are usually mad and feel insecure.

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it's just that most times the guys are usually mad and feel insecure

Na this part burst my head😂😂

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You've answer well and I can totally understand what you mean by guys feeling insecure and mad when their partner is above their net worth

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I say they're mad because often times you hear stories of men wanting their wives to quit their well paying job. Is that not madness?

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True though
Na kuku pride dey cause make them dey ask the wife to quit her job

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That's actually absurd. Quit job because of insecurity. Doesn't make any sense

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Exactly my point.
That totally wrong

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Complete madness joor
I hope I don't cross paths with such 😏

There are relationships that even wax strong in such situations too

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Is that not madness?

Certainly. I know a guy who still thinks like this in 2022. Sad stuff.

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Asin ehn, some Nigerian men are so insecure, I had one brother tell me I was too independent, like abeg since when is that a problem?

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😂 That your brother funny o
Isn't he supposed to be happy about it?

Abeg my dear, keep being an independent lady... It drive a lot of circumstances from you

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Omo they like woman that they can be in charge of, me I can't plus I too stubborn

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Abeg keep it up... I stubborn too and they have tire for me 😝 I'm not stopping, I own my life 😏

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😆 funny enough most guys I have met have stuck around because of my stubbornness, the ones I am nice to no get sense, why are men like that

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😂 You know these things, same with me o
I wonder why they are like that too but it's better that way because I don't know how to stop being stubborn 😌

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I was too independent, like abeg since when is that a problem?

He means you are too independent for his BS 😂😅
If he moves mad, you can be on the next flight outta the relationship 😂

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He was already moving mad oh even before so he was looking for a foot mat to move mad on top 😆

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Independence to him means he can't control you na 😄

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That's why I am happy I didn't waste my time.

Good riddance to his bad rubbish.

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Yeah. Men tend to be insecure because alot of times when women perceive to be in power they tend to become proud & most annoying rude.

Not all women for sure, but due to the majority cases like that through the years, men's self defense mechanism has been triggered

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Oh please, men like being in control, and when someone they feel is a weaker vessel speaks their mind or challenges their authority they automatically relate it to pride or being rude.

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Of course men are meant to be in control 😂

But that's not the point though. The point is women's pattern of expressing themselves can be rude & aggressive which is totally unnecessary & can be related to pride.

The fact that she's doing well doesn't gives her the right to be impolite

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Men are meant to be in control of who please?

Most times it isn't anyone being impolite, it is the fact that I'll are used to women taking rubbish.

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I hear mad 😂😂😂...that one weak me o. But I agree with you, if you're the one doing the asking you should pay on the first date then other times una fit share am

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I dey my own, you say let's go on a date, you have to pay o

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😂😂 of course la, you no get money you dey ask person on a date

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Nigerian women date guys that earn less, it's just that most times the guys are usually mad and feel insecure.

My point exactly. The guy starts projecting his insecurity on you and makes it seem like you are the problem.

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Yeah I agree with that, but what if the first date arranged by the guy was cancelled because the girl couldn't make it.. then when she became free some other time, she just now wake up one morning and ask him, can we meet tomorrow?

Should the guy come with his card lol?

@merit.ahama , @peaq , @young-boss-karin what do you think?

Do women feel entitled to be catered for?

Because to be honest, I have never gone out if i don't have money. That's not to say I haven't been taken out by a lady oo. I have, However , I'm always equipped with small cash just incase..

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😂 He should go with his card o if he doesn't want any embarrassment 😝🤣

Every one wants to be catered for but some would over do it and some would want to balance it up so it's vice versa... Women should be catered for and men should be catered for too 😌

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Omo everybody should always go with their card. There's nothing wrong with trying to assist. Although I've noticed that sometimes men have ego crises in that sort of situation

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Women of course feel very entitled, it is not a new thing.

I have had several issues with girls about it.

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Everyone can feel entitled. Women feel more entitled because society makes it so and men enforce it for their benefit.

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This is very true though, men feel entitled to other things.

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Everyone can feel entitled. Women feel more entitled because society makes it so and men enforce it for their benefit.

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Should the guy come with his card lol?

Understanding is really key here. Whatever works for both parties, I guess. For me, who pays or doesn't pay is not such a big deal. The question for me is, are you worth my time? If I accept your invite then I think you are and if I find out after the date that you are not, I cut my losses and move on. So payment shouldn't be an issue.

Do women feel entitled to be catered for?

Some do, some don't. I was raised to always go out on dates with my own cash. I place orders I know I can pay for especially if things go south or the unexpected happens.

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Do women feel entitled to be catered for?

Yes! & that's very ok.
Women are meant to be catered for.

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Personally, I don't go out without money too. Whether I'm going with a guy or my girls. I don't trust anyone. In the scenario you mentioned, I think it makes more sense for the girl to ask when next the guy will be free rather than impose her own date. I mean it's simple courtesy. Cancelling is not wrong as long as you can agree on another arrangement that works for both of you.

I don't feel entitled to be catered for. Everyone, male and female can feel entitled at some point so it doesn't really have much to do with gender but much more to do with the kind of person.

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Nigerian women date guys that earn less, it's just that most times the guys are usually mad and feel insecure.

The attitude insecurities come as a result of the attitude the women display na

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Mad insecure and most times wish that the women should surrender their credit cards and finances under them.

She would do the work and they decide how she spends it

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I might get into trouble for my answer but let's go

Who should pay on the first date? I think whoever initiates the date and this is convenient for me because I never initiate dates 😆

Who Pays The Bills afterward? Everyone pays their bills as long as it is a relationship, not marriage, I wouldn't mind gifts and random aid but it isn't anyone's responsibility to cater for me at my big age, no one should feel entitled but when marriage comes to play it depends on each couple.

Should a woman earn more than her husband? Nope, if they want to pay her more, she should reject it and tell them to reduce it because she will be earning more than her husband, see how stupid that sounds.

I think it would be silly and a big red flag if there is a problem with who earns more in your relationship.

As a man, would you feel hurt, if you can't provide as much as your partner can?

Even as a woman I feel hurt when I can't spoil my man so I think it is pretty normal to feel hurt if you can't provide for someone you love.

Do you think a Nigerian lady would date a guy below her net worth?
With all the broke guys I have been dating (not a shade) I think this isn't a question for me 😆

Never dated anyone above my net worth so if there is anyone who is interested and above my net worth please apply and let me experience something different.

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Eiiiiiiii
@khaleesii it the last answer for me.
Hahahahaha okay I think I like where this Is going😂😂

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😆 do you want to apply?

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I should build that net worth well and then apply 😊

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Okay, good then
I'll be waiting, not for long sha 😆

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Abi I should apply ni

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How much is your net worth ni 😆 apply with it.

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$2,567,542. Are you in?

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😆 uhm I still need other attributes oh, money no be everything

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Nope, if they want to pay her more, she should reject it and tell them to reduce it because she will be earning more than her husband...

😂😂😂 You had me in the first half not gonna lie. How do people even have issues with who earns more.

Never dated anyone above my net worth so if there is anyone who is interested and above my net worth please apply and let me experience something different.

Oshee, Boss Lady.

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People just find stupid reasons to argue because how can net worth be an issue?

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Me like this if you are earning pass me, that's not suppose to be an issue if only we will support each other

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Azin, as long as we are supporting each other I have no problem.

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That's what most people doesn't understand now o.

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this is convenient for me because I never initiate dates 😆

🤣 This girl ehn... We dey together sha 😜

Your answer to the second question got me laughing really hard... What a silly stupidity 🤣 I will nor try it self

You're looking for something different abi, please write a post about it when it happens 😌

What's up na, how's the January going for you? ☺️

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Lemme go and ask Nigerian man on a date and they will yeye my life, I no do abeg, I no like disgrace 😆

When it happens I will definitely write on it, but first, tell your rich friends on hive.

Omo my January be as e dey oh, a little bit of gallops but we go dey alright, how is yours?

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They cannot yeye your life na 😅😅. I dey your back

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Abeg oh, your gender scares me

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I gat you already. No need to panic. Anybody that yeye you we will beat him up

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Them nor fit... Just let me and @iskafan know if any man try yeye your life... We go fight as squad 😝

My January dey go well, so many stories to tell about my new year already 😒

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😆 you people want to beat someone's son that I asked out, see wahala oh.

Also the same with my January oh, I can't wait for February.

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Can you fight😅😅😅. I will not talk o😅😅

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Nope, if they want to pay her more, she should reject it and tell them to reduce it because she will be earning more than her husband, see how stupid that sounds.

This one weak me o, how does that work abeg 😂😂.

Ómo no one would crucify you for your answer jare it's pretty much sensible.

Make I build house fes, after that if you're not taken I'll buy your company instead of applying...😂😂😂😂 Sounds ambiguous hehe

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😆 I don't even understand why who is earning would be an issue but on well.

Ayyoo, see plans, no wahala, make your boss moves.

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Truthfully, it shouldn't be an issue, but most times it always is.
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Ómo on God o..

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Eiiiiiiiiiiiiii
Omo×1000000
Another angle 😅make she no reject m o

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I think it would be silly and a big red flag if there is a problem with who earns more in your relationship.

No truer words. So apt!

Never dated anyone above my net worth so if there is anyone who is interested and above my net worth please apply and let me experience something different.

Oya ohhhh, let me start ringing all my big boy friends... You need to bam bam, relax and be taken care of ooooo?😊

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Eyoooo, call them oh, I trust you, babes, let me try the other side.

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With all the broke guys I have been dating (not a shade) I think this isn't a question for me 😆

Never dated anyone above my net worth so if there is anyone who is interested and above my net worth please apply and let me experience something different.

Dead! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

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Who should pay on the first date

Okay most first date is always the guys idea so practically the the bills should be on the guy , my point of view

Who pays the bills afterwards

Here it okay of any of the party to pay the bills o.you can't just be going out everytime and expect the bill should be on the guy alone have some dignity 🙃
So both parties can pay.

Should a woman earns more than her husband?
Omo to me I feel it not right ooo
Make una no forget say na my point of view o

As a man,would you feel hurt if you cannot provide as much as your
Partner

YES, even not providing all my needs for myself I'm hurt and now for both obviously YES

do you think a Nigeria lady will date a guy below her networth.

Well some can actually do that but 90% won't.
With the way the world is evolving 90% won't.

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I won't even answer you about the earning question, this is why women never tell men how much they earn.

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Eiiiii lol
Go ahead and answer I'm with you

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My point is the lady can earn than the man it just not right for a guy to allow it
So here is it every man should try as much as possible to earn than a lady.
My point of view

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Why does earning have to be gender-specific, who made these rules.

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I feel is the" not right "I put that is causing the confusion.
A woman can always earn than a guy
I just feel a man should try and always able to provide all that is needed.

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A better way to put it because like it or not in this days and age, a lot of women are earning pretty well and it would be silly for that to be an issue.

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But there are situations where the woman is a high-earner and no matter what the man does, he will never meet up the heights of the woman. Ofcourse this instance is vice versa.

So what will the man do then?

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Abi na SEBI na the guy initiate the date stuff so payment straight

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Well some can actually do that but 90% won't.
With the way the world is evolving 90% won't.

That percentage high gan o

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From the answer you gave in the third question, it's kind of obvious that you wouldn't like to date a woman whose net worth is above yours

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Lol baba say it's not right... Why is it not right??

Well some can actually do that but 90% won't.
With the way the world is evolving 90% won't.

No be small 😂😂 who no like better thing abeg

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For me I think ladies now won't want to go with guy below their networth even before seeing the guy, you will hear the girl saying the guy is not her spec just because of his net worth which is low. I hope that idea goes down

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Not every lady thinks like that.
There are babes making legit cool cash, doing well on their own, and are looking for guys that their head is correct at the least.

Spec could mean a purely physical, mental, spiritual, social, or even financial trait. It's not always financial.

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Hmm well said. Guys that their head is very correct🤔🤔

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Hi Everyone,
I always miss out on participating, so here goes.

Who should pay on the first date?

I personally don't mind going dutch especially if I agreed to the date invitation.

Who Pays The Bills afterward?

It's not a set-in-stone situation. Either of us can pay especially when there is a mutual understanding between my date and I.

Should a woman earn more than her husband?

Lol 😂😂... Earning money should not be gender-based. It honestly doesn't matter who earns more. The more the merrier for the family. The husband even gets to live longer as the one-sided family pressure and burden would reduce significantly and become a shared responsibility.

As a man, would you feel hurt, if you can't provide as much as your partner can?

Skip... I'm a lady...

Do you think a Nigerian lady would date a guy below her net worth?

I speak for myself.
Yes, I can and I have.
If there is mutual understanding, respect for each other, no insecurities on the guys part, and if he genuinely has realistic goals for his life and clearly works towards them.

Thank you😊

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Oh my sweet Peaq... You talk am well o
And I totally agree with all of you answers.

I wanna ask, are you still with the guy you have a higher net worth than and is there much difference to dating someone who has a higher net worth than you?

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I wanna ask, are you still with the guy you have a higher net worth than and is there much difference to dating someone who has a higher net worth than you?

No, my dear, we broke up for other reasons.

There is a difference on the guy's part especially if he is a giver. He takes the initiative to do more for you because he can afford to whereas the former might want to help or do some stuff but just can't.

On my part, once I love and care about you, whether you are my girl or my boyfriend, I will spoil you regardless of your net worth.

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You're right about the difference you gave, thanks

Please I want to be your girl 🥺
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Jokerrr....
😂😅😂

I'll be singing for you..

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😂 Please na
I want you to spoil me abeg 🥺

But the singing own is priceless sha 😊

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lol...
I'll spoil you soon by God's grace.

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I know y'all probably broke up for different reasons but there could still be some link you probably didn't notice.

I'm honestly of the opinion such relationships are quite hard to sustain especially in this part of the world.

The lady has to be mature but it's not just her, the guy has to not be insecure

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The lady has to be mature but it's not just her, the guy has to not be insecure

I totally agree. However, no matter how mature the woman is, if the guy doesn’t tackle his insecurities it would still affect the relationship.

Remember, it takes two to tango @wildthougts

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Exactly, earning isn't gender based.

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If I can do the work, why can't I earn the buck?

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Exactly what I told @ijohnsen why does money have to be gender-based? You will now see a lot of ladies lying about how much they earn because of issues like this.

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It's a crazy something ohhhh.
This is a deal-breaker for me in a relationship.
If my money or success threatens you, then I'm not interested.

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Abeg @samostically I wan suggest some people give you make you add then to your list for the engagement tags every Friday

@hopestylist @khingstan and @investor.abraham they are a few of the Nigerians I introduced to Hive recently

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I need their permission too. Hahahaha.

Thanks for the suggestions

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Oh really? I told two of them about it already before coming here but I'll just let the other know immediately

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Who should pay on the first date?

For me, the one that asked the other out should pay the bills.

Who Pays The Bills afterwards?

The one that wants to go out should pay for the bills, except the other person wants to be of help.

Should a woman earn more than her husband?

No, but it is not wrong if something like that happens, just that the woman should always remember to be submissive to her husband and also help her husband get better than herself in anyway she can.
That will even prove to her husband that she wants the best for him.

As a man, would you feel hurt, if you can't provide as much as your partner can?

He will, but he should not let that thought hunt him, instead he should look for a way to make hands meet.

Do you think a Nigerian lady would date a guy below her net worth?

Well, this is somehow tricky but, I go say yes for myself because I nor dey focus on today na tomorrow matter, if I know he has a goal that he is determined to accomplish, even if he's net Worth is below mine, I can date him.

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Help her husband get better 😆 prove to her husband that she wants the best for him?

I understand supporting your husband and partner but this is a bit funny to me.

@merit.ahama, @peaq what do you think

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I think I understand what @hopestylist is trying to highlight in terms of hooking up her husband with better offers that can also increase his income, which makes sense.

For me, I don't think it's about any partner being better than the other because they are a team. Both parties need to work together to support each other in growing financially regardless of who is man or woman in the relationship because her win is his win and vice versa. This right here is enough proof @khaleesii!

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I understand what she meant mehn but I hate the belief that women have to do so much to make their husband succeed or be better; we have to pray, push opportunities, etc and it is never the other way around most times.

Marriage is a partnership, not a place to prove to someone that I want the best for them, I will want the best but proving is crazy.

Also, I believe that getting better should be personal, I shouldn't have to make you get better, my mother did that and it didn't work out.

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One person can't do it alone. When there is joint effort that will catalyse the growth of the family 😉

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Exactly, marriage is a union but most things emotionally, spiritually and sacrifices are placed on the woman.

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I never desired marriage because of the way some older married ladies were advising me about it. It sounded like long-suffering and I no like stress like that.

It takes some unlearning to see that a woman's role in a supposed partnership is not always to prove herself.

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Exactly, I don't want to suffer and reduce myself just because I am married, marriages scare me so much.

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@wolfofnostreet So true...

Tales of people's marriages sometimes sound like horror...

It takes some unlearning to see that a woman's role in a supposed partnership is not always to prove herself.

The fact that we decided to even get married to each other is enough proof that we are both deserving of one another..

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The fact that we decided to even get married to each other is enough proof that we are both deserving of one another..

I know right!

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